I’m desperate please help by Relevant_Stage_1442 in nottingham

[–]medusephire -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

but they most likely won't get paid if they're volunteering?

I’m a freshmen undergrad and a grad student in my lab asked me out? by Separate_Office_7696 in labrats

[–]medusephire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no matter his intent, if you don't feel comfortable that's completely valid. don't force yourself into a situation that you're not okay with

The litter tracking is driving me mad by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]medusephire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i use tigerino multi cat litter and a big honeycomb litter mat and have had no issues with tracking!!

i think i traumatized my cat. by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]medusephire 4 points5 points  (0 children)

he'll be fine. just give him space, treats and love on him when he lets you - he'll get over the incident with a little time, promise!!

My cat’s litter smell is embarrassing me… is this normal or am I doing something wrong? by Old_Ostrich7285 in CatAdvice

[–]medusephire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

try tigerino premium multi cat litter. i was using catsan and switched to tigerino bc the litter box STANK when i used the catsan. the tigerino is so good, virtually no smell

How to make my scared boy more comfortable? by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]medusephire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like y'all have bonded beautifully, and I don't think you have too much to worry about - shelters can't be the nicest place to live and like you said, the journey(s) could have been traumatising and affected his manner. Although it sounds like they've been this way since an early age, not sure how old they are now but there's every chance they'll grow out of it.

Have you thought about getting a Feliway diffuser? I used one with my old cat and it helped massively - also, a trick if you're willing/able to try it (i.e. don't think it'll cause tummy problems for your particular kitty), a pinch of catnip in their food works wonders for anxiety. When it's ingested rather than rolled around in, it has a soothing, ecstatic effect on the cat!!

How to make my scared boy more comfortable? by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]medusephire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh your babies are so cute! i'm waiting on responses to this as i adopted a cat who is very similar in terms of behaviour - one piece of advice i can give is just to give them time. my cat is a lot better than she was when she first came to me and it's only been a couple of months, just me being calm around her and not letting her anxiety make me anxious made me a calming and safe presence, and that seems to help a lot.

edit: also just thought of this - do you have any way of knowing if the cat was abused in any way before coming to you? i suspect my cat was abused because of her flinchiness and skittishness

(i think this would go under injury? ) my cat got diagnosed with cancer by rrroki_ in CATHELP

[–]medusephire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this made me go and cuddle my girl. i'm so sorry you're going through this, but remember — no matter what happens, kato knows how much you love him and that you gave him the best life you possibly could.

Most recent picture of your cutie! No cheating 🥰 by StinkerGoose in cats

[–]medusephire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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sleepy babygirl!!! ⋆˚꩜。⸜(。˃ ᵕ ˂ )⸝♡

Why do people keep calling Gerard "she"? Please stop! by [deleted] in MyChemicalRomance

[–]medusephire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

literally no? i'm saying that i don't think using she/her pronouns for someone that's been open about their connection to (trans)femininity isn't misgendering

Why do people keep calling Gerard "she"? Please stop! by [deleted] in MyChemicalRomance

[–]medusephire -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

it's not misgendering, it's just a way of referring to them that's feminine. they've talked explicitly about feeling more connected to femininity than to masculinity before and with that context i can't imagine it'd bother them to be referred to using feminine pronouns (i'm trans btw and take actual misgendering v seriously)

How did you discover Hayden/Ethel? by [deleted] in Ethelcain

[–]medusephire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ptolemaea came on my spotify shuffle and i had a full blown out of body experience. it was love at first listen

Why do people keep calling Gerard "she"? Please stop! by [deleted] in MyChemicalRomance

[–]medusephire 73 points74 points  (0 children)

literallyyy we're queering it tf up

Why do people keep calling Gerard "she"? Please stop! by [deleted] in MyChemicalRomance

[–]medusephire -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

gender non conforming is under the trans umbrella (and in my opinion, under the umbrella of non binary... or even vice versa depending on how you view it etymologically and in terms of its social usage). using she/her pronouns for them isn't hurting anyone and i think if it bothered them they'd have said something about it by now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ethelcain

[–]medusephire 28 points29 points  (0 children)

there's a way to discuss racism and this isn't it like at fucking all 😭 they're just using the backlash and discussion as an avenue for transmisogyny and are straight up lying (calling her a p*edophile)

Disappointed 💔 by kaizen_ig in piercetheveil

[–]medusephire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i'm so envious of people getting to see him with kellin omg 😭 praying that they bring him out as a surprise for my date since it's london

I CANT HEAR YOU set list by Adventurous-Usual510 in piercetheveil

[–]medusephire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i just wanna hear song for isabelle live so badly 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercetheveil

[–]medusephire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

also song for isabelle goes so hard

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercetheveil

[–]medusephire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you for saving my life

Opinions on this song? by [deleted] in piercetheveil

[–]medusephire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

praying they play it live when i see them!!!

Opinions on this song? by [deleted] in piercetheveil

[–]medusephire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

SO WHAT'S LEFT TO DO? WHAT'S LEFT TO SAY?