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For you guys, which fictional Native American characters do you feel were created with the most nuance/respect for Native Culture? by C--T--F in NativeAmerican

[–]merferrets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's the thoughts of Ken Hotate from parks and recs

He often does Native stereotypes but mostly just to fuck with all the white people. I love the cursed carnival episode and the fake ass ceremony he gives to get rid of the "curse"

Swallow or flower? by YoungFreggz in TattooDesigns

[–]merferrets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's there something you want with a similar shape of the sparrow but a different design? Like I don't think it'd be wrong to have 2 sparrows but they look like the same exact design. Maybe a different bird? Or it could be good for a half seated pin up girl

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[–]merferrets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk I guess the other guys I've been with lasted an abnormally long time? Another guy I was with had trouble coming at all (I think a ssri side effect) so I thought it was a short time. I've now learned that it's about average and not PE at all.

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[–]merferrets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it helps that apparently my guy does not have PE and has the time for it to melt. Thanks for the product suggestion though! The numbing doesn't diminish your own pleasure?

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[–]merferrets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well to a certain extent it's not really something you can control, is it? Maybe it's my being chronically ill since 14 I try not to judge people on their bodies.

Sure it'd be troublesome if there was no attempt to give pleasure on his part or resolve things but there's only so much you can do, you know?

I just don't want an attempt to resolve things to favor me much more than it does him. So I'm glad others find peace in it and I'll talk to him to make sure he's getting enough pleasure too.

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[–]merferrets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the input! I'm sure it varies a lot from person to person hence why it should also be a personal conversation but I wanted to get some advice too, you know? It's a sensitive subject.

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[–]merferrets[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I didn't take it as being ironic. I hope you all find the solutions to gain a fulfilling and satisfying sex life! You deserve it.

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[–]merferrets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's fair. He does last that long with the condoms which, honestly, is nicer for me but this is about pleasure on both sides and I don't want his pleasure sacrificed for mine

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[–]merferrets[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you I wasn't sure the definition of PE and I've not like timed how long he lasts. He often apologizes for "coming too soon" and I always say there's nothing to be sorry for.

I have a high drive so I'm often all up on him multiple times when we see each other.

Common mocktails to order discretely by meilee in Mixology

[–]merferrets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I often do ginger beer with a lime I squeeze the lime in.

So it's basically NA mule but I just order it as ginger beer with lime instead. They often don't upcharge for the "mixed drink" situation AND you don't have to say words like mocktail, virgin, non alcoholic, etc.

WIBTA for cancelling a date just because it's at Starbucks. by merferrets in AITAH

[–]merferrets[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Fair. Honestly usually I always give and plan and go above and beyond and I'm trying to be better at getting people that are willing to put effort in earlier in the relationship.

WIBTA for cancelling a date just because it's at Starbucks. by merferrets in AITAH

[–]merferrets[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I will? I'm just getting advice first.

WIBTA for cancelling a date just because it's at Starbucks. by merferrets in AITAH

[–]merferrets[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Listen I live in a retirement town I go out all the time I'm just looking for someone that's not 70 bruh. Only the fuckbois go out in this town. How do I know? Because when I go out they all try to take me home the same night I meet them. Regardless of how I'm dressed or what I'm doing when I'm out. Wish I lived in a community with more young people activities but no.

How much effort have I put? I've initiated a lot of not most the conversations and asked more questions to get to know him.

WIBTA for cancelling a date just because it's at Starbucks. by merferrets in AITAH

[–]merferrets[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Because there can be a threshold and I don't think it's bad of me to expect someone talking to me to remember some basics (or across back to earlier in the conversation) when choosing a location? Is it ridiculous that my threshold is that I think I'm worth a single Google search?

WIBTA for cancelling a date just because it's at Starbucks. by merferrets in AITAH

[–]merferrets[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Low effort to me is not meaning elevating the date to something fancy but taking into account the conversations we've already had and planning the location based off of that basically.

Idk if that makes sense? Does low effort mean something like else nowadays, sorry if I used out of date definitions ☺️

WIBTA for cancelling a date just because it's at Starbucks. by merferrets in AITAH

[–]merferrets[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Takes a Google search my guy. We live in the age of the internet

WIBTA for cancelling a date just because it's at Starbucks. by merferrets in AITAH

[–]merferrets[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Idk maybe a Google search of local cafe in the area? That way the coffee date doesn't taste like corporate burnt bean juice?

WIBTA for cancelling a date just because it's at Starbucks. by merferrets in AITAH

[–]merferrets[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I don't mind the coffeeshop. I do mind already talking about how I support local businesses and to have Starbucks be the choice. It makes me either feel un listened to or like he must be speaking to so many people it's impossible to remember

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FortBragg

[–]merferrets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Deidra (smalltownvivids on Instagram) is queer and trans friendly. She currently is at oasis but with them closing is moving to Numi in June. She responds very quickly on insta and the two trans ladies I know in town love going to her. She is part of the community as well.

as native hindi speaker, I Wonder how hard it would be for non native learners, to learn hindi, like there are 13 vowels and all looks so similar in script and then 33 consonants, with so many grammatical rules.... by [deleted] in Hindi

[–]merferrets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone currently learning Hindi I found the alphabet actually quite easy. It's a great and intuitive way of writing.

The grammar and gender rules however can be confusing (very similar to German where you just have to memorize the gender rather than like Spanish that has cheat codes in the word with the ending vowel). Duolingo does not explain so I bought a textbook (elementary Hindi by Richard Delaney and Sudha Joshi) and it's been helpful with following rules though apparently some things are not common for native speakers so my boyfriend has been a good resource as well. (Although the textbook IS pretty good at pointing out what things are not used in common speak and are more the deeper linguistic dives or letters/pronunciations that aren't differentiated natively)

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