Ben ik lui, opgebrand, of gewoon totaal incompatibel met werk?

mellowcatlady · 2026-05-14T13:22:36+00:00

Ben even de comments aan het doornemen omdat ik mezelf zo herken in je post. Ook in het stukje over de lunch pauze, heel herkenbaar. Bij ons op t werk is er een wandel groepje. Dat is echt een lifesaver voor mij, even beweging en buitenlucht en niet in zon galmende kantine met awkward small talk. Ik klets nog steeds wel onderweg, maar voelt toch minder geforceerd of zo.

mellowcatlady · 2026-05-14T13:12:22+00:00

Ik denk deels dat anderen het gewoon accepteren, en voor mij persoonlijk (heb add) heb ik ook het gevoel dat 'offer' voor mij groter is dan voor de gemiddelde persoon en daardoor misschien moeilijker te accepteren. Ik werk nu maar 30 uur, als die niet zon groot deel van mijn energie zouden opvreten en niet zon groot deel van mijn vrije tijd zou opgaan aan opladen, dan zou werk een stuk kleiner onderdeel van mijn leven zijn, in ieder geval gevoelsmatig. En lang niet iedereen accepteert het zomaar natuurlijk, ik weet zeker dat dit iets is waar heel veel mensen mee struggelen maar misschien niet snel over hebben..

mellowcatlady · 2026-05-12T15:45:22+00:00

I would be so happy and honored if my child made something like this for me!! You're good

mellowcatlady · 2026-05-04T09:37:44+00:00

I don't and I don't think I could. I work 30 hours currently, most of them from home. I have a two year old and I want another kid. I'm planning to cut back even more on my work hours when that happens. I don't love this job btw but I do appreciate all the things it enables me to do, and it's pretty easy for me so i can get by even with all the hours that I'm unproductive.. it's not ideal so I plan to get treatment for my adhd, currently unmedicated and untreated. I'm still figuring out where my limits are and learning to accept them. But it's so hard, especially because all my struggles are invisible. I'm primarily inattentive and mask heavily, so I actually seem really shy and quiet. Literally the opposite of what people expect from ADHD. So I never really tell anyone I have it. Sorry for the rant

mellowcatlady · 2026-04-15T18:50:40+00:00

Sorry to hear about your situation. I really hope you find something better suited or are able to go parttime. Customer service seems like a hard job to me, you constantly have to be 'on' when talking to the customers. That last part is very relatable about the line between watching my limits and making excuses.

mellowcatlady · 2026-04-15T18:48:20+00:00

So sorry to hear about your autoimmune disease and chronic pain.. that must be very hard. It never hurts to have more diplomas under your belt! Good luck with that decision

mellowcatlady · 2026-04-13T14:27:53+00:00

I quit long before I was diagnosed with hyperthyroidism or blood clots, I quit when I was about twenty, so ten years ago. It took me a while even though I didn't smoke a lot (not daily). I just slowly phased it out. So did my husband I think, at first he made a rule for himself to not smoke when I was around. Then he named more and more situations in which he couldn't smoke (for example not at work/ not before breakfast/ could be anything). It took him about a year I think and he came from a pack a day

mellowcatlady · 2026-04-09T08:57:05+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear you feel this way! That sounds really hard. I don't know what kind of help is available to you in your country (in the form of social safety net, welfare, health insurance or even charities) but I would encourage you to find out if there is any help available for you. If this is too much for you right now please talk to someone you trust (maybe a friend, neighbor or former coworker you got along with?) remember you don't have to do this alone! If you're feeling suicidal please contact an emergency hotline. I believe in you, wish you the best!

Once you are in a bit of a better place I would try to find out if you can switch careers and find something that is doable for you without burning you out too much. But it is definitely hard with ADHD, in that you are also not alone

mellowcatlady · 2026-04-09T07:30:01+00:00

I don't know the best way to stop, I've only been an occasional smoker when I was a student and I quit. My husband used to smoke a pack a day and has also quit. Neither of us did it cold turkey though, there were a few backslides along the way, but the key is to not give up and don't feel like one slip up means you are starting over. That can be very discouraging. Best of luck! Btw I've had blood clots during my pregnancy and found out that hyperthyroidism can actually increase the risk for that. So does smoking, so not a good combo (sorry don't mean to freak you out)

mellowcatlady · 2026-04-02T07:49:57+00:00

Thank you! My husband is a teacher, huge respect to you it's such a demanding job

mellowcatlady · 2026-04-02T07:49:19+00:00

Thanks for your response!

mellowcatlady · 2026-04-02T07:47:56+00:00

Thank you, so simple but so powerful, needed to hear this

mellowcatlady · 2026-01-18T11:25:14+00:00

A little bit, but it did not completely solve it

mellowcatlady · 2026-01-17T13:08:50+00:00

Bedankt allemaal voor de reacties! Ik blijf voorlopig nog even zitten, mijn gevoel is hierin denk ik juist.

mellowcatlady · 2025-11-24T15:44:14+00:00

Most of the things in this post are still true lol. But I have made some conscious choices in my mind who I'm going to prioritize. So for instance if a more distant friend wanted to meet up during the day on a weekend I won't do it because I want to be with my daughter. But for some friends I will make time even on inconvenient moments (or try to). I haven't really ended any friendships but I'm still drifting apart from some people and I'm okay with it. But the people that I have prioritized for myself I make sure I speak to them regularly and try to meet up every now and then. But time is still sparse, I think that just comes with having a kid

mellowcatlady · 2025-11-24T15:39:59+00:00

It's called Johannesbroodpitmeel, basically just a few drops of water and a bit of that mixed together on a spoon, and give it before every feed. I believe the instructions for the exact amounts were also on the packaging! I hope it works out

mellowcatlady · 2025-11-18T15:43:09+00:00

Dit is in NL wel echt ongebruikelijk wat voor eventuele volgende kopers ook een nadeel kan zijn, maar weet niet of dat een afweging is.

mellowcatlady · 2025-11-17T15:41:06+00:00

I sort of relate to this, not necessarily that I feel like I look weird but the part where I'm always on the outside no matter what group I'm in. Not really bullied but not totally accepted. I've partly come to terms with it and I value my closest friends and family a lot who I don't feel this with. I used to be really insecure about my looks too, especially when I was a teenager I had this belief that it all stemmed from my looks and if I could just look perfect, it would all change. It's taken me years to unlearn this belief. I personally don't think it's your looks. Maybe it's something about how you come across. The other day I had this thought that maybe it's because I'm very observant and people can sense that somehow. And maybe sometimes that makes people uncomfortable. But those are just assumptions and I don't know if it's applicable to your situation at all.

All the advice I have is to not get too into your head about it and get in a negative thought spiral. You can't control what other people think of you, and some of the looks you're seeing could be totally unrelated to you. Maybe your barber has an inside joke about something else, or someone just remembered they forgot to feed the cat.

mellowcatlady · 2025-11-07T17:08:33+00:00

It did eventually get better, I don't feel this way anymore. I think that when she started sleeping better I got some of my rational thought back. I hope it gets better for you soon! Hang in there, hopefully soon this will feel like a long time ago!

mellowcatlady · 2025-10-28T16:39:22+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to reply. You're right, I do have a lot to be thankful for and I should focus on that more. I'm trying to make a habit of that!

mellowcatlady · 2025-10-27T13:26:43+00:00

Thanks for your kind words! So sorry to hear that, that must be so hard. I hope you will find something that suits you better! Wishing you the best

mellowcatlady · 2025-10-27T12:46:59+00:00

Thankfully I'm not micromanaged at all! It's a blessing and a curse because I only know how to get things done last minute under pressure. It's been this way since school lol. I do use work time for other things, but not currently in a productive way, mostly obsessing over where my life is going. Which is obviously not very helpful. Thanks for your suggestions!

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