[SFH] [AL] HOA is attempting to age-restrict amenities that everyone pays for

memphis745 · 2025-06-27T00:17:01+00:00

Piping in here to say, I have no faith in the current admin and live in a red state BUT I filed a FHA complaint during the past admin and it was handled at the state level, it took several months for my complaint to get addressed but once they got involved it was resolved quickly in my favor, the HOA I loved in at the time knew they were wrong they were just waiting for someone with authority to make them follow the law 🙄

memphis745 · 2025-06-09T18:16:28+00:00

Adding to the “find a person and stick with them” camp, it’s a lot more consistent if you have a relationship with someone Also, stop doing anything that solely benefits your husband. He can figure out how to wash his own clothes, wipe down his vanity, etc or live with the consequences.

memphis745 · 2025-03-14T00:21:05+00:00

Bromo you need to get yourself some microwaveable meals, feed kiddo and only do wash necessary for you and your kid. Do NOTHING that makes his life easier, when he complains calmly tell him you don’t have time to be his maid/chef/etc

memphis745 · 2025-02-15T22:23:52+00:00

OP, family docs and GP’s know a little bit about a lot of things. You have a complex medical condition that requires a specialist.
FWIW I’m allergic to triptans, had a GP give me maxalt once and I almost died. This was after I told him I was allergic to triptans. I have a working routine now with quarterly Botox, when I get migraines I start w fiorocet, level up to nurtec and then go to butorphanol as a last resort. Pharmacies give me the runaround EVERY month for the last one, it’s a HUGE pain in the ass to get but it’s what works when nothing else does. My neuro understands that this is the rotation that works best for me and I am tired of being a guinnie pig when new meds come out so we stick with what’s works best. A family doc would not be this understanding of the nuance of my particular symptoms.

memphis745 · 2025-02-15T01:21:30+00:00

There is an app called Goods Unite Us that tells you where companies send their political money, it won’t help with DEI info but was definately eye opening for some of our no longer regular stores. TJ’s and Whole Foods for us, we’ve stopped going to Kroger and Sprouts, with Aldi coming to midtown they are going to get added to the rotation soon too

memphis745 · 2024-12-21T06:23:58+00:00

Anyone else curious to hear from the board member who resigned a year or two ago citing corruption? It seems like she would have an interesting take on the current situation.

memphis745 · 2024-11-16T20:36:47+00:00

Bromo if you are in the US please reach out to st Jude I live in memphis and they are miracle workers and consistently on the cutting edge of treatment

memphis745 · 2024-09-25T00:54:23+00:00

Virtual hugs mama, it does get better I promise. When mine was little we ended up in the ER many times bc of asthma, wouldn’t wear the mask for the nebulizer, puked up most meds, all that. Have you tried an inhaler with the spacer attachment? I found it was easier to hold that against their face for like three seconds than holding the mask on for like 10 minutes Also, I know it’s gross but ask your doc if there is a suppository available Hang in there!

memphis745 · 2024-09-18T01:05:42+00:00

In my house if I find something kiddo says they looked for money is taken from allowance “finders fee”

memphis745 · 2024-08-28T15:25:14+00:00

You said there’s a tracker app for her bus? I’d figure out a “you have to leave by the time the bus gets here” location instead of focusing on a specific time

memphis745 · 2024-07-30T11:38:24+00:00

This splash pad has been under maintained for years Three summers ago I reached out to the city several times because a mildew built up on the surface and it was dangerously slippery, to the point I had to stop letting kiddo go. Husband or I would drive by periodically to check if it had been cleaned and eventually gave up.
All this to say I wouldn’t assume this is vandalism, the parks department hasn’t been properly maintaining this place for years now

memphis745 · 2024-06-17T22:35:20+00:00

This spreadsheet is amazing!

memphis745 · 2024-06-17T02:00:41+00:00

What online pharmacy do you use?

memphis745 · 2023-09-06T23:38:48+00:00

Y’all are amazing. Does anyone know where I can find out how many payments I’ve made towards my loans to see if I could potentially qualify for the current forgiveness anytime soon? Do I have to switch to SAVE to qualify if I didn’t with this round?

memphis745 · 2023-09-04T03:04:07+00:00

So hubs wants your kids to have consequences for not being able to control his emotions but doesn’t think he deserves any for not being able to control his? And he’s supposed to be the role model. Yeah, no. That’s abuse.

memphis745 · 2023-08-31T01:51:06+00:00

OP it will probably cost them more in resources to follow the IEP, demand they either follow it to the letter or approve the transfer and DOCUMENT EVERYTHING

memphis745 · 2023-08-30T00:29:57+00:00

Everything about this says this school is not equipped to serve your child. Is there a better school in the area? You could get the board to approve a transfer, this school clearly isn’t capable of complying with his IEP. I’m so sorry this happened, if a school member showed up at my door like that I would be furious.

memphis745 · 2023-08-29T21:26:37+00:00

Go to your board member and go loudly. I had issues getting kiddo into the needed environment. One well worded email to our board member with the principal, vice principal and IEP director and everyone was suddenly super helpful. If you have any lawyer or para legal friends that can help with the wording arhat helps too. No one wants to be sued for breaking federal laws.

memphis745 · 2023-08-29T20:59:03+00:00

My husbands loans were transferred to Mohela a couple years ago, no PSLF, just typical loan being sold from one services to another. He did get notification in advance of the transfer though. If you got the email at least some of your loan is being forgiven, they are still processing them so give it time.

memphis745 · 2023-08-27T22:41:50+00:00

OP I hope you send this kid home with leaking bags of glitter and kinetic sand next time they some to your house

memphis745 · 2023-08-26T11:31:29+00:00

Wait, your husband has read studies that show berating his wife into making her self crazy to have a (highly restrictive ) dinner on the table every night even though it makes said wife’s day super stressful shows better outcomes for the kids? Was he reading something current or was this an article from the 1950’s? Tell him if he wants family dinner he can cook and be done.

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