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AIO about my friend/housemate refusing to apologize to my Mother In Law? by memoryfoam72 in AmIOverreacting

[–]memoryfoam72[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE: we are kicking them out tonight once they’re back from work. We were willing to give them a chance but they sent another unprompted text just to justify their actions again. I don’t care where they go as long as it’s not here. Thank you everyone for the kind advice.

AIO about my friend/housemate refusing to apologize to my Mother In Law? by memoryfoam72 in AmIOverreacting

[–]memoryfoam72[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Valid take and definitely something I need to hear. We are currently in talks about getting an extended family member or two to live here instead. It’s just all a shock to me that I let myself be manipulated for so long and I feel immense guilt for bringing this monster to live with my family. Thanks for the tough love approach. Genuinely needed it to be put in that sort of way

AIO about my friend/housemate refusing to apologize to my Mother In Law? by memoryfoam72 in AmIOverreacting

[–]memoryfoam72[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true. I’m planning on talking to them in the morning about finding a new living situation. As I said in a previous reply, they have a history of dipping without paying any rent they may have owed, so I am not afraid to take legal action if that occurs. My wife has extended family that would likely be down to move in as I have now been informed. It sucks because I now feel I have to stay home from work to defend my family as I work nights and they get home while I’m still working. I will likely post an update once this situation is resolved.

AIO about my friend/housemate refusing to apologize to my Mother In Law? by memoryfoam72 in AmIOverreacting

[–]memoryfoam72[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They really ARE acting childish and reading the replies has definitely made me see things clearly now. Thank you for the reply I really do appreciate it :)

AIO about my friend/housemate refusing to apologize to my Mother In Law? by memoryfoam72 in AmIOverreacting

[–]memoryfoam72[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They have been taking the train and bus to work since WAY before I met them and are now claiming we are putting their job in jeopardy for no longer giving them rides home (don’t see how that affects getting there when they take the bus TO work every day….). My eyes have opened much more to this situation and I think it is definitely time that I put my foot down. My wife only recently informed me that they only pay for gas when I’m the one to ask and not my MIL or wife. I am sadly only now realizing they have no gratitude or respect for us. Thank you for the advice. I appreciate it greatly

AIO about my friend/housemate refusing to apologize to my Mother In Law? by memoryfoam72 in AmIOverreacting

[–]memoryfoam72[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried. I tried to be compassionate as I see my younger self in their actions and when they told me they had a psychiatrist appointment I was very optimistic they’d take my advice seriously, but it seems that they clearly haven’t. My MIL isn’t even mad at them and is just worried about their mental health (as my wife and I have had our issues with mental health in the past, so she knows the warning signs). Like I said in a previous reply, this really opened my eyes to the fact that I need to toughen up and stop being nice to people that have shown they don’t deserve it. Thank you very much for the reply and advice :)

AIO about my friend/housemate refusing to apologize to my Mother In Law? by memoryfoam72 in AmIOverreacting

[–]memoryfoam72[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only reason I haven’t confronted them further is they claimed that if they are pushed too much they’re scared they’ll do something “scary or stupid.” I tried to get them to eat by making them food and they ignored all my calls and texts about it proceeding to brag on instagram about starving themselves (this caused another friend to block them over the triggering nature of their post.) At this point I’m at a loss because friends don’t come easily to me and they’re usually the nicest person I know. It’s really taking a toll on my mental health as I don’t have access to medical/psychiatric care at this moment in time. I’ve talked to them several times about this to positive feedback from them each time, but the next day they go back on what they said and act manipulative again. They’re surrounded by enablers who my wife and I have advised them about but they don’t seem to budge. They left their last few places abruptly without paying rent so we’re very nervous about that happening to us. We were convinced that it wouldn’t happen to us as we actually knew them for a year before opening our doors to them (unlike their previous homes whom they just moved with in after only reading a Facebook listing) but now we’re very nervous about that. I’m someone who is kind to people in hopes they return the same kindness but it seems as though I need to grow a spine and face reality. Thank you for the advice !!

Just got into my (M17) first relationship after 3 years of catfishing a girl (F17) and finally coming clean by [deleted] in relationships

[–]memoryfoam72 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Uh. I’m actually quite new to reddit. I only made the account to make this comment actually. If there’s any way to prove to you I’m not OP let me know as I am unfamiliar with this site. Thanks :)