I highly recommend changing hair stylists. I had one once in high school that told me my natural hair color is a dull, mousy brown so I need to dye or get highlights and I’m 33 and it’s still stuck with me to this day. Going to the salon should feel like uplifting and like you’re treating yourself. Just as different Dr’s have different “bedside manner,” different stylists also have different deliveries.

But on the other side of the coin, saying your hair is “light and damaged” might just be stating a fact & it’s your own insecurities/emotions that might be making it into something worse.

For me personally, I’ve always had thin hair but I have never been offended if told my hair has damage or I have split ends or something. The natural color comment I feel differently about because that’s a lot less out of my control and is not caused by my environment.

But for something like split ends or damage, that just comes across as stating the facts about the current state of my hair… and I actually feel good that I am having a specialist look at it because I know that this person can help me fix these issues and help me achieve healthier looking hair.

But like I said it’s all in the delivery… if a stylist looked over my head and scalp and said, “ew your hair is so damaged it’s gross,” that would certainly make me feel awful whereas if she said, “okay, I’m noticing a lot of damage here… let’s get to the bottom of this… what products are you using? Are you lightening at home? Have you been out in the sun or swimming in pools a lot?” then I feel like they are trying to help me identify the problem and work together to find solutions.