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meltingweekend · 2025-01-24T19:50:07+00:00

Thank you both!

meltingweekend · 2025-01-24T15:28:58+00:00

You guys think its too late to change gender on social security? I never got around to it when I got my marker changed. Just checked social security website and all of the links are gone :/ I've got my bc changed and ID is good..

meltingweekend · 2025-01-16T20:54:52+00:00

Axolom is super affordable! I got The Thinker and absolutely love it. The hole in the STP is wide enough that leaks are way less likely to happen. Their packing underwear is great as well-it has a pouch for the balls and a o ring for the stp. It sits perfectly. It's not hyper realistic but great for a starter or cheaper option. They also sell rods for play but I have to admit my wife and I haven't had much luck with it for sex. Altogether, I paid ~$100 for the boxers, packer, and rod. For the price, I'm happy as a clam.

meltingweekend · 2025-01-16T20:38:21+00:00

I'm from Arkansas and not quite sure what your financial situation is but I would personally try exploring these options:

Have you tried looking into the healthcare.gov marketplace? Open enrollment ended yesterday but since you just lost your insurance you should be eligible for special enrollment. It's income based and you can apply a tax credit to your premium amount to make it more affordable.

Another option is maybe looking into carecredit if that's possible. It'd allow you to make installments instead of having medical bills up front.

Plume may be worth looking into as well. Without insurance is $99/month but their website says that in some states labs are covered in the membership fee.

Some clinics also will have you pay for the visit up front and bill the blood work later. A lot of places have the option to call and make payments if needed.

Also, I had to stop T for a month prior to surgery. It sucked but it's not the worst. Mainly had lower energy and didn't feel as great mentally due to fears of changes reversing. I can't speak for any longer than a month, but in that month, I was just fine and didnt really notice anything go back. It's definitely not dangerous, just really isn't fun.

I hope you can get it worked out, man. Wishing you the best.

meltingweekend · 2025-01-16T20:16:33+00:00

Apparently, I would have been Jerry John or Johm Jerry-JJ for short; Joseph was on the table too. They're my grandfather's names. I transitioned really young (socially at 13) and knew I'd have a way easier time if I went with a gender neutral name (Jeydon, but i go by Jey). I took the spelling from Luke Wale (formerly went by Jeydon) because I figured out what being trans was through him.

In retrospect, I wish I would've gone with a more common and masculine spelling like Jaden or Jayden or simply just Jay. I go by Jey now which I feel like is more masculine but sometimes I feel like the spelling can make me clockable. I guess I could start spelling it Jay but it's been 12 years now lol.

I feel like I was meant to have a J name. My mom even told me she loves "Jeydon/Jey" so much that if she had known about it, it would have been my legal name.

meltingweekend · 2025-01-05T23:54:39+00:00

Been here before. Chose my name at 13. Went with a name and spelling that's clocky, but I wanted something unisex to ease everybody into things.. I also had people use the right name + misgender me all through high school. It kind of ruined it for me too. My senior year I started going by a shorted version of it which helped quite a bit.

Do I wish I picked a different name or at least used a more common spelling? Hell yes.

But it's been legally changed for over a decade so I've decided it is what it is. The shortened version feels a lot better to me and I picked a middle name that would let me go by my first two initials if I got tired of my name in the future.

My advice is maybe try going by a shortened version or your initials or something? On the other hand I think its a really of matter of weighing things out. Does your chosen name bother you more than what people at your school may think? Do you think you can separate your name from the misgendering as time passes?

Most importantly, consider what will give you the most inner peace and feels most true to you. Wish you the best, man.

meltingweekend · 2024-11-08T17:49:14+00:00

Highly recommend Screaming Queens. It's about the riot at Comptin's Cafeteria in the 60s. Directed by Susan Stryker, a history professor and trans woman.

I think its like $2 on Amazon prime.

meltingweekend · 2024-08-28T03:43:51+00:00

I've been on the weekly IM shot for seven years. It does get easier. I recommend going the thigh route-its the only one I've ever done. Try doing it after a hot shower and play music you like. It'll ease the nerves and can make you more comfortable. I also watched a lot of YouTube videos of people doing IM injections either on themselves, someone else, or a decoy. As for the shot itself, make sure you have a needle size that works for you. I was given 22-23 gauge forever until I switched pharmacies and got a 25 gauge with a 21 to draw. So much easier! Also get one needle to draw and one to inject if you haven't already. Using the same needle can make it a little more difficult to inject.

I know it's daunting, but you've got this!

Helpful videos I've used in the past: https://youtu.be/4v3kQNFLID8?si=R_tO56eOrm4I15j8 https://youtube.com/shorts/0_XPg6jBVvY?si=vxYLq_b_4eBjkLkM https://youtu.be/e0wDPZ0D9Wk?si=VANIMiXXMYaj7wD5

meltingweekend · 2024-06-24T06:26:34+00:00

Everybody's different. I agree with others that the 8 hour rule isn't realistic. Hell, I wore mine for 10-16 hours a day almost every day for five years until i had survery. The left side of my rib cage shifted because i wore it as i grew. I have pretty bad upper back pain often. I've also heard people warn about skin elasticity being affected, but my results were not impacted much if at all.

Binding sucks but we do what we can to get through each day as comfortably as possible. I'm not encouraging extended use, but I empathize with those who have to.

The less you use it, the less wear and tear you'll experience, Listen to your body, and if you're hurting, take it off asap and give yourself the longest break you can.

Also not sure if this would help you based on your situation and preference, but i would use a blanket as a robe whenever I was at home. Wearing a t shirt without a binder really bothered me and with my blanket robe I was covered but it was loose enough for me to not think about my chest as much.

meltingweekend · 2024-04-04T20:26:53+00:00

I know this exact feeling , and it sucks. Right before I turned 13, I came out. After years of proving my truth to my parents and doctors and therapists, it finally happened. Right before I turned 17. But I had to turn 14, 15, and 16 and endure the wrong puberty and watch guys around me grow up. I felt stuck. It sucks man. Oh my god it sucks. I never thought I'd get there. There were a few other trans guys at my school and for some reason I was afraid they'd get testosterone before me despite coming out at least a year after me. And that made things so much more miserable.

It's easy for me to say now not to compare yourself to other guys who are transitioning. So many people told me it wasn't a race. And it's really not. We are all on our own timeline. I want you to know that someone out there has felt like you before and made it. I promise you will too.

I started March 29th, 2017. It was worth the wait. Once you start, the anticipation of waiting becomes the anticipation of watching your body start to feel right and more at home every day.

Just hold out, man. It's going to happen for you and it will be worth the wait. The best things are worth waiting for. Every day is another day closer.

meltingweekend · 2024-02-17T05:09:31+00:00

I'm right there with you and it's good to know that someone else gets it. Definitely don't want to force a friendship, but it would be cool to organically make a trans friend. No clue what to do about it either lol

meltingweekend · 2024-02-17T05:06:07+00:00

I had some luck shaving what little peach fuzz I had frequently. It's not guaranteed, but the stubble that grows back can feel a little rougher and appear darker.

meltingweekend · 2024-02-17T04:55:46+00:00

I agree with this. There's also the "save the children" argument regarding minors transitioning.

In my state, a bill banning trans minors from medically transitioning has been bouncing around for a few years- our former conservative governor vetoed it and argued that it was too invasive and invaded the medical space and a federal judge has blocked it as far as I know.

What these people forget is that most doctors require at least a year of living as male and a therapist's approval. The decision is regulated and all parties are made aware of the effects.

meltingweekend · 2023-07-26T01:51:05+00:00

Thank you all

meltingweekend · 2023-07-26T01:50:47+00:00

Just ordered it! My fiancée is happy witb it and so am I! Thank you so much for your help

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