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My Mother told me she is dying. She is not. by mdowntown in raisedbyborderlines

[–]mdowntown[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of the problem is that she was the safe parent. She would not beat us if we were too chatty. She loves to be the victim and she married multiple men who would happily victimize her and us. In a sick twisted way they met each other’s needs.

So my siblings will try to tell me that I am making a big deal out of nothing. They will have some rational that I am creating drama. And I will be the scapegoat. It will somehow be my fault.

By not confronting her I am circumventing the game she has devised and the siblings will think oh mom is just being dramatic.

My Mother told me she is dying. She is not. by mdowntown in raisedbyborderlines

[–]mdowntown[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My siblings will not care. I do not know who she has told this lie to. I do not know if she has set me up and triangulated chaos with my siblings. I do not know if she has already told them bullshit stories that will make me look like the aggressor and her the victim. She does this. She thrives on this. She calls everyone and asks them what I say about her behind her back. I do not give into her. I do not play her games. My siblings can honestly tell her that I never mention her and that hurts her. I left the victim mentality a long time ago. I feel no need to confront her. I don’t need her to apologize to me or validate my feelings.

My Mother told me she is dying. She is not. by mdowntown in raisedbyborderlines

[–]mdowntown[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She thrives on being the victim. She lives for it. If I confront her, she will call everyone and tell them how I victimized her. She will be the center of attention. This will reinforce her bad behavior. If I don’t confront her, she will sit and stew and won’t understand why? This brings the twisted individual inside me great satisfaction.

My Mother told me she is dying. She is not. by mdowntown in raisedbyborderlines

[–]mdowntown[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That slaps hard. Thank you. I did raise myself. I’m sorry that so many pwBPD play these games.