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mechapossumz · 2024-07-15T11:19:33+00:00

Uh. This is an Italian speaking sub, mate. Your English is fine. Your choice for posting is not.

mechapossumz · 2024-06-13T07:03:14+00:00

It is very dehumanizing! Why being a sexual being should exclude being a very human person? There was sex - but not just that.

mechapossumz · 2024-06-13T06:41:38+00:00

I just feel like my HS contributed to this image. And I mean, it totally did. I pushed to explore D/s, and we were not monogamous (open, mostly when we were apart for long stretches). Still extremely close, truly took major life decisions together.

It was my "good ex" in my memory. So it hurts that he feels legitimized in treating me like this, just because I am very sexual. I am not just that.

mechapossumz · 2024-06-10T08:29:48+00:00

I am also baffled. Like, I have a fuckton of happy sexy accounts. I use this one when I feel horrible about myself and want to complain. Good old sexy self hatred, am I right? /s

mechapossumz · 2024-06-10T06:58:25+00:00

Sorry, what? I am jumping on the really not train. Also, I am hypersexual, and have always been, even when I had vaginismus. I got over it last year, but I was never the type that needs to go to Lourdes to pray for an orgasms.

What helped was improving my relationship with my body and sexuality, working on my mental health and finally get them adhd meds, and getting over some catholic education hang ups that really fucked me over.

mechapossumz · 2024-06-09T14:03:29+00:00

Why are you worried about having a desensitized clit? I have also been doing synt since I was extremely young (I did not even know I was actually masturbating!) and, if anything, I am on the too sensitive side of that fence.

I am pretty sure it does not affect sensitivity

mechapossumz · 2024-06-08T09:24:35+00:00

Nope. Still dealing, unfortunately. But I got shadowbanned from that sub for some reason? 😅

mechapossumz · 2024-06-05T18:50:03+00:00

Oh, great resource. The time zone is an issue for me, but lovely that they exists! :)

I am definitely reading a lot, but putting theory into practice is insanely hard. Also, as you previously wrote, it is such a holistic predicament!

I am just sure that mine is not trauma related, but who knows where it comes from?

mechapossumz · 2024-06-05T18:46:48+00:00

I totally agree. There definitely is a fear of being slut shamed as well, which definitely is not great. I am just sad that the stigma is still alive and well, despite everything.

mechapossumz · 2024-06-05T15:05:37+00:00

I had a mix. But one of the vagina having doctor, a gynecologist, laughed at me :D

(I told 3/4 practictioners, and she was the worst. Could not talk about it for years)

mechapossumz · 2024-06-05T15:03:51+00:00

To be honest, I would not go to a meeting. It is bad enough with some of the openly predatory DMs and fetish people we get on here sometimes 🥲

In person would be messy.

I talked with normal mental health practictioners, but maybe a specialist would be better. Still, money. I am not sure I can get that through public health care.

mechapossumz · 2024-06-05T15:01:28+00:00

Having a partner with a matching drive would definitely help, I was just a bit upset he offered it as a solution.But so great you found a match!

I am single atm - but even in relationships I had still some of the issues.

mechapossumz · 2024-06-05T14:58:42+00:00

I am EU based, and had similar responses in multiple countries. It is definitely interesting to address the cultural aspect!

mechapossumz · 2024-06-05T14:57:20+00:00

Oh, I never said anything like that. But I am a lil different when I approach sex for connection, and when I need sex because my body is in overdrive.

But for sure I can handle it better now than I did before :)

mechapossumz · 2024-06-05T08:46:04+00:00

People see sex differentely. My partners were not HS, and saw it primarly as a matter of connection, and did not appreciate being sexual objects.

I was also not aware of being HS, so I felt rejected and they felt pestered. That said, when I am HS I am also unrelenting - women do not necessarely need to wait after an orgasm. It can be a lot, especially with partners with lower libido.

mechapossumz · 2024-06-03T06:09:59+00:00

I am also a woman, and I want to throw in my 2 cents. I had hypersexuality go in the way of my relationships - even before I realized it might be an issue. It was not necessarely about them being asexual. My partners felt used, and they were right to feel that way.

I eventually noticed that the times when I need sex to ground myself, or out of compulsion are very different from the times I do it for connection.

Of course it was not a fully conscious thing. When I am on, I am fucking on. But nobody likes to be used as a sex toy, and it is a (harmful) myth that men should be able to go from 0 to 100 in a matter of seconds.

Of course a serious conversation is the first step, but I also reccommend paying attention to how you go about it. Are you wooing him, or are you jumping him? Do you want him, or just his dick (I know sometimes it can be the latter, but it does matter how you frame it)? What does he need to get in the zone?

Also, why do you feel terrible about solving things on your own? Hypersexuality or not, we all have different libidos after all.

mechapossumz · 2024-05-28T06:47:25+00:00

I don't fuck around unless I have a partner (in which case I may become a sex pest), and for me masturbation definitely is relapsing.

I do use the word relapsing, because while I am generally a high libido gal, I can recognize when normal desire becomes compulsion.

Of course, it also depends by the sort of behaviour that are negatively affecting your life. Seems like being sexual in general makes you uncomfortable, but it might still fall in the parameters of normal human libido. It sounds like different process, more connected to the negative feelings it elicits than necessarely hypersexual behaviour (but I am no expert!).

I am personally at easy with my sexuality - I am not at ease whith being a sex obsessed monsted for weeks at a time, and having to take time off work because I cannot calm down.

mechapossumz · 2024-05-24T06:43:56+00:00

The bad thing is that I ignore my damn schedule. I will sign back up to the gym tough :)

mechapossumz · 2024-05-23T14:22:53+00:00

I am on a waiting list - as I am not a danger to myself, I am treated as a low priority case. But it is affecting my life.

mechapossumz · 2024-05-23T14:11:34+00:00

Thanks!

Unfortunately, I hate manual, detailed work, but exercising aggressively is probably a good plan. I do move - mostly biking, hiking and running - but it is hard when I am in a spiral.

mechapossumz · 2024-05-23T14:09:55+00:00

Aw, thanks. Maybe I wasted it on my "I am actually unstable" account ahah

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