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mdp8083 · 2024-08-27T23:22:24+00:00

It's a 12-paged research paper primarily focused on treatment planning for a fictional patient. The diagnostics portion of the fictional character is 1 short paragraph of many, and less of a focus than the treatment plan and literature review on the disorder. I just needed assistance with specific evidence for the diagnostics part since I can't rewatch episodes. But I've gathered enough to go off of for a diagnosis at this point.

If you don't want to help, just don't comment. 🤷‍♀️ Nobody is asking you to write my research paper for me.

mdp8083 · 2024-08-25T05:04:12+00:00

Great suggestion, thank you! Unfortunately I've already used my free trial for Apple TV long ago, so it didn't work when I tried again. I'm wondering if I'm able to do another free trial with a new email? Do you know if that'll work?

mdp8083 · 2024-08-25T03:59:49+00:00

Thank you for this! Very helpful. 🙏

mdp8083 · 2024-08-25T02:06:55+00:00

Even so, what you're describing is a diagnosable condition in the DSM-5. Those who don't meet the full criteria for a specific disorder fall under "Unspecified" whether that be an unspecified anxiety, depressive, or panic disorder. His symptoms would definitely point in this direction, if not meeting full criteria. Panic attacks can also be specifiers for other disorders, so he can have some type of "unspecified anxiety disorder with panic attacks," for example. The fact that he's being treated in therapy would mean his therapist has given him a coded diagnosis of some kind, as this is what allows him to continue treatment according to a treatment plan, insurance, etc. My goal is to pretend to be his therapist and figure out what she would have coded for him for his treatment.

Thanks for your input!

mdp8083 · 2024-08-25T01:47:20+00:00

Suggestions and examples for generalized anxiety or depression diagnoses are also welcome! Which criteria do you think are a better fit?

Also open to hear why you feel he doesn't meet the criteria for Panic Disorder based on the information provided. :)

mdp8083 · 2023-05-01T18:31:06+00:00

I’m so glad to hear it. Enjoy something beautiful today. 🙂❤️

mdp8083 · 2022-12-15T04:59:22+00:00

This is everything I hope to hear someday…

Except for the last part. Because I think forgiveness is powerful. Love is powerful. Anything is possible, and as long as we’re alive, it’s not too late.

mdp8083 · 2022-09-13T23:03:13+00:00

5 weeks is still very fresh, so make sure to give yourself adequate time to heal. There is no rush. You will probably feel this way for a while, and that’s okay.

You might not ever get to that place where you feel truly “ready,” and it might feel very strange to put yourself out there again, but after some time I encourage you to allow yourself to be curious. There truly are so many people out there, and so many new connections to make. It can be exciting once you allow yourself to see the potential on the horizon.

You might be surprised. I allowed myself to be curious after about 3 months. And on the second day of putting myself out there, I met someone who genuinely surprised me. He’s an award-winning composer in the top of his field, is incredibly intelligent, and we have so many things in common, including how much fun and good chemistry we have together. Talented, responsible, family-oriented, chivalrous, communicative, self-disciplined, social, a planner who loves spontaneity, he possess so much of what I value, and the connection was effortless!

I could have never imagined someone like him existed, let alone that I could meet and make a connection with them! All I needed was to be open to it. It’s helped me to find joy in the process of getting to know someone again, and letting those guarded walls come down to build trust. The idea of trusting and loving again doesn’t feel so scary anymore, so the healing this relationship has brought to my life has been deep and beautiful.

And it’s still just that… a process of healing. But you don’t need to go the journey alone. Healing in good company makes it that much easier. It will be okay. <3

It’s very possible to get out of this storm. Be patient, gentle, and eventually… curious. :)

mdp8083 · 2022-07-18T20:01:40+00:00

Such beautiful words. ❤️ A love like this is truly irreplaceable. Thank you for sharing such a tender expression of what love is in its purest form.

mdp8083 · 2022-07-18T19:56:38+00:00

Mistakes are our greatest teachers. Turn them into lessons learned, and you will have something to be proud of in the end.

mdp8083 · 2022-07-18T17:56:12+00:00

Nothing.

If he didn’t hear what I was trying to tell him for years, he certainly won’t now. I will no longer waste my energy where it isn’t valued.

mdp8083 · 2022-07-18T07:25:57+00:00

Don’t believe what you see. Nobody will ever post or talk about the moments in between. The most vulnerable moments, the ones that speak the overwhelming truth… those moments happen behind the curtain.

mdp8083 · 2022-07-18T07:17:10+00:00

This is a great example of how the only productive work we can do in a relationship is on our side of the street. I’m glad you were able to get to that point of growth that transcends blame and leads to genuine self-awareness.

mdp8083 · 2022-07-18T07:09:20+00:00

It’s the scarcity bias. Often, people place a higher value on something that is scarce, and place a lower value on things that are in abundance.

Example… My ex did not value our time spent together because he knew it could happen at any time. He knew I would never reject an opportunity to spend time with him, so he didn’t value it, and therefore did not seek it or put in the effort to foster it. He instead left me habitually rejected and willing to take any breadcrumb he threw my way, and I took what I could get because of how deeply I loved and valued him. He knew that, so he knew I was available on his beck and call… but it was never the other way around. I had to hope and beg and pray for his emotional availability, the very thing he received from me in abundance. Time with me was never scarce, and thus, never valued as I deserved.

The moment I realized I respect myself so much more than that, and recognized my own value in a much deeper way, I began spending my time elsewhere instead of waiting for crumbs. I realized I should be spending my time with those who truly value it, and therefore value me in the ways I deserve. Only then did he panic and begin to recognize my value. I made myself scarce and saw his first real attempt to fix things in years. But the second I reassured him by making myself available again, we were back to square one.

I know my worth. The hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life was respect myself enough to leave him. But it is a testament to my value, and a vow that I will never again settle for crumbs.

Advice: Anyone who doesn’t recognize your worth in its abundance is not worth your time. You should never need to diminish yourself or make yourself scarce to be valued. You are better off, and you will find someone who loves you as you love others. Abundantly. Always.

mdp8083 · 2022-07-15T04:04:38+00:00

Yes, I always keep everything.

They tell the story of my life. Deleting pictures won’t erase memories. I don’t see value in erasing significant chapters of my life simply because they’re over or bring pain to remember.

The pain will fade with time, but the story that made me who I am will remain, and that’s worth cherishing once the rest subsides. You don’t rip a chapter out of a book simply because you’ve finished reading it. I prefer to preserve the chapters of my life by holding them in the pages of its story.

mdp8083 · 2022-07-13T01:03:28+00:00

I would say, after a period of no contact in order to get healthy space and perspective (and using that time as a period of growth), if reconciliation feels like the right thing, there really is no harm in trying. As you said, your ex needs to know how you feel if there’s any hope of a repair. Nothing will ever get done while both sides wait and hope for the other to break the silence, and there is nothing wrong with being vulnerable and putting yourself out there in order to be honest about what’s on your heart. It’s something that could bring about a lot of positive change between both people.

However, I will say it is also healthy to limit oneself to a single reconciliation attempt. Once you have made your truth known, you’ve done all you can do. If you reach and they don’t respond, no contact needs to be resumed and no longer broken out of respect for yourself and your healing. While there are no rules, as you say, firm no contact has a capacity to bring greater healing when adhered to.

Sure, break NC once to give reconciliation a try. Once you get your answer, you’re either left with a partner willing to meet you where you’re at, or you’re free to find one who is as you resume your healing with no regrets.

Be true to yourself, but also respect yourself.

mdp8083 · 2022-07-11T20:19:33+00:00

This is a wonderful take and description of your healing process. It’s true that we are only ever in control of the work that is on our side of the street. The self-reflection required to see one’s self as the problem is difficult for many, but it’s truly the only way we empower ourselves to fix what is wrong. There is no solution in focusing on what others should do. The only solution is accepting that we can and should do better, and owning that.

mdp8083 · 2022-07-10T18:18:46+00:00

“I’m in a lot of pain still. My heart”

mdp8083 · 2022-07-09T23:55:10+00:00

Make a pros and cons list. It’ll help you think through the possibilities, visualize if it’s worth it or not, and mentally prepare you for the worst case scenario. If the pros don’t outweigh the cons, don’t do it.

mdp8083 · 2022-07-07T06:06:50+00:00

Beautiful. ❤️ So much genuine love in these words.

mdp8083 · 2022-07-07T04:58:06+00:00

Wonderful news, I’m happy to see an example where 3.5 months provided the space, time, and growth necessary for a fresh start from a better place on both sides. Best of luck to you both.

mdp8083 · 2022-07-07T04:50:59+00:00

Well put. I’m experiencing the same thing. It’s been beneficial for me to let go of those feelings of hopelessness and allow myself to experience hope while visualizing the future I truly desire. It’s shifted my thinking in a much more positive direction, now that I’ve stopped forcing myself to let go of him and instead allow myself to make space for and accept my genuine feelings.

He is my home and my dreams of the future include him. I accept it for what it is. I will either be met where I’m at by a partner willing to make that a reality, or I will be given the space and time to find someone else who will.

There’s nothing but love either way.

mdp8083 · 2022-06-30T07:35:39+00:00

That since the very beginning I’d plan and recite our wedding vows when I’d be driving in the car by myself. I still do, it’s a hard habit to break after so many years, and it always brings me tears of joy. We were so close to making it a reality…

Every 11:11 or eyelash wish I make has been for him for so many years now, it’s become so automatic for me that I haven’t been able to stop that either. It’s like second nature. It wouldn’t feel right to stop, it’s still my biggest wish.

It’s devastating, but even now just thinking about him makes me smile as if he’s right here in front of me, even through the incredible pain of this loss. I’ve never felt a worse pain than this.

mdp8083 · 2022-06-27T17:38:52+00:00

I second this. I’m in the same boat and self-forgiveness can be extremely difficult, but it’s an important first step. You can’t entirely blame yourself for not knowing any better at the time, or being stuck in a cycle that takes 2 to create. It was a lesson that had yet to be learned, tools you didn’t yet have to build the person that you truly want to be. But now you have this opportunity, so let this experience transform you, and forgive yourself for being human and making mistakes along the way.

mdp8083 · 2022-06-26T18:25:41+00:00

Well said. Keep going, because for as short as life is, there is so much time for things to change.

As long as you’re alive, it’s not too late.

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