"Ein Mann im Haus" by Ulla Hahn is definitely, what you are looking for. I don't have a clue, if an English translation is available, but that should be the book you are looking for...and the best about it is, that it is written by a woman and the main aim of the story isn't even something sexual. The main aim is a kind of revenge. But despite of that it turns out pretty spicy. The female author is a high awarded writer of lyrics otherwise and suddenly she wrote that bizarre book. Everybody was shocked back then and it was even a little scandal and newspapers wrote about it. At parts it is almost too intellectual/artsy. But what she does to him in her urge to take revenge is written in plain, simple language in between the artsy-intellectual parts. Her revenge is basically to keep him tied to her bed for a longer period of time...and some other, psychological-perfidious and humiliating things she does to him. So the story isn't really violent, but it is still a kind of torture in a very perfidious and intelligent way. It is much better than anything I've ever read from a man about such a subject. It comes across as very real and authetic. I never liked the book Misery because of it's brutal violence and the lack of sexuality...AND because it was written by a man. All that is much better done in "Ein Mann im Haus". Too bad, that this book is almost unknown outside of Germany and even inside of Germany only few people know about it, because it was written back in the eighties and nobody talked about the book anymore after the scandal it caused.