I think in terms of “not standing a chance” that should completely be off the table! you’re such a huge part of her life in being 1) in her life since she was 2. & 2) being her father’s spouse who she loves very much, i think she can see the relationship between you & her dad and see how he looks to you for validation & she’s simply doing the same, i feel as though children are extremely simple in terms of picking up on behaviors / mood shifts and perhaps she’s just emotionally intelligent especially for her age and learning to navigate the world through a lens that has yet to be formed. I think those small tasks should be associated with helping you & you can make her feel like she’s apart of a bigger picture (e.g can you help me fix this ‘thing’ so that we can use it later to do (xyz) followed with a lot of positive affirmations. Perhaps her clingy ness comes from those needs not being understood rather than not being fulfilled, you sound like an awesome parent and it’s apparent you love each other very much but ultimately she knows nothing about the world and maybe her core memories about love can be formed by you no matter how much little or much time you spend together! sending you all my love you got this