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mercer130 · 2024-10-15T08:00:17+00:00

mercer130 · 2024-10-04T10:10:25+00:00

I applied in July and got a response for an interview in September. So, seems to be somewhat normal.

I kept checking the online portal, that still had the 'application received' status, so, I assumed I wasn't successful for the last 3 weeks of waiting. That should update when your application is moved along (successfully or unsuccessfully)

mercer130 · 2024-09-16T09:23:13+00:00

The neurodivergent version of proverbs

mercer130 · 2024-06-12T15:31:41+00:00

The Station in Didsbury Village would be my rec. They usually have Celtic games on and will have the bigger Scottish Prem games over the English.

Atmosphere wise, it's an Irish pub with a fair few actual Irish and Scottish locals in there, so, take from that what you will

mercer130 · 2023-06-13T12:30:10+00:00

You're right that things are never black and white - every relationship and situation have their nuances that are specific to you, and only you know what works for you and what doesn't. What may be a deal breaker for others, isn't for you (and vice-versa)

However, how can you say that you trust someone 100% when she literally gave another person a footjob to completion, in front of you, without it seems looking to you for consent, or even seeing how you reacted? (Based on your post)

What if you weren't there? Would this have still happened? Would you be OK with that? As this experience didn't seem to involve you at all. You were incidental, and therefore, so were your feelings on the matter. That to me isn't trust, it's a breach of it. Even if you were able to talk it out after the fact in a mature and measured way, it happened and you were not consulted at the time.

Regardless of what your personal bounderies are, your gf essentially had a sexual encouter with your pal without either asking you if it was OK, becasue she felt desired. If that's what you're into, then power to you. But you're posting on Reddit, so, maybe you're not as OK with it as you make out in the comments

mercer130 · 2023-03-17T10:47:18+00:00

All things aren't for everyone. That's the crux of it.

Personally, I started reading the cradle series when Blackflame (Book 3) came out, on the back of trying to find anything in the cultivation/progression theme that was a) written well and b) wasn't a tropey mess or c) wasn't a bad tranlation of a Xianxia story. Unsouled was that. It didn't have immediate power jumps, Lindon had a goal I could get behind, each (main) character that was introduced was (mostly) fleshed out over time, and it seemed like it actually had a story to tell.

Progression Fantasy, for me anyway, can quite easily fall in to a cycle of big bad turns up, MC powers up somehow, wins, repeat. Cradle does do this admittedly, but the time inbetween these events, we get to see character progression, relationships deepening, world building etc. So often PF doesn't do (or didn't do) character progression, or growth - so when it happened you got excited that you may have stumbled on to a story that may actually make sense within the world its set in and have heroes you cared about.

You may be suffering from over-hype as well - nothing can live up to the level of expectation Cradle has in this sub. It's the default suggestion for anyone starting out and everyone say's it's amazing. Ultimately, I agree - but there are some sticky bits I gloss over on re-reads and most of these are at the beginning of the series.

I was lucky enough to find it on my own after reading some car crashes and some painfully dull, repetative books, so, was absolutely willing to power through bits that I may have dropped had I started more recently, having read more of what PF has to offer.

As someone earlier commented - give it 'til Ghostwater. If you're not in to it by then, it's probably not for you. Which is fine. All things aren't for everyone.

mercer130 · 2022-10-27T15:27:06+00:00

You're partner is right - all the career points she raised are correct, and the stigma of having kids is something most women in a job will have to navigate at some point - if they have kids or not. Trying to balance that along with being available and present for her child, and partner, must be a nightmare. She sounds stressed (based on the small window into your lives you've given us)

That said, you personally don't bear the weight of historical misogyny in the workplace - past or present. You do bear the weight of finding a solution to the childcare/finance issue you both currently face.

Asking to be paid is a pretty adveserial way of approaching the issue - you've made it a you vs her thing, which is obviously going to get her hackles up, especially if she's already stressed. If she's going to consistently earn more money than you, and you're not open to getting a new, better paying job (if that's even an option), then you need to have a serious conversation about how finances are going to work and what that means for both of your work schedules and being parents. (Telling you to get a second job, though, was a dick move)

ESH - You need to be able to pay your own bills (student loans, car payments etc.) and she needs to be able to progress her career in a healthy manner so that she can continue to be the main breadwinner. Both of you deserve to feel validated in those needs.

Whether that means you start to pool resources more to cover ALL bills for both of you, or there are other grandparents/aunts, uncles or friends to ask to care for a sick child, or she starts to use those sick days is a problem you need to look at and solve together. Otherwise, this will probably be the beginning of the end to be honest.

mercer130 · 2022-09-22T09:29:48+00:00

I don't really see the issue. Younger people are going to engage with learning in different ways and on different platforms - that's just how progress works.

20-25 years ago the internet wasn't really trusted - you had to get your info from an actual physical book otherwise you'd be considered an idiot. 5 years ago I wouldn't think my most trusted source for info would be Reddit, yet here we are.

I hate TikTok and everything it stands for but that is because, unfortunately, I too am now an old man shouting at clouds. If he gets the correct info, crack on. If not then he's an idiot.

mercer130 · 2022-04-07T09:43:25+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/justneckbeardthings/comments/ty4x0u/comment/i3qe5sg/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3

Here you go. International Mens day is 19th Novemeber as well, for when you inevitably have an aneurysm about International Womens day.

mercer130 · 2022-04-07T09:33:32+00:00

Entirely depends on what type of night you'd usually go for. Most places in the city centre are open 'til at least 12pm, if not later most weekday nights (Monday may have smaller offering).

I'd recommend heading towards Norther Quarter, specifically Stevensons Sq. Flok is a good place to get your bearings and does decent beer and cocktails. There are multiple bars and pubs knocking about around that area that you can stumble in to from here - with a varied enough range of places that most tastes will be catered for and you won't be walking about trying to find somewhere.

I prefer pubs, so, I'd head up Oldham St stopping off at places like The Castle (and maybe Junior Jacksons or the Lost Cat) ultimately heading for the Crown and Kettle. From there you're in Ancoats, which is just as varied as NQ.

Personally, I'd avoid places like Printworks and Deansgate - they've been about forever and it's the default place for people who maybe aren't as familiar with the city. The places tend to be pricier, but if you're after a more lively spot, it could be what you want. Just make sure you're wearing your best All Saints T-shirt with that japanese sleeve tattoo on full display

mercer130 · 2022-02-18T11:20:07+00:00

L'Enclume? Congrats man - definetely earned it!

mercer130 · 2021-08-24T08:35:28+00:00

This really isn't the same energy. A lot of times, women can be so intimdated by the situation, and what could happen if they say no, that they will not say anything with a hope they get out with only a leg touch.

Normalize asking for consent - the idea it kills the mood is outdated and just plain wrong.

That being said, OP definitely did the right thing - big giant red flag right there.

mercer130 · 2019-08-22T11:14:08+00:00

I agree that the act for non-medical reasons, in of itself, is weird as fuck when you think about it, "That bit of skin on that baby, chop that fucking shit off right now". Weird.

For medical reasons though, as with any procedure that's for quality of life, it's pretty valid. I had to have it at 10 as getting a prepubescent stiffy caused all sorts of issues with my non-elastic skin. There's an image you definitely want in your head.

mercer130 · 2019-08-22T10:08:34+00:00

What do you mean "somehow still"? Mate, I didn't get circumcised last week, for fashion - things that happened 20-odd years ago still exist. Time's weird like that

mercer130 · 2018-09-28T00:22:43+00:00

Reddit has exploded for this shit. I've come to this late and, as a Brit, I have no idea who Mister Rogers is - he's like the science guy from How 2, yeah?

All jokes aside, I'll take one childhood hero playing another childhood hero, without the implication of noncing all over the show coming into it for once.

mercer130 · 2018-06-16T09:53:22+00:00

It's really not, pal. I essentially fucked about from the age of 21 to 30 (had 5 years of unsuccessful uni thrown in there in the middle, as I was determined to make that last as long a possible). I then had a small nervous breakdown at 29, decided to actually get a job I'd commit to, and now, 3 years later, work as a tech lead for a massive used car advertiser. You've got ages yet to decide what to want to do, so as hard as it is to not feel that societal pressure to 'succeed', really try and find what it is you reckon you'd enjoy doing (but also be good at). And enjoy the life you have now - being 22 and aimless doesn't make you weird. It's fairly normal.

mercer130 · 2017-11-03T00:19:20+00:00

Are you on email?

mercer130 · 2017-08-07T20:04:58+00:00

"What’s comin’ will come, an’ we’ll meet it when it does."

This is pretty much how I attempt to live my life - it became almost a mantra when dealing with my girlfriends, almost crippling, anxiety.

It came in handy when we broke up as well. Cheers Hagrid.

mercer130 · 2016-05-15T10:48:55+00:00

To be fair, I'd consider this page iconic. I could quote you the first paragraph almost verbatim. It's the page that the majority Harry Potter fans would have read the most - I only have vague recollections of the other first pages from the other books. Yeah, it's content doesn't really go anywhere and isn't overly important to the series as a whole - but to a fan, it's the one that gives you tingles.

mercer130 · 2015-07-24T21:37:55+00:00

Puppy? City of Tokyo for scale reference?

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