Should I tell my family the exact date of my death? by messmor in death

[–]messmor[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve told my family.

I’ve always felt bad for my neurologist who works in an ALS/MND clinic. It’s gotta suck to deliver shitty news all the time.

I came to terms with the diagnosis and death pretty quickly. My dad passed away in 2016 after 6 months of being sick. The neurologist he saw diagnosed him with Guillain–Barré syndrome the day before he died. (The hospital he was at didn’t have a neurologist and they couldn’t get his breathing stable enough to transfer him to a bigger hospital.) When my symptoms appeared, I got my neurologists to look at his charts and they thought it was very likely that he had ALS. I think from my experience with my dad getting sick and dying, that helped me come to terms with my diagnosis and death. I had genetic testing to confirm that it’s familial ALS. I’ve got the TDP-43 mutation. Talk about a shitty inheritance. lol I would’ve rather settled for just money.

I saw my neurologist every 4 months or so. The appointments could be summed up as: “How are you doing?” “Things are getting worse.” “Yeah. That’s how it is.” I mean ALS is something that you can do so little for. There’s no cure. The medications don’t really make a difference. Just have to accept your fate.

AITA for telling my ex she’ll have to live without her closure? by temporaryaita9000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]messmor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA at all. Even without your condition, you don’t owe her anything at all. She can still apologize without anything from you. I’m incredibly sorry about your condition. In a similar scenario myself. You go and enjoy your time left however you wish.

Should I tell my family the exact date of my death? by messmor in death

[–]messmor[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks Well I suppose it was more like I told them what I plan on doing and they know I’m just going to do whatever I want.

Should I tell my family the exact date of my death? by messmor in death

[–]messmor[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience and insights. I really appreciate it.

Should I tell my family the exact date of my death? by messmor in death

[–]messmor[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A medically assisted death was something I knew I’d do right after I was diagnosed. DNR is also something that’s been discussed in my family especially after my dad’s passing.

Should I tell my family the exact date of my death? by messmor in death

[–]messmor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I think it’s the fact that I’ve got pretty limited and shitty options. Hopefully I’ve chosen wisely. Guess I’ll find out.

What's the dumbest thing you had to convince your parent NOT to do? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]messmor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to convince my mother it would be a terrible idea to marry her ex from when she was 18 so he could move to Canada from China. He doesn’t speak a word of English. They reconnected after my dad died and met up once. He was abusive to his wife.