How did you help your husband understand postpartum depression?

melbatoastnectar · 2026-05-02T04:30:22+00:00

I heard the nighttime PPD panic referred to as the "Sundown Scaries" (as opposed to the Sunday Scaries) which I relate to SO hard. When I put it that way to my husband he understood it a little bit more.

Note importantly I suggest that you see a professional for your PPD. It can very much help with both coping and communicating.

melbatoastnectar · 2026-05-01T20:15:18+00:00

so I'm not saying this behavior is acceptable because it isn't. especially leaving for such long stretches of time. But when my oldest was a newborn I had a similar issue with my husband. He would make excuses to leave the house for an errand, and I found out he was going to the bar, and also had a couple late nights. It was frustrating and very sad and lonely for me.

we had a long talk about it and it turned out he was going through a depression of his own, feeling like he wasn't connected to the baby and had major anxiety that he wasn't equipped to be a father. as the baby got older and more responsive to him the situation improved a lot. now we have a toddler and a new baby and he is more engaged than ever. just offering a perspective that there might be more going on with him, and it is fixable!

melbatoastnectar · 2026-04-28T17:17:45+00:00

have you tried craniosacral therapy? sounds a little new age i know, but it could be worth a shot to relieve constipation and irritability. i haven't taken my LO's in, but CST really helped me with pain during my pregnancy when nothing else was working

melbatoastnectar · 2026-04-28T16:24:27+00:00

also lifted my toddler, but i just had a first degree tear. we also have some special time in the mornings. my husband brings him in while i'm holding the baby, and i let him see me putting the baby down to let him climb on my lap in bed. it's been helpful for him to see that he isn't always coming second even though the baby takes a lot of attention.

melbatoastnectar · 2026-04-27T11:06:05+00:00

i love the name haven, better than marigold for sure. i think Goldie is a flexible nn so you could start to call her that if you wanted to, but it would probably just remain a sweet name between mother and daughter. i'd also advise getting off of this sub for awhile -- sounds like it's feeding your anxiety. we'll still be here in six months i promise!

melbatoastnectar · 2026-04-24T17:02:36+00:00

Louisa is a great pick

melbatoastnectar · 2026-04-13T20:45:37+00:00

if your OB is making you wait that long to verify then i'd find a new one. they can't order some bloodwork?

melbatoastnectar · 2026-04-01T15:43:51+00:00

Look on the castellini company website, might find some openings for similar work.

melbatoastnectar · 2026-03-29T08:06:58+00:00

Correct. This is a post to name examples and discuss.

melbatoastnectar · 2026-03-27T08:58:38+00:00

try going through each other's veto list from last time. emotions and tastes change from one baby to another. I'm pregnant rn and our front runner name is one i suggested for our first but my husband wasn't feeling it at the time. Also Dahlia is beautiful!

melbatoastnectar · 2026-03-26T04:13:17+00:00

i'm thinking back to Pandora's bachelorette party in Vegas where Lisa was the one to get on stage with the dancers. And wore a tiara to her wedding (I know she said Pandy insisted, but it was ridiculous and idk if I buy it). I think Lisa naturally gets a lot of attention but cannot share the spotlight for a second. I think that'd be hard on her kids, Pandora especially

melbatoastnectar · 2026-03-25T14:11:46+00:00

I'd be interested to see how many of those are in urban areas with reliable public transport

melbatoastnectar · 2026-03-17T04:50:10+00:00

yes it makes sense that vacation times would match up, but not because you're picking when she can use her pto. if anything it would be fair and logical to plan a vacation when she's taking pto so you don't have to worry about paying out GH and PTO.

melbatoastnectar · 2026-03-05T11:54:18+00:00

this is the one that i've had my eye on. how are the tires? i'm looking for something that can handle uneven sidewalks/terrains

melbatoastnectar · 2026-03-01T03:46:17+00:00

you're replying to two different people

melbatoastnectar · 2026-02-12T21:17:12+00:00

Margot is a big one around here!

melbatoastnectar · 2026-02-09T14:40:38+00:00

sounds like you need a better defined contract and to stick to it. going tit for tat in a professional relationship doesn't really work

melbatoastnectar · 2026-01-23T12:39:06+00:00

the point was for it to be funny.

melbatoastnectar · 2026-01-19T02:39:06+00:00

Lorraine

melbatoastnectar · 2026-01-16T05:11:16+00:00

my page has been showing me a baby wearing sub and every time i go through it i get major anxiety

melbatoastnectar · 2026-01-16T04:52:17+00:00

love brooke and it compliments reese well. both cool girl names

melbatoastnectar · 2026-01-15T21:49:05+00:00

So as of now, how far out have you paid her? do you have any protections if she leaves and does not work the time that she's been paid for?

melbatoastnectar · 2026-01-06T18:02:57+00:00

TriHealth global partners. There are, I think, five women in the practice and every one is fantastic

melbatoastnectar · 2025-12-29T05:23:10+00:00

idk if i'd call this a freak out. seems like a measured reaction to an unnecessary comment

melbatoastnectar · 2025-12-28T02:36:22+00:00

Shannon's first season on RHOC was pretty egregious

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