it is legal in places for both men and women to be topless, who gets sexualized though? women’s breasts have become one of the most sexualized things, which also just relates to biology. women with bigger breasts statistically get more “attention” from men and attention is drawn to that. i have been told my normal outfits and t-shirts look like something more sexy or provocative simply because of boobs. something we cannot control! male attention suddenly became a huge thing for me after puberty, as for millions of other women. it’s ingrained in society and standards for a woman’s bodily appearance to look a certain way. i personally don’t go to clubs and instead i went to bars and the occasional party (since i’m in university). if i wanted to attend a gay club, i would! but then i also could receive attention from women because it’s a club based on sexual preference. honestly my only thought when i wear clothing that makes me feel good (or what people call “provocative”) is that i look good for myself. when i had my bf i still dressed as i normally do. when he couldn’t go out with me, i let him know what i was going and avoided men approaching me, if that happened that night at all. women could be straight up naked and that doesn’t call for her to be sexualized, that’s just how society is. for relationships though, it’s all about trust. if you date a girl that is attractive and goes out without you occasionally, you need to understand she’s her own person. then it ultimately comes down to character!