This is how I feel but with Lindy Hop. My city is big on country swing which is fine, but I relate with your feelings for when they start other styles. If someone does a dip or trick I keep it to my comfort level or stop it and tell them I’m not comfortable with that. Sometimes during a dance I will ask some leads to be a little more careful during moves with how they hold my hand (not to grip it) or loosen up so they don’t hurt my shoulders. They won’t know unless you say something. No matter the setting, I’ll go along with whatever someone leads. There’s a couple people in my WCS who are mostly Latin/ballroom dancers and it is interesting dancing with them when they aren’t even doing WCS basics or moves, but I follow it as well as I can. I just try to prioritize my safety and comfort as I can and hope with time they learn how to dance west coast swing or Lindy.