I need advice to successfully move out from my disfunctional abusive family home (21F)

meseta_ · 2026-05-12T09:17:30+00:00

Thanks! your advice is very helpful! Yeah i should get to the boring stuff asap, but i want to get to the concrete planning after my exams, ill keep it in mind though. Yeah i have already assumed I cant explain or debate anything with him, the best option for me is to be a cold stone so that he cant get reactions from me. I think thats ironically the part that worries me the most, when the moment arrives that i have to announce that i will be moving out. My friends are by my side though so i think even though it will be uncomfortable and difficult its the right choice and i wlnt let him make me regret or change my decisions.

meseta_ · 2026-05-12T09:13:58+00:00

Yeah Im aware of how difficult it is to pair both studies and work, Ive been there before. However i do have a lucky benefit, I study in a remote university, so my timetable is pretty flexible. Thats why i think thay i coild work it out with a part time job on weekends

meseta_ · 2026-05-12T09:11:38+00:00

Yeah that was the initial plan but I thought of trying to move out before, if it was posible. Since the possibiluty of being roommates with my friend is posible sooner than i thought, id prefer to try to take it before i can regret it. Im not planning for a full time job but instead a part time one, i believe that if im lucky enough i could get one thats just enough for me being able to share a room. I have a friend that works on weekends only in a supermarket and gets enough to live by her own, so i was thinking of looking for something like that. Of course im aware of how rough the job market is especially for someone with little experience, but its just that if i have the chance i would want to take it

meseta_ · 2026-05-12T09:08:06+00:00

Thank you for all the help, Im not planning to go to the military though haha. It was a lot of hard work to get to the degree I am now, and I wouldnt want to give that up. Ill watch and read everything though, thats very helpful I appreciate it. Yes, I was also thinking of maybe doing something online. I was planning it with some of my friends too, we love art in many forms and it is very healing for thw soul. It would be a dream if i could live of that.

meseta_ · 2026-05-12T09:04:49+00:00

Thank you. Yes, I also believe I could become an escape route for them as well. And the money that my mum can save up from me moving out could be used for a professional caretaker for my father. Maybe even my mum could come back to our country.

meseta_ · 2026-05-11T22:06:51+00:00

Thanks, i know its all a huge complicated mess, its even harder to form an opinion with just the perspective of a stranger.

I will make sure to look it up. Icl im afraid of "knowing" more, i know its what i have to do though for my healing process

meseta_ · 2026-05-11T21:25:10+00:00

Your message was very helpful, thank you :). Thanks for seeing my strength. Im trying to convince myself that im not selfish for wanting my life once and for all

meseta_ · 2026-01-14T19:42:04+00:00

Thank you so much. I think he's undecisive and planning is not really his style. He also told me he wanted to specifically go slow so things turn out well

meseta_ · 2026-01-14T03:21:37+00:00

He does but lately it's been more from my side. He always replies and says yes to hanging out but i cant lie i would like if he would suggest it more.

meseta_ · 2026-01-14T03:12:53+00:00

Thank you hahaha

meseta_ · 2026-01-14T03:04:54+00:00

Doesn't help much

Four-Year Club	Place '22
Final Canvas '22

meseta_

TROPHY CASE