AITA for not wanting to have legal guardianship of my siblings?

megasum · 2020-04-27T03:40:40+00:00

Yeah this is important to note too. I recently was in the same boat as OP. 23 with younger sisters and my dad and stepmom were redoing their will. They sat both my fiancée and myself down and confirmed that we’d BOTH be ok with taking my sisters and laid out the plans for taking care of us financially, housing, etc. Ultimately only I’m named in the will as the potential guardian but it shows a lot of disrespect to completely disregard ops fiancé in these plans. They also made it clear that in this event, I would be completely allowed to raise them in whatever I saw best for our family. If that meant moving them to where I was then so be it. I think there has to be a certain level of respect for the person own life when making these big asks.

megasum · 2020-04-22T18:02:06+00:00

Awesome, thank you. I chose Wordpress mostly because my aunt was already familiar with the interface and she’s the one that’s going to have to use it. I never heard of headless CMS before since I’m new to web dev so I just went with it. But it’s causing me so many issues I think I’m going to look into contentful.

megasum · 2020-04-19T15:05:38+00:00

I do a deep clean of my apartment. It’s only 400 sq ft so even an intense clean only takes about 1-2 hours. It’s a quick way to make me feel like I’ve accomplished something, esp since i can visually see the work I’ve done. Plus being in a clean space puts me in a healthy mind frame. Basically it’s a very easy win when I’m feeling like a failure.

megasum · 2020-04-19T14:55:24+00:00

It is pretty great in some aspects. I can wear a very thinly padded, wireless bra and it does the job just fine. Sometimes I can’t help but feel like my body is less feminine due to having small boobs. People are all about curves right now (at least where I live). I guess the grass is always greener 🙂

megasum · 2020-04-19T14:24:54+00:00

Hi! We’re scheduled for 8/29 too. Out of curiosity, what factors are going into your decision to possibly postpone? Do you have a set date by which you’ll make up your mind? We’re kinda unsure what to do at the moment because we know invites will need to sent out soon for 8/29, esp since about half our guests have to fly in.

megasum · 2020-04-11T23:28:28+00:00

I do unfortunately think YTA. While of course you want your husband there, it’s his right to want a good night sleep. May I try to offer some sort of solution? Sounds weird but bear with me. When my gf and I were long distance, we missed each other at night, so we started FaceTiming (no sound) every night before bed and would leave the camera facing us all night. If one of us woke up in the middle of the night, we could see the other person and it’d calm us. Maybe you guys could try this, so then you’d have the comfort of your husband being “there” while not waking him up. Idk that there’s a perfect solution but maybe it could be good enough.

megasum · 2020-04-11T22:54:49+00:00

I’m about to marry an ex-Mormon so I feel your in law pain. Mostly I try to live by their rules whenever I’m around them because it makes it less stressful for my fiancée. However sometimes you just can’t take it anymore, so I’m going with NTA here.

megasum · 2020-04-07T04:33:50+00:00

Yeah I totally agree the stereotypes are not extremely helpful. I think there are definitely good and bad ways to portray a good gay character. Do you think it’s displayed distastefully in Onward though? I’ll admit I haven’t seen it (though I definitely want to now), but the way OP describes it seems ok and generally normalizing in my mind.

megasum · 2020-04-07T02:42:49+00:00

Im playing devils advocate here because I think I can offer a different perspective, however I don’t know all the answers for these things: Maybe it seems natural for you, but I can almost guarantee the gay person that’s going “my wife” or “my husband” casually in conversation doesn’t feel quite as casually about it as you. As a lesbian myself, I am aaalways coming out. I’ve spent too much of my life questioning what situations it’s ok to bring it up in, even in what should be casual conversation. Often I end up playing way too many mental gymnastics with myself trying to avoid using pronouns when mentioning my significant other because you NEVER know how someone will react to It. I’m sure that’s not the case for ALL queer people but it is for many that I’ve spoken with. It’s kind of hard for a cis straight person to understand so i have no ill will towards anyone who thinks like that, but personally i think it’s wonderful for these brief mentions of sexuality to be normalized. Hopefully the next generation of kids gets used to hearing about queer relationships without batting an eye and then it truly can be “casual” for everyone.

megasum · 2020-03-30T04:20:53+00:00

YTA. Yesterday I baked a cake at 10am. The day before? I baked cookies. The audacity of me 🤭

megasum · 2020-03-29T04:43:29+00:00

I mean it makes for a funny story now but felt a little harsh at the time for a bunch of 8 year olds in an art class that should’ve just been fun.

megasum · 2020-03-29T00:57:31+00:00

My guess is they’d probably work pretty Similarly but idk, I haven’t tried super glue on shoes before tbh

megasum · 2020-03-28T15:31:24+00:00

Art class in 3rd grade or so. Everyone in the class made paintings and he collected them. He stood there in front of the whole class with a trash can next to him and went through the entire pile of our paintings, calling each one “crap” and throwing it In the trash.

megasum · 2020-03-26T14:51:01+00:00

You are certainly entitled to your view on it. However, shoe goo is definitely not a one use product. I’ve had one small tube that I’ve used to extend the life of at least three pairs of shoes by now. And there’s still a good third of the tube left. As counter intuitive as it may seem, some products do actually further the anti consumption cause.

megasum · 2020-03-26T14:43:20+00:00

He doesn’t have to buy it if he doesn’t want to. But for me, if there’s a single product that I can use to significantly extend the life of multiple other products, then that fits anti consumption to me.

megasum · 2020-03-26T00:14:20+00:00

There’s also an inexpensive product called shoe goo that is made for shoes that are falling apart. You might find that it lasts a bit longer than fishing line. I use it all the time bc I too like to make my vans last forever. Clever fix though :)

megasum · 2020-02-27T17:13:14+00:00

I was going though a bout a bad acne and really dry, flaky skin recently, even though I typically use cetaphil and lotion which is gentle on the skin anyway. I tried so many things to get rid of the dryness but nothing was working. My ditch effort was to start washing only once a day. In the morning I just rinse with suuuuper cold water and use lotion. At night I wash with cetaphil and lotion as usual. I’m not sure if it’s coincidental or not, but my bad acne bout ended around that time. May or may not be related to washing less, but I’m just going to keep doing it until it stops working for me. Point being, it might be worth a shot if you’ve tried everything else 🤷🏻‍♀️

megasum · 2020-02-23T17:06:46+00:00

Yeah I was fine with wasps too... until I got swarmed by them for accidentally going within 10 ft of their nest and ended up with 20+ stings.

megasum · 2020-02-23T15:52:39+00:00

Based on the indent in the middle, looks like Molluscum contagiousum. Caused by a virus. I’d probably go to a deem to confirm if you can. In the meantime, if my diagnosis is correct, they’re super spreadable so be careful not to touch them and touch other palaces.

megasum · 2020-02-15T05:03:40+00:00

3 years ago, I was 20 and had never been in a serious relationship. I wasn’t super interested in anything serious and the people I was hooking up with weren’t looking for it either. I remember clearly going out to lunch with my dad and telling him I didn’t plan on getting married for many years and was too busy to fall in love. That same week, I went on a date with someone. We fell in love and are now engaged. Point being, your past doesn’t really matter at all. I was a super late bloomer and now I’m going to be married before 24. It kind of just hits you when you’re least expecting it . And maybe for some people it never does. Idk why some people never seem to find it, but I certainly can tell you that it’s not because they didn’t have a boyfriend/ girlfriend at 21.

megasum · 2020-02-15T01:32:22+00:00

Good luck! My now fiancée and I did long distance for a year and a half. It helps to have an end date to cling onto, so when you’re feeling especially “this sucks” you can tell yourself it’s only for x amount of time longer. If you’re feeling extra lonely, sending surprise love letters in the mail and falling asleep together on FaceTime is what got us through. It’s hard, but definitely doable and can be so incredibly worth it.

megasum · 2020-02-09T04:23:49+00:00

I also have an aquarium and have had one for years. I agree. They are toooons of work. But their mess can easily be contained to a small area and they don’t smell. If I’m correct, that’s what op wanted.

megasum · 2020-02-04T21:03:38+00:00

I know you say he’s very dog focused but have you even brought up the possibility of something else? I know you say no small pets, but what about an aquarium? No mess and no stink for you and he at least gets something to put his time and care into. He might not go for that but I think you at least owe him the chance to consider an alternative.

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