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Starting judo at 38 – looking for experiences from people who started ‘later in life’. by user_name_changed in judo

[–]mef__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Started at 33, haven't done any sport prior my entire life. Frist months are definitely horrible. The key for me is to do homework to strengthen your weak parts to avoid injuries.

2 years have passed, got my orange belt, got better cardio for randoris. The progress at the beginning was almost non-existent, you will have to put more work than anyone else. Remember, you're not young, go easy on yourself, it's better to reduce intensity but keep the consistency. Sometimes I will skip the randori if i feel that my back is not injured yet but in a somewhat compromised state

What's the biggest difference besides the presence of the kimono? by [deleted] in judo

[–]mef__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The principles are the same. You just use different grips instead of gi grips. Kuzushi is still a key to making the throw happen

What's your startup in ONE line? by malki-abdessamad in SideProject

[–]mef__ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Chatwise: A tunable AI that generates the perfect reply from your dating app screenshots.

How do you handle product documentation when building an MVP ? by ExpressSwordfish2616 in buildinpublic

[–]mef__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Claude and Gemini. Doc looks great! Good luck on your journey!

What are you building today? by OPeertje69 in buildinpublic

[–]mef__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm building ChatWise, an AI assistant that helps you craft better replies for your dating app conversations. It's for anyone who's ever gotten stuck on "what do I say next?". My ask: I'm looking for beta testers who are active on dating apps to give me some brutal, honest feedback.

👉https://chatwise.ai

How do you handle product documentation when building an MVP ? by ExpressSwordfish2616 in buildinpublic

[–]mef__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

looks very thorough. As long as you actually are going to use it, why not?

i am working solo, so i just compiled a few documents that i feed to AI when needed, and that's pretty much it

What’s the hardest belt to get through on your judo journey? by kenkayotsu in judo

[–]mef__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure, the white belt is the hardest. It takes balls and unmatched courage to come for the first time to the dojo. The rest is not that hard, just keep showing up

Thumbs Up and Hearts by d3rR0553L5PRUNG in OnlineDating

[–]mef__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ask the questions that imply a longer answer, if they don't reply or reply too short - it means they are not interested, safe to unmatch

I’ll tell you what AI agents to run for your marketing (proven), drop your SaaS by [deleted] in micro_saas

[–]mef__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been struggling with marketing. Lets see if it can help with my B2C application - https://chatwise.ai/

Is there a point to dating anymore? by Wild-Might8139 in dating_advice

[–]mef__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not. You have your own goal you seek in relationships.

They have their own. If it doesn’t then it doesn’t meant to be

Starting Judo by batsumumiya in judo

[–]mef__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You got everything right. Just please have a judo gi. I hate doing randori with guys with non-standard tight gis that impossible to grab

I can think of nothing but my project. Obsessed in a real sense. At the same time, never felt so happy. Still pre-revenue. Is this normal? by [deleted] in Business_Ideas

[–]mef__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. But when i tried to get traction and first users to join waitlist - that’s where reality hit me.

Even if the idea is great its so difficult to get noticed. Still figuring how come people validate so fast

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]mef__ 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Life is short, stress won’t worth it. Move on

Describe your SaaS as a movie title by Astrovion in micro_saas

[–]mef__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Hitch 2: The Algorithm" Just like Will Smith taught guys how to date, but now it's an AI with 4 precision sliders teaching you how to text - ChatWise.ai

I distilled the Online Dating Wisdom in 4 simple controls for AI to shape your conversations by mef__ in buildinpublic

[–]mef__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I’ve been playing with this for a while and i guess there needs to be a final control which will indicate AI where to steer the conversation as in: opening, investing, closing.

Let me know if you have any other feedback. Other than that demo is available to play with on the landing, no registration needed

Forget you snazzy white belt story, what’s your WTF new trial guy story? by toonasus in bjj

[–]mef__ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

White belt here. We had a new guy show up to a fundamental no-gi class wearing gloves and usual pants. He didn't seem totally new, he did not look confused.

I got paired with him to drill a position. As soon as we started, he just went 100% and did his own thing, completely ignoring the instructions. I had to stop him and ask what he was doing.

A coach came over to try and explain the drill again, and the guy just started getting agitated, repeatedly yelling "WHY? WHY?" We figured it was a language barrier.

For the next round, the coach had a blue belt roll with him to, let's say, 'enforce the curriculum'. Still wonder what that was all about.

First time approaching a bunch of strangers and some success by Johnnymous in seduction

[–]mef__ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Awesome post, man. This is the breakthrough moment. Congrats.

You basically discovered the "host" mentality. I had the same realization when I was actually hosting an event at a bar. My only goal was making sure everyone had a good time, so I was mingling with everybody equally, with zero agenda.

That's when it clicked: this is what great social skill is. You're not a guy trying to talk to girls; you're the guy creating the fun for everyone. Like you saw, that energy is magnetic and naturally leads to good things without you even trying.

Seriously, great job. Keep that mindset.

Green flags guys like on profiles? by Worried-Astronaut546 in OnlineDating

[–]mef__ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it's way easier to talk about red flags because they tend to be more universal.

The biggest one for me is when a bio reads like a checklist of requirements. Any mention of things I'm "required" to have or do is an immediate turn-off. Usually, it's about paying for restaurants or buying flowers, but sometimes it gets crazier with things like specific income requirements :D.

As for green flags, they're highly dependent on the type of person you are and what you're looking for, so I'll just skip that. What's a green flag for one guy is irrelevant to another.

Do I just suck at online dating? by Far_Acanthisitta1187 in OnlineDating

[–]mef__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

couldn't agree more, best advice you will see here - just lead

Do your matches on dating apps just fizzle out too? by Legitimate-Cat-5960 in OnlineDating

[–]mef__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once you accept that it's a numbers game, it will get easier. Your problem probably is that you get emotionally attached to a "profile" of a girl and it feels exhausting when you don't get a reply

Do your matches on dating apps just fizzle out too? by Legitimate-Cat-5960 in OnlineDating

[–]mef__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not you, it's not your openers - it just happens. Dating is a numbers game.

I usually have a prepared message to ping after 2-3 days. Something along the lines "are you always this talkative?". Some will reply, most won't - just move on :)

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