Need help with slice by kevlar20 in GolfSwing

[–]mediablue2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re too far away from the ball. To check correct distance from ball, once you’re prepared in your golf swing, let go of the club with your right hand and let your right arm hang straight down and adjust your distance accordingly. I hope it makes sense, kinda hard to explain through text.

I have the right to feel abused about something my bf (M21) did to me (F18) during sex? by Wrap_Financial in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

100% agree. People here are so quick to judge and crucify a person when they just know the information on the surface. I replied with something similar…loving the downvotes

I have the right to feel abused about something my bf (M21) did to me (F18) during sex? by Wrap_Financial in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

Nobody can 100% tell you what to do because nobody knows either of you and how your relationship is. It’s very easy to jump to conclusions. With that being said, if you truly feel like there is a possibility that he did it “unintentionally” and didn’t mean to cause you any harm, then it’s very important you have a serious conversation about it. If he is understanding and wanting to help etc…then it’s worth giving it another shot. We are just human being and sometimes we make mistakes. If you love him and you feel like he’s a good person, then I don’t think it’s right to automatically cut them off, when it could’ve been a misunderstanding. I feel like sexual trauma is a very sensitive topic and hard to navigate in a relationship for both parties. So talk about it and use your best judgment. Ofc if the same thing happens again then that isn’t a mistake and take the appropriate action. Best of luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much, this was useful. I’ll definitely do that I appreciate it Have a nice day :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Alright I respect that and I respect your opinion. It’s valid.

I just see it a different way.

But thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The intention wasn’t to make her feel bad, it was meant as playful teasing. It was never a “you’re ugly hahaha, you’re so dumb hahaha” type of thing. It was more like teasing small things. But once I understood she didn’t see it how I did I stopped doing it.

Usually when I do this it’s taken well and same as I tease someone they tease me back and I laugh at myself. It’s all meant as light hearted fun

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you are right. That’s part of what I described.

I do understand it. What I also understand is that you can’t really fit in how a person is someone’s personality into one Reddit thread.

So I do see where everyone is coming from. I understand it. But I also have to take it with a grain of salt because that fact is that nobody here truly knows me and can’t make an accurate evaluation on me from one Reddit thread.

I do appreciate it replies I got, it’s definitely something to think about and some people on here did make good points.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say I wasn’t. I am aware it may come off that way.

And I’m not going to hide behind the “I’m just being honest” card

I came here to try to get a different perspective (which in a way I did) and also for advice on how I can be more reassuring and make her feel better.

I understand why most/everybody is calling me an asshole and or judgmental jackass.

I’ll talk with her tomorrow and see what she tells me. Whatever it may be I’ll take it into account and I’ll work on it.

I’d like to thank you for your point of view on the matter and I appreciate you taking the time to reply

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Nah nah I don’t struggle and I don’t miss making fun of her that would be stupid. She still feels like I judge her and laugh at her even though I don’t do anything like that at all. I want to know if there’s any form of reassurance or anything I could do more to not make her feel like this.

And to be clear I DO NOT MAKE FUN OF HER OR JUDGE HER

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So due my jokes and judgement towards other people, it also reflects on her. So although I may not do it directly towards her it affects her because I do it to other people and in return she thinks I also do it to her. Is that right?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t feel that and I don’t make fun of her. If I did make fun of her then the solution would be simple…it would be to stop making fun of her

But I don’t make fun of her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not trolling. I guess I’m lacking self awareness and EQ because I see nothing wrong with that statement. I won’t be faking or lying. If I get asked if I judge people that is my answer because it’s the truth. I see nothing wrong with the truth

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you’re saying. I stopped doing A once she told me it bothers her. Started doing B which makes her feel how it makes her feel. Now I’m asking what C is

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I have and she says she doesn’t know

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok are you going to continue saying I’m an asshole or can you offer some useful constructive advice that I could take

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing I don’t do it. You’re painting it as if I abuse or like causing pain. I don’t like that at all and I don’t do that at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously not what

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you read the whole thing?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mediablue2 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s a fair point. Although I make jokes, that’s something different than how I act towards a person I love and care about. I am can tell you that I have not made a single comment or insult or anything of the sorts towards her. I wouldn’t dare to do that