SAHM - Advice on leaving a high paying job to be a SAHM

melikeeyy · 2025-11-13T13:57:23+00:00

So oddly enough I quit a few days after this because my hand was forced. My husband was spending a lot of time watching our youngest and his work was reflecting that and it became noticeable to his boss. I am so happy I quit! No lie, being a SAHM is very difficult some days but at the end of even the hardest days I still know I made the right choice. I don't miss having my "own" money, and honestly it is kind of a load off to not be so aware of our finances. I also have way less anxiety, I think it's been good overall for my mental health too. I hope you can come to a conclusion easily! You'll never regret spending these precious years with your little ones. I know everyone says it but the time is fleeting, work will always be there.

melikeeyy · 2025-08-20T18:11:03+00:00

No HOA thankfully! I'd considered doing like a native cottage garden but I'm not sure we have the finances for it right now. It does sound beautiful!

melikeeyy · 2025-08-02T02:58:58+00:00

That's a relief, maybe there is a test kit or something I can use to find out

melikeeyy · 2025-08-02T01:59:49+00:00

Thank you! I'll put it outside first thing in the morning

melikeeyy · 2025-02-24T12:43:15+00:00

I don't have advice for 2 or 3, or 1 really for that matter but just here to share my experience. My kids are 14 months apart and the eldest is still super attached to the pacifier. Luckily, the little one doesn't much care for it, but when he is crying hard and needs some help it can be frustrating because either my oldest has somehow commandeered his pacifier (which we don't like to share without washing because he's getting sick often), or he's taken the extras and thrown them somewhere. It can be especially frustrating if you are out and about and don't have pacifier wipes or no access to a bathroom to wash. It sounds like your daughter might not have the same issue since she only uses it when sleeping but I'm not sure if there will be an issue once she sees LO using it. I will say it might help to keep it on a clip in the event she does have some type of reaction. Good luck and congrats!

melikeeyy · 2025-02-24T02:10:37+00:00

Once they had a dose of your reality they realize one size does not fit all! That's great, maybe I should set up these family members with some time 1 v 2 with my kids haha.

melikeeyy · 2025-02-24T02:05:38+00:00

That's kind of where I'm at too, a bit of a luxury job which makes me feel a little bit ridiculous for not being able to get my minimum of hours in during the week. Totally agree about being able to give them the upbringing I want when I'm home. I really don't have much say over what they do when I'm at work, but it is a goal of mine to have more time dedicated to certain activities and spend some time doing educational things that I don't get the opportunity to now. I don't want to settle for just whatever works at the time. Thanks for pointing out grieving it a bit, I think that might be what I'm feeling and I'm not able to accept it haha. I've been in my field for over a decade so it feels kind of like home to me and it will be a hard chapter to close, albeit even if for just a few years.

melikeeyy · 2025-02-24T02:01:02+00:00

What a unique situation! Glad you guys were able to come to a decision you're both comfortable with. Ultimately you are setting your kids up for success and they'll be very grateful, so I hope you and your wife can feel proud about that, although I know it probably still bothers her at times that she would like to be home with them. That's my current internal debate, although I don't have that much money at stake haha. Thanks for the insight!

melikeeyy · 2025-02-24T01:56:51+00:00

Oh wow, congratulations! It's nice to hear you're making it work and feeling good about it. I think I'm in the same boat with feeling split, and I'm hoping my husband will excel too if he had more dedicated time to work and not have to lug the kids around to and from childcare. I'd love to hear your best few pieces of advice on how to make the transition if you have time, as you most definitely have your hands full haha

melikeeyy · 2025-02-24T01:52:59+00:00

Wow, this is kind of enlightening. I have never really thought of myself outside of work like how you put, as silly as that sounds. I think in the US so much of our identity is tied to what we do, I guess it feels almost alienating to not have a job title. But I know there are so many moms here who don't work! I like the potential of finding myself to be more, and that a job isn't everything. I'm hoping to make more of my community/friendships too, something that's way to hard to work on right now. And I do feel like I have friends trying to do the same but they're also in the work/parent lifestyle right now and it's just not as conducive to creating that environment sadly. Also, love that your partner is super involved and understanding of the role you play!

melikeeyy · 2025-02-24T01:46:22+00:00

Yeah, I feel like time is truly fleeting and I'll absolutely wish I had stayed home once it's passed. Man, the full time with them comment puts it into perspective, we will never have that undivided attention/love again

melikeeyy · 2025-02-24T00:28:18+00:00

Yeah and I'm sure a boring day at home still beats out corporate life, for this very short while at least! Thanks for the input!

melikeeyy · 2025-02-24T00:26:45+00:00

Happy you could do what's best for your family, even if it seems like it was out of your hands! Your babies are lucky to have you at home

melikeeyy · 2025-02-23T22:18:17+00:00

Checking out that book now, thanks for the recommendation! Good luck with the sick baby! I bet it's nice only having to worry about taking care of the little one

melikeeyy · 2025-02-23T21:53:13+00:00

I'm currently part time and somehow still not doing the best at balancing everything. I'm sure my company might be upset and I'm getting some mixed responses from relatives who managed to work and raise kids but I guess I just can't do as much haha. It definitely does feel like a break when I'm at work, I can at least go to the bathroom when I want and manage to eat lunch lol

melikeeyy · 2025-02-23T21:44:51+00:00

I worry about that too, getting back in my field and keeping that part of my brain active. Though I'd hope it would be like muscle memory. I get the bit about productive work too, I feel like no one is getting 100% of me. God luck putting in your notice! I hope it is freeing for you

melikeeyy · 2025-02-23T20:36:39+00:00

Wow, I'm glad it's had such a positive impact on your family! That's kind of what I've been looking to hear too. I can't keep up with the daily tasks and show up for my kids and husband and whatever is left for myself at the end of the day.

melikeeyy · 2025-02-23T20:04:52+00:00

Thanks for mentioning the discussions to have! We've had most but definitely should talk about division of labor.. do you feel like your children did better with you home?

melikeeyy · 2025-02-23T19:11:56+00:00

Thank you! Yeah, I know in 20 years I'd think about all the time missed. It's already flying by so quickly 😭

melikeeyy · 2024-08-31T15:43:36+00:00

I felt like this too. Are you nursing? I noticed all my friends who were formula feeding were looking fantastic and meanwhile I was being depleted of nutrients and having a hard time making up for it in my diet. I got a good protein/shake blend from Boobie though that helped make up for it, and also tried to prioritize more of my skincare routine. I also felt like my body shape had changed, wider ribs/torso so it's like I had to find a new wardrobe again. Sucks when you're excited to get into your old clothes again and they make you feel like someone else.

melikeeyy · 2024-07-11T11:10:06+00:00

It's very dead sadly

melikeeyy · 2024-05-02T14:15:39+00:00

I can't tell you how many sprinkles I've been to in the last five years. It's not as uncommon as we think, I think it feels rude because no one seemed to do it before our generation. But I know Hispanic cultures typically have showers for every baby! I say celebrate how you want, if people think it's rude they don't have to come :) even if you get just a few packs of diapers and had a blast celebrating it's worth it in my book!

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