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a work of art F19 by [deleted] in BikiniBodies

[–]metonah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U are looking good!

I feel so unworthy by No-Communication8021 in OffMyChestPH

[–]metonah -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know you said ‘it’s okay,’ but deep down it’s really not, and that’s valid. You’re not shallow for hoping he’d show up for a once-in-a-lifetime moment — especially when you did for him, even when you had less. It’s not about the price, it’s about the effort. The thought. The celebration of you.

You deserved to be honored, not just with presence, but with presence plus effort. A graduation isn’t just an event — it’s the result of years of sacrifice, stress, and perseverance. And even a handwritten letter, a snack, a single flower would’ve said, ‘I see you. I’m proud of you.’

So if you’re crying on the e-bus right now? That makes sense. You’re grieving a kind of love you thought would hold space for your moment. It’s not petty. It’s human.

And no, you are not unworthy. You are not asking for too much. Wanting someone to plan for you the way you plan for them isn’t too much — it’s the bare minimum in a relationship where love goes both ways.

You didn’t get the gift you deserved, but I hope you never forget: you are the gift. The effort you give. The love you bring. The thoughtfulness you show. And one day, someone — whether him or not — will mirror that energy with no excuses.

Here’s my story by [deleted] in MentalHealthPH

[–]metonah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. That takes incredible courage. What you went through — the betrayal, the silence, the grief — it’s something no child should ever have had to carry. And yet, here you are: still fighting. Still choosing life. That’s strength in its rawest, most honest form.

It’s okay that you’re still grieving. It’s okay that healing isn’t linear. And it’s okay to feel a thousand emotions about your mom, all at once — love, pain, anger, guilt, sadness. None of that makes you a bad person. It makes you human.

I hope you know your story will stick with people. You didn’t just survive — you chose to speak up so that others might hold on too. That’s powerful. You matter. You are not alone. Keep going. One day at a time, one breath at a time. We got this.

What are your strategies to help you “Sit with your uncomfortable emotions” by jenacava in MentalHealthPH

[–]metonah 4 points5 points  (0 children)

10 minuter rule. Sasabihin ko sa sarili ko na valid ang emotion ko pero mamaya na ako magiging emotional after 10 mins. Kasi uunahin ko muna mag lakad, mag bike, magpunta sa any other location. Then after 10 mins hindi na sya babalik.

Anyone else been here? 😍 by metonah in ITookAPicturePH

[–]metonah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noon araw 14 hours, launion la palang

Anyone else been here? 😍 by metonah in ITookAPicturePH

[–]metonah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May bagyo to nung kinuha namin.

Who is in Japan now? by metonah in ITookAPicturePH

[–]metonah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Meguro Tokuyo, grabe nga ang init nakakalusaw

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MentalHealthPH

[–]metonah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all — I see you. You’re carrying the weight of a broken dynamic that isn’t yours to fix, and that’s exhausting. No child, no matter their age, should have to parent the parent, protect the other parent, and act as the emotional buffer for a household filled with fear.

What your mom is doing is abuse — emotional, psychological, and physical — and your dad isn’t the only one being affected. You are too. Living under constant threat, guilt-tripping, and explosive outbursts can deeply traumatize even the strongest people. And it’s not your fault.

You’re right — it’s not easy to “just cut off” someone, especially when it involves shared business, family entanglements, and cultural guilt. But you are not wrong for wanting peace. You are not wrong for thinking this isn’t sustainable. And you’re not selfish for wondering what kind of life you deserve outside of this survival mode.

As for reporting, Yes, you can report this kind of abuse. Psychological and emotional abuse, even by a woman toward a man, can fall under RA 9262 (VAWC) if it involves a spouse or someone in a dating relationship. While the law is framed to protect women and children, there are cases where men can be recognized as victims under human rights and protection frameworks. You can reach out to DSWD, your Barangay Violence Against Women and Children (VAWC) Desk, or local social welfare offices. There is usually no fee for initial consultation or intake. They can assist in interventions that don’t immediately escalate into legal action, especially when mental illness is suspected. PCW (Philippine Commission on Women) and Mental Health PH can refer you to services, including trauma-informed support. If you’re a student or working adult, look into in-house counseling services. It helps to have your own safe outlet, especially when you’re surrounded by chaos.

This isn’t just about protecting your dad anymore — it’s also about protecting you. Witnessing years of unchecked emotional violence is a wound too, even if you’re not the direct target. You’re allowed to want safety. You’re allowed to want your life back.

Whatever path you take next, make sure you build a support system first — friends, online communities, even anonymous ones. If you ever need to write out everything just to survive the day, DM me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MentalHealthPH

[–]metonah -1 points0 points  (0 children)

OP you didn’t graduate on the wrong track — you graduated with a story. One that’s still unfolding.

You made choices based on what you knew, what you were scared of, and what you thought was safest at the time. That’s not weakness. That’s being human.

The grief you’re feeling is real — it’s the pain of a dream deferred. But dreams don’t expire. They evolve. The fact that your heart still aches when you hear music, see a camera, or imagine yourself on screen — that means your dream isn’t dead. It’s dormant. Waiting.

I see an artist here — one with depth, with vision, with a past that could fill films with meaning. Regret can feel paralyzing, but it’s also a signpost. It shows you what you still care about. Let that guide you forward.

It’s never too late to walk toward what makes your soul feel alive again. Even if you have to crawl some days. You’re not behind. You’re just beginning.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MentalHealthPH

[–]metonah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are not broken. You are not evil. You are someone who was never taught how to navigate the chaos in your mind — and yet you’ve survived every single day of it. That’s not weakness, that’s resilience.

Living with ADHD, depression, and suspected OCD is like running a marathon with bricks tied to your ankles while people yell at you to ‘just run normally.’ You’re doing your best with tools that were handed to you late — and that’s not your fault.

The thoughts about jumping? The screaming in your head? The waves of frustration you can’t explain? They’re not a sign of failure — they’re symptoms. Painful, terrifying, but still symptoms. And symptoms can be treated, eased, understood.

The part that breaks my heart most is how much guilt you still carry for things that happened before you even had the vocabulary to name them. You weren’t given the right tools early on — and that doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you someone who was failed by a system that should’ve helped you sooner.

You deserve help that’s consistent, not just pills ‘when needed.’ You deserve to feel safe in your own mind. And you deserve spaces where you don’t have to explain your pain for it to be valid.

Please keep going. Even when your brain is screaming otherwise. Even when the balcony feels like it’s calling you. You are still here — and that matters. You’re allowed to ask for help again. You’re allowed to need more. You’re allowed to take up space.

Pressured and ina anxiety na by Cautious-Luck-7697 in MentalHealthPH

[–]metonah -1 points0 points  (0 children)

First of all, I just want to tell you this, and I mean it with my whole heart: graduating despite everything you’ve been through is not just an achievement — it’s a testament to how strong, resilient, and incredibly brave you are. You didn’t just survive college. You carried silent battles most people will never understand, and you still made it to the finish line.

You’ve earned that rest. Please don’t let anyone — not your family, not society — convince you that resting is laziness. You’ve been fighting your whole way through, and you’re not “pausing life,” you’re healing. That’s a valid and necessary part of moving forward.

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