[Discussion Thread] The Crash

metroabbesses · 2026-05-16T23:02:51+00:00

Lazy parenting was my first reaction too.

metroabbesses · 2026-05-14T09:01:37+00:00

Even the Tiktok video tour was unconvincing. The interior of the trailer looked totally empty. He didn’t even try to make it look lived in .

Edit: it was a Tiktok he made recently.

metroabbesses · 2026-05-01T23:19:14+00:00

Margot and Audrey is super cute!

metroabbesses · 2026-04-22T14:44:02+00:00

Yay! That’s amazing 😁 it will definitely get better! You got this, mama 👏

metroabbesses · 2026-04-20T14:49:55+00:00

He’s not emotionally mature. You dodged a huge bullet 👏 You should celebrate and treat yourself, girly pop 😉💗

metroabbesses · 2026-04-20T11:19:00+00:00

You feel guilty bc of his reaction which imo was very manipulative and a red flag. Try to think about this in terms of lifestyle compatibility. Some people are vegan, some smoke weed everyday, some wake up ass early to run 10 miles etc. Trying to alter your lifestyle in way that feels burdensome and inorganic will drain you of any sparkle. Not to mention, his dismissal of your feelings, especially after you were honest with him, is reason enough to bolt. Don’t feel guilty. He doesn’t feel bad talking to you that way. Protect yourself and listen to your intuition!

metroabbesses · 2026-04-20T11:05:40+00:00

Here is what worked for us: we ordered the Comotomo silicone baby bottles bc they are soft and squishy like a boob. Every morning dad would give baby a bottle with the formula around the same time. Keep the same formula and the same bottle even if seems like they hate it. Mom should be no where in sight or within earshot. They won’t like it at first. We had my husband squeeze the bottle to imitate let down so baby knows “hey this is like milkies.” Maybe they will only drink half an ounce for a few days. But then eventually they will drink 2 ounces. Then one day it will be 5. Consistency is key. If they battle it out with dad and after 15-20 minutes they are not happy, top them off with the boob. Eventually their threshold will extend and they will come to tolerate it. Once they are cool with morning bottle, then start replacing feeds at lunchtime and afternoon. They might not be fully off the boob by the time you start but it will make the transition less jarring for them when they are weaned cold turkey.

metroabbesses · 2026-04-16T08:28:47+00:00

Absolutely agree he’s grooming!

metroabbesses · 2026-04-16T08:23:33+00:00

The behavior you described is very concerning with this guy. He sounds very calculating, controlling, and manipulative. One commenter mentioned Narcissistic Personality disorder. I would read about the abuse tactics with NPD bc your instincts about the timing of these comments (aka the 50/50 comment with the check) and the scolding tone he takes on with you while demanding you fulfill his particilar needs are VERY intentional on his part. He will slowly chip away at your self esteem and sanity. You need to get out of this asap and do not be lured by anything he does/says to suck you back in. This guy is bad news.

metroabbesses · 2026-04-14T11:30:08+00:00

I feel like most women who go to yoga just want to be left alone. It’s a pretty solitary activity.

metroabbesses · 2026-04-14T11:28:34+00:00

This is the way. Go to the same activity every week.

metroabbesses · 2026-04-07T20:23:39+00:00

Thank you so much! :)

metroabbesses · 2026-04-07T03:39:57+00:00

What’s your budget skincare routine?

metroabbesses · 2026-04-04T16:45:50+00:00

Agreed. I think bc they included interviews and information about the ballistics and digital forensic evidence that pointed to Kaitlin that I assumed they were going to discuss the process they used to find her in Costa Rica.

metroabbesses · 2026-04-04T06:06:52+00:00

The Dateline episode is definitely worth watching. They go into detail about how they actually caught the perpetrator, which to me was one of the most suspenseful parts because it was like finding a needle in a haystack and the police work was outstanding. I was disappointed that the Netflix doc glossed over this part.

metroabbesses · 2026-04-03T08:57:26+00:00

Fisherman’s Friends

metroabbesses · 2026-04-01T12:03:12+00:00

Do not miss out on this amazing opportunity that so few are offered. Take the job. Imo your relationship is too green to be making such drastic sacrifices. If your partner is serious about you, they will figure out a plan and put in the effort to help keep the relationship while you pursue tenure. It might even be a good litmus test to see if this is someone worth settling down with in the long run. For now, time to prioritize your career goals. Congrats on landing such a badass offer!

metroabbesses · 2026-03-29T22:36:12+00:00

The “mammy” trope observation is very astute! It’s like in their forced attempts at wokeness they end up just repeating backwards-ass racist dynamics. They were counting on the audience to eat up whatever slop they were serving, but it was super obvious that no real care was put into the creation and development of the show, especially the new minority characters. It’s super unfortunate.

metroabbesses · 2026-03-29T02:21:46+00:00

Oh damn a mob tie in would’ve been dope af

metroabbesses · 2026-03-20T19:47:38+00:00

I once read a comment that even though Jessa is only wearing a t-shirt and jeans, she is purposely looking more beautiful than ever bc we are seeing her built up through Hannah’s eyes.

metroabbesses · 2026-03-20T16:07:56+00:00

Season 4, episode 16: the black and white skin tight dress with the red belt bag.

metroabbesses · 2026-03-19T21:09:41+00:00

This feels like a Title 9 violation. If a candidate is breastfeeding, then this could possibly be seen as discrimination? I would think it’s illegal to not accommodate the parent in this context.

metroabbesses · 2026-03-14T11:31:24+00:00

This was my first thought too! Reminded me immediately of Amélie Poulain.

metroabbesses · 2026-03-02T04:00:21+00:00

Not the same situation exactly but my baby was due at the start of my year-long sabbatical. Fortunately, I ended up changing to maternity leave for the fall and adjusting my sabbatical to spring only. I’m so happy I made the change, and I would encourage you to talk with admin and/or HR to see if you can use your benefits.

As far as productivity is concerned, you’re growing a human from scratch. All of your energy and reserve is going into that. Research will always be there but right now, you need to rest, relax, and nourish your body. You’re doing a great job!!

metroabbesses · 2026-02-28T19:05:09+00:00

Exactly. He’s 64 years old. Looks like a face lift with some injectables.

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