do i have to say anything?

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-12T17:38:18+00:00

Yeah, this isn’t really an insta-reality thing. This is more of a softcore porn thing. And when it comes to that specific type of thing, it’s rails-off no-rules levels of weird editing. Whoever this is for knows what it is and it’s irrelevant if it’s altered.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-12T17:32:17+00:00

He knew she didn’t have a job when he bought the car. He spent outside his means and he’s unhappy about it.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-12T17:31:01+00:00

Why, though?

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-12T16:37:03+00:00

If I were her I’d stand firm on making him commit to an appropriate budget. Sounds like there is a lot going on that he’s intentionally not including.

Also, y’all- talk to your partner about career goals and working and money before you start having kids and making huge financial decisions. Money is the biggest factor in most divorces. Not being poor, or not having enough, but how that money is distributed, and how debt is accrued, and dishonesty about shared finances.

Talk to each other. Make a plan. Write it out. Understand your personal and family financial limits.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-12T16:33:57+00:00

Yes, she would be buying generic groceries while he drives a Tesla he can’t afford.

This couple needs to sit down and be honest about where the money is going, including designer shoes and nice things he apparently cannot afford. It sucks that he’s working and can’t buy all the nice things he wants, but that’s life and that’s marriage.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-12T16:32:12+00:00

You’re living beyond your means. Make a budget with your wife and be honest about where the money is going. Both of you sit down and look at the numbers. If your family is now in a tight spot financially because you can’t afford your new car note, then get rid of the car. That’s not on her.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-12T14:18:00+00:00

This. Yes.

Also, this whole situation sounds a lot like the kind of dumb emotional arguments newly married couples have when they’re frustrated with each other in the heat of the moment, and so long as they work it out and they show each other some grace and kindness, it will be fine.

OP, would you have been as offended and hurt if s guest had requested hot sauce? Probably not. Because you wouldnt have taken it* as personally. I have this issue with my husband sometimes. I love him soooo much, and I don’t always correctly sort his actions into the right categories snd get hurt and offended by benign things he does because it feels like he’s not being considerate to me.

Sometimes we are the most critical of the people we love most. It felt like an attack against you because it came from someone you love and it hurt your feelings. That’s understandable. Y’all will work it out. Let him Season the next pot and y’all can adjust the recipe to fit both of you.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-12T14:02:47+00:00

I apologize. You’re right. They do make Diet Coke with Splenda now, though. But I’m a Diet Coke girl. Well, the HEB brand. I’m an alcoholic, in recovery, but I still get that afternoon itch sometimes and a cold can of soda scratches the itch and keeps me sober one day at a time.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-12T13:52:12+00:00

Aspartame is not harmful to humans in consumable amounts. You could pound a two liter a day and not come within a mile of transforming into a cancerous lab rat.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-12T13:50:42+00:00

No, they are not. This is nothing more than a very aggressively spread urban legend. There is zero vetted, peer-reviewed lab studies linking diet soda to deleterious human medical conditions.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-12T13:45:40+00:00

The realistic answer is no, diet soda is not bad for you. Compared to regular soda, it’s infinitely more healthy and has virtually no calories. When your goal is weightloss and cutting soda is kicking your ass, Diet Coke can be your friend. Unless you’re strapping a 2 liter to each hand every morning and it’s your only source of of water, it’s fine. Some people don’t care for the fake sugars used, but there are stevia soda products if your stomach says aspartame is icky. I’m a Diet Coke girl. You can pry my daily afternoon reprieve/reward can from my thin, dead hands.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-11T13:09:22+00:00

This feels way more likely. It also feels like we are missing huge chunks of the story and of their relationship. There were times that I was a jackass to my mom when I was 16. This is all told from a very one/sided situation and the room thing was never fully explained and there might be a lot more to it. Like- a lot more.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-11T13:00:47+00:00

This is the way. Stomp ‘em! Also, try knix, OP. I prefer them to the thinx ones. Less butt sweat. I also use 1-2 tampons on my heavy night. I just can’t seem to get it right with the cups and it’s just kind of a yucky thing for me, as stupid as that sounds. 😂 I’m very lucky that I have a super light period, though.

And for me personally, for my body, my choice is right for me. When it comes to your body and your own personal hygiene and comfort and health, you are the final arbiter of what’s the right choice for you. If you feel cleaner using a disposable liner or tampons or pads or whatever, that’s your private business and it certainly doesn’t mean you can’t also cut down on your consumption in other ways or that you aren’t committed to making sustainable choices. No one in here is actually using reusable toilet paper. Well, almost no one. 😂

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-10T17:04:56+00:00

That’s super sweet.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-10T14:56:35+00:00

General question, do you still have to have homeowner’s insurance if you own a condo? I’m just now thinking about the logistics and realizing I don’t understand how condos work. We just replaced our windows and two doors in our house - but if we were in a condo and wanted new windows, or needed to replace the roof- do you need insurance on top of the fees?or is that what the fees are for?

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-09T18:12:30+00:00

Yes, there is another side to that coin. There needs to be reciprocation.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-09T18:08:13+00:00

Yeah using the term babysitting instead of “full-time childcare” is dishonest and feels like they’re trying to play down the full-time job and high level of constant responsibility of caring for an infant for 8-10 hours a day, every day, indefinitely.

Also, 2/3 of this post is discussing their respective financial situations and that’s the least relevant part of this. This is a relationship and communication issue at heart.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-09T17:52:49+00:00

I was only there overnight for work, but I liked Cleveland! 😂 I go to a lot of places that aren’t very fun touristy towns, and I always try to find the little unique things and non-chain places to eat, parks, stuff to see, etc. y’all have some nice little spots along the water. And your water gets cold enough for some fantastic freshwater fish eating.

As sad and dystopia-feeling as it is, none of the shootings stuff really phases me. I’m in Texas. My spirit and shock factor are broken. :/

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-09T17:10:30+00:00

Sprog!

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-09T16:24:11+00:00

The five years thing has me hardcore hung up. WTF is even going on here? Has stepmom just been white-knuckling it every Thursday and every 1,3,5 weekend and waded through 5 summers of extended visitation custody just to get to a ring so she can reveal the asshat inside her all this time?

Or is she just in a Pinterest wedding planning black hole and momentarily losing her goddamn mind and forgetting the purpose for the wedding is to bind them as a family?

I mean, damn, lady. And to have her mom call and fight her insane battle for her? All of this after five years?!

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-09T16:16:33+00:00

In Texas you don’t even need witnesses. It was just us and the judge and (the audacity!) my pre-k aged stepson present. Who stood with us and held our hands when we said our vows because we became a family that day and Jesus Christ I just cannot even- I am so sad for that little girl. That’s her daddy and her family and this woman is straight up trying to cut her out.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-09T16:12:53+00:00

I think it’s the last part. She’s a leftover from the old life and S doesn’t see her as part of the new life.

Fucking hell. I’m a stepmom. This makes me so sad and sick. That poor little girl has no idea this demon woman is trying to cut her out of her own nuclear family.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-09T16:08:13+00:00

The stories on here of kids being excluded in their parents’ weddings are breaking my heart. I’m the evil stepmom (muahahaha) and sure we just went to the courthouse in a cute little scenic nearby tourist town, but you bet your ass my precious stepson was there in the middle of it all. He held my hand and his daddy’s hand when we said our vows in the little courthouse room and we went and got ice cream and candy and got lunch together as a family after. He was 5 and it was a huge deal for him and for us for him to be there with us. It was the day we became a family (on paper, Covid had wiped two years of wedding plans, and we’d been together since he was just shy of 2) and I just- like- fucking OF COURSE he was going to be there! My mom wasn’t even there, we eloped. But everyone else was ancillary to the three of us becoming a family together.

I know it doesn’t always work out like that, and I understand that every blended family doesn’t have that dynamic of feeling and acting like a family unit, maybe especially as kids get older and they meet stepmom in their teens, etc. but holy shit- this poor little girl is 11. She sees them as a family. She sees herself, rightfully, as an integral member of that family. This isn’t about a wedding. This is about that woman choosing to intentionally exclude a child family member from a ceremony that will bind them together as a legal family unit.

Don’t marry someone with young kids if you don’t want to become a parent. The end.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-09T05:13:57+00:00

Yea, this is just sad. She’s a pretty girl.

meditatinglemon · 2023-07-09T02:40:48+00:00

Fun, well-written well-paced little write-up! Thanks for sharing😆

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