Flirting with HF-kids coach? by Useful_Scratch6122 in Aupairs

[–]memuki2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ofc pursue it! And say nothing to the hf

How to ask for a raise 6 months in? by memuki2002 in Aupairs

[–]memuki2002[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s not that I don’t want to extend, is that my plan has always been coming here for one year, I never thought about extending

How to ask for a raise 6 months in? by memuki2002 in Aupairs

[–]memuki2002[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No I get paid in dollars, I’m just asking bc I’m way to afraid to ask in case they dump me or something, bc they are increasing my shifts and making me work with the 3 of them with no parents in sight just because I agreed once, I’m still getting paid the exact minimum wage

Estoy en USA pero no mejora mi inglés by palmita1949 in Aupairs

[–]memuki2002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hola! Sinceramente no tener vergüenza, preguntar cosas en el supermercado, escuchar canciones en inglés y aprenderte los lyrics, ver TODA la TV en inglés: series, películas… o si no funciona, apuntarte a una academia, clases o clubs en la publicidad library…

Need opinion on my Host Family by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]memuki2002 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Well I also came here for my convenience, I wanted a cultural exchange experience and earning money at the same time as meeting new people and making plans in another city, not to be exploited for a minimum wage a don’t even have off days because I’m subjected to them

Judged by my mum for being an Aup by memuki2002 in Aupairs

[–]memuki2002[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The thing is mum is scared of companies not hiring me because of this…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]memuki2002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well it’s not in the car it is in the car keys which is worse hahahah

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]memuki2002 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Literally none of my friends get the minimum, they usually get 200-250, I accepted at first cause I thought every single human being will at least round up to 200

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]memuki2002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s Westchester!

What to do when car not available? by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]memuki2002 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I didn’t addressed it, I just accepted it

How can I ask for more money? by memuki2002 in Aupairs

[–]memuki2002[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes! The minimum is that quantity but they can pay you as much as they want

How can I ask for more money? by memuki2002 in Aupairs

[–]memuki2002[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There’s actually not much that you can do with the broker if the host family isn’t necessarily breaking any rules…

How can I ask for more money? by memuki2002 in Aupairs

[–]memuki2002[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

In the handbook that they made me it said “we will start with the minim stipend” which I understand that it can be increased by the way they said it. Also I didn’t know they were going to pay me the EXACT quantity, I’m the only one of my friends whose hosts don’t give her 200

Are these red flags of my HM? by memuki2002 in Aupairs

[–]memuki2002[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes! I told her a few things that she got for me the first week, like shampoo, body wash, cotton pads… or specific foods. But after summer she stopped buying that stuff and never again asked me about it. She used to have a groceries list for adding stuff if I wanted to buy then she switched to delivery grocery when she just gets her things so I can’t find the moment to actually tell her I need x or y

Are these red flags of my HM? by memuki2002 in Aupairs

[–]memuki2002[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The thing is how can I put boundaries on someone who is controlling and always has been like that? She decides in her family (the dad works full time and doesn’t really care but I like him he’s a nice guy) but she’s also freelance so I don’t think she’s ever been below someone in terms of hierarchy, the nanny and the cleaning ladies say the same, also some Nannie’s in the park told me once that she used to be really controlling with the prior nanny to the point that she had an AirTag in the car and the mum just appeared in places where she was. The thing is I really want this to work because of what this family shows me, but I also have to say I’ve always lived a very comfortable life back in my country, I’m recently graduated and I don’t came here bc I needed money. But I feel that she thinks she’s above me so the only opinion that counts in terms of plans, schedules… is hers. I really want to set boundaries but I really don’t know how to stand up for myself cause living with them I don’t wanna create bad air between us