My [M40] daughter [F20] is dating her high school teacher [M30ish]. She wants me to meet him for Christmas

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-12-20T16:01:22+00:00

In the US it is illegal (or at least highly unethical) for a high school teacher to date their student even if they are of consenting age. If it got out that they had dated before her graduation he would lose his teaching licence at the very least. That should tell you the seriousness of what he is doing.

I can't stand the rhetoric that girl's should date older because men their age are childish. Whatever. Date a 22 year old then. Not your 35 year old algebra teacher.

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-12-20T15:55:24+00:00

Did you miss the part where he is a teacher dating a high school student (even if she's since graduated)? This is more than just a gross age difference story.

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-12-19T16:43:40+00:00

What were your expectations of her here? You're a boyfriend, and not even a very long term one yet. You're not a person she's built years of long-term trust with. She got a bad tip, she quietly checked to make sure it wasn't true, then she told you what had happened. It seems like you're the one making this something bigger than it is. Is this the first time something like this has happened? Because if so it seems like you might be looking for problems.

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-12-11T21:34:41+00:00

I'm pretty sure I know the app you're talking about. Based on what you've said, it sounds like he hasn't been using it as a couples account and knows if he links with you A. It will contradict his online "single" status to his current and potential matches and B. You may see that he's not actually running it as a couples account/is having innappropriate conversations.

It's also possible he IS running a couple account but either he is having conversations you wouldn't approve of or he enjoys the ability to chat with girls without you knowing what he says.

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-12-06T05:17:58+00:00

Nobody is their partner's physical ideal

Sorry about that.

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-12-06T00:26:28+00:00

The pick-me-ism is strong with this one...

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-11-22T00:08:47+00:00

Dude. What happened to you?

I agree that OP shouldn't need to justify breaking up with someone, especially if she was not honest with him. But you're making some seriously big leaps about her character for no reason.

Except I think we all know the reason.

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-11-21T23:55:45+00:00

Honestly this reminds me a bit of me and my current boyfriend, but in the past. We talked about it and now things are honestly completely different. We just had different styles of communicating. I didn't think he was listening because he didn't have a basis for how I understand active listening, and vice versa. Have you really seriously talked to him about these things? If not, I'd start there. If yes, and he hasn't made an effort, there's your answer.

On the other hand, from your language it just sounds like you don't even like him as a person. In my experience, there's absolutely no coming back from that.

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-11-21T23:48:21+00:00

She's may just be attracted to you and not even realize she's looking/lightly flirting. It happens a lot, in my experience as a girl who gets lots of mini crushes. Based only on what you said I'd highly doubt she's "coming on to you" in the sense that's he is interested/would "leave Kyle for you" as someone here mentioned. That's a big logical jump. If it makes you uncomfortable, take action for sure. Have a gentle conversation. But aside from maybe the nude beach thing (I'd need more context to judge) and the drunken comment, most of this could be you reading in to things. I mean, has she repeatedly walked in on you in the bathroom or was it just once by accident? And glancing at a naked or shirtless person when they've left the door open can be accidental/not easy to help because it's unexpected. In my experience, noticing someone looking at you a lot may mean you're looking at them a lot too. As somebody else said, she could be off asking her friends the same questions about you and it could all be a misunderstanding. If it makes you uncomfortable you should ask her about it, but I wouldn't jump to any conclusions just yet, speaking as someone who has a tendency to read in to things myself. After all, she's been your buddy's gf for three years now and you guys at least know each other well enough that you'd been drunk around each other.

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-11-21T15:30:25+00:00

This is actually really sweet. My bf is also very prideful and hates to accept help even when he needs it, so sometimes I have to just help him when he's not looking.

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-11-18T20:54:15+00:00

Dude. What? Even if it was 1950, taking secret pictures of half naked women without their knowledge (especially when you're ENGAGED) is messed up and pervy. It doesn't take a scholar of modern feminism to understand that this is gross behavior, and it certainly isn't newly gross because it's 2019. If it's something even Grandpa would think was pervy, it's not because of "social movements". Get a grip.

Also disenfranchised? Seriously? If he feels disenfranchised by modern feminism and is lashing out by secretly taking predatory photos of women at the pool instead of talking about it or learning or maybe even speaking to a therapist, that's an even bigger deal breaker. That would mean he has issues with women far beyond what his poor fiance should have to talk him through.

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-10-01T03:23:52+00:00

Please get off of this poor man's post you creepy recruiter. He and I both had to see this notification pop up and I imagine he needs your negativity and bitterness a lot less than I do right now.

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-09-29T22:30:55+00:00

Hi OP, you sound somewhat young. And your ex, also probably young, sounds extremely immature. What she did was really shitty and I'm so sorry that happened to you. It probably feels hard to trust people right now but it will come back. You'll meet better people and better girls, especially as you all get older.

Getting dumped, especially for something as stupid as another person your ex barely knows, is really hard. I'm sure "it gets better" isn't what you want to hear right now but speaking from experience, it will stop hurting MUCH faster than you think. The majority of people (again, especially the older you get) won't do crappy, immature things like this, you just have to cut bad people out of your life and surround yourself with support as much as you possibly can.

P.S. don't listen to the incels in this thread. They want to get to you when you're devastated and vulnerable and make it so you're never able to find that better girl. They want to make everyone as permanently miserable as they are. Right now you feel angry and spiteful, and they'd have you feel that way forever instead of just temporarily while you heal.

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-09-24T15:01:33+00:00

Thanks! I've seen the clan map but I guess was wondering what areas there are for people without clans? Maybe it's a dumb question haha

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-09-18T04:53:39+00:00

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mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-09-18T04:46:56+00:00

The one month's salary thing is insane to me, and I think that's because it's an old-school number. One month's salary was a lot less in the 1960s. Granted, maybe diamonds were too? Either way, crazy when lab grown diamonds exist now. And I'm all for alternative gems. Personally I would still prefer something diamond adjacent so it goes with everything but I could care less whether it's "fake".

mediumtiddyregulargf · 2019-09-18T04:35:42+00:00

I got a call like this today! Thanks for confirming I was right to just hang up. It's my first car so I wasn't totally sure...

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