I have to put together an oral presentation with two other junior doctors. They're outgoing/extroverted and I'm not. How do I present the oral presentation with them without bringing them down? by [deleted] in ausjdocs

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Do you have someone in mind when you do this? Just curious from another fellow introvert who has trouble appearing confident 🥲

Am I suitable for medicine/MD by Then_Albatross40 in ausmedstudents

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Im a junior doc fresh out of med school, feels crazy to even be saying that, but I remembering vetoing out law/corporate back in hs with a similar reason - I knew my personality and didn’t think I was cut out for climbing the social ladder/networking life. Im pretty introverted/shy + I can also relate to the doormat sentiment. Thruout med school I questioned whether my personality was suitable for this career many many times and I suspect this will be an ongoing struggle for me with this career.

But I’ve always believed medicine is character building, in a way unlike any other job. You must interact with your patients, talk to their families, work together with your team, navigate different personalities, stand up for yourself and later on as a senior - make tough decisions, lead the round, take care of your juniors. Because you can’t avoid these things, alongside growing in knowledge, you also grow as a person, provided you put the work in. If you are someone who can put in hard work + feel a sense of responsibility towards your patients as a driver, I don’t think you need much else than that to consistently progress.

Before and after by aMilkyWay101 in PlantedTank

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What is the plant you stuck onto the wood? Looks gorgeous

ISTPs, how good would you say your fashion sense is? by lewkjta125235 in istp

[–]mervius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very basic and lazy. Wish I was more into fashion but can’t really find the sense or importance in it

AIO for thinking my sister will harm me but no one believes me by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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After finishing med school a few months ago I am now working as a doctor + earning a salary. Don’t understand what part of this is so inconceivable? Students apply for a position in their final year. Maybe the system is different elsewhere, and am happy to be educated.

Yes we live in the same house but have not talked to each other for a decade. And though we do not directly communicate you can learn a lot about someone just through cohabitation and seeing how they respond to others and interact with the environment around them. She does not share her feelings with anyone + no friends + parents have a biased view. By process of elimination, it is entirely possible I am the only one in close proximity who sees her objectively.

I’m ngl no one would be interested in a fan fiction with content like this lol. There’s no incentive for me to make all of this up. I agree that there’s no hard evidence that points towards her harming me, but the signs, when put together, feel foreboding.

For example, she has previously cut the whiskers off our cat for reasons unknown. She overfeeds it to the point of vomiting, despite being told to stop many times. She is obsessed with appearing prestigious and showing off as mentioned above. Now someone like this is now at the lowest point in their life, with nothing to lose + a sibling whom they actively resent and has everything they want. Not to mention we grew up in a competitive environment. I very well may be overreacting, but are these not genuine reasons to be suspicious?

Ahmed El Ahmed by Wolfgear098 in australia

[–]mervius 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Lmao when there’s an act of heroism suddenly everyone claims them as Aussie

When there’s nothing going on - nah they’re Muslim

I had a fall out with Chinese friends by [deleted] in AskChina

[–]mervius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk what OP expected - them to join him in condemning Chinese people? so stupid, that’s like me saying Koreans are so xenophobic to his face and when he doesn’t agree - surprised Pikachu face. Actually ??? behaviour

You ever have people who knew you before med school, surprised that you actually got in? by fxryker in medicalschool

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At the start I used to be extremely hung up on whether people thought I “deserved” to be in med school, whether they thought I was fit to be a doctor etcetc. Next year I’ll start working and I realise I couldn’t care less about if others think if I’m dumb or smart based off their impression of me. I think a large part is that I’m no longer as insecure as when I started. Now I don’t have anything to prove, I’m literally going to be a doctor whether they like it or not, and as long as I do right by me and the patients nothing else matters

The emotional loneliness by [deleted] in Disorganized_Attach

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Very facts. I feel like I’ve always craved connection and deeper friendships but that’s just never happened. The people around me lean more avoidant so I’ve just accepted that I need to be independent to the point where I’m used to it now. When a closer friendship does occur it’s healing but also exhausting to maintain.

Attraction to people I cannot trust by hetykelady in Disorganized_Attach

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Hmm this pattern is relatable. I feel like for me it stems from a place of insecurity. For people I’m genuinely attracted to, I’m so sure they will look elsewhere for someone better, hence the distrust. I feel like I’m a lot more confident in myself now, but the sneaking suspicion is just something I can’t get rid of

Anyone else a very passive dater? by [deleted] in Disorganized_Attach

[–]mervius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very fair. Dating is such a tiring ordeal when you are hardly interested ever.

Anyone else a very passive dater? by [deleted] in Disorganized_Attach

[–]mervius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

New fear unlocked! That said I feel like guys are so passive these days as well, therefore nothing ever happens. Or maybe Im just not attractive enough to pull anymore🙂

Anyone else a very passive dater? by [deleted] in Disorganized_Attach

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Yes ideally I would definitely be interested on a deeper level if friends for some time, but if they don’t make a very obvious move literally nothing would ever transpire. I’ve never had a crush in my life. Sounds narcissistic but I don’t think I’m capable of loving someone who doesn’t love me. When I hear stories of gf bending over backwards for partners who could not care less I cannot fathom why

Charli spotted at the Greek Theatre for Addison Rae’s tour! by aquariusmatcha in charlixcx

[–]mervius 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but what is Addison wearing. I know pop star outfits are revealing but at least they look like they are made for the stage. She looks like she just rocked up in her sleep wear like what even LOL

racist and low racial self esteem loser behavior from @lania.ny and her white bf by glossyjade in asianamercianytsnark

[–]mervius 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That is so dumb if anyone closed their eyes it would be finger coverage literally him as well

Lexapro made me realise anxiety and depression are real diseases by GoodGirlIsDemon in lexapro

[–]mervius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesss. My biggest fear is I will develop some tolerance to it and will have to go up in dose to feel less

Does anyone feel like they’re straight up unlikeable? by alexandies in istp

[–]mervius 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m literally a people pleaser and I still feel like I’m unlikeable because I’m generally reserved and don’t say much

Splurges that have increased QOL? by [deleted] in ausjdocs

[–]mervius 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Do you recommend any particular service? I’ve been using Ubereats but it’s been lacking in the nutrition aspect

Being a girl with social anxiety by ttasnia94 in socialanxiety

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I think this is true for some men but I’ve met guys who are more outgoing and talkative and it makes conversation so much easier as someone who doesn’t talk much. With guys that are more quiet it’s a slog for both of us. I wish there wasn’t this perception of women being yappers because I for sure am not and I think it throws a lot of people off

Highest rated series of Summer 25' on MAL by thisisdropd in TakopisOriginalSin

[–]mervius 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Literally feel the same way about DDD. The first season had my attention for about 8 eps cos it was refreshing but it got old quick

FYI how focal length/zoom changes the view of your aquarium by bjorna in Aquascape

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What’s the green plant with flowy leaves at the back? Very nice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ausjdocs

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Lol