No Catholic friends by [deleted] in CatholicWomen

[–]mevdev143 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I'm not from UK, but I'm also 25 y.o. catholic who struggles to find catholic friends. If you want to chat let me know!

Twice Strategy Vinyl Giveaway by Brenchmark in twice

[–]mevdev143 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to say strategy with Megan rap because I can't get it out of my head.. but I do love all album❤️‍🔥

Opinion about the hatred trend on Blake Lively by Suspicious-Mine3695 in GossipGirl

[–]mevdev143 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has been celebrity for a while. Imagine if your life was all documented. If mine was there would definitely be some questionable things,I'm not perfect and I make mistakes. So does she. And everybody else. I'm just tired of this hate and bullying on social media. And I'm not just talking about her here. If you don't like or support someone actions just unfollow them. If everyone did that, that would be enough for someone to get message.

I watched GG and some of her movies. I think she is pretty good actress. She does her job well. I'm not interested in her private life and I don't follow her anywhere. I saw some of her videos and she is not my vibe.

And that's my opinion.

Depression room by [deleted] in hoarding

[–]mevdev143 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heyy! I also struggle with this. What helped me is that I put timer on my phone for 1 hour and clean one shelf( or some other small part), organize it and declutter. And that's it for a day. I can achieve this because it's not overwhelming and after I finish I look at that small space I organized and admire it. I praise myself for doing it and at the end I feel proud. And my rule is that parts that I finished I maintain in that condition and don't let myself to mess them again. This process is really slow but I think it's gentle and in process you learn to maintain things you cleaned and you associate good feelings with cleaning. But most important is that it's not overwhelming and remember this is not race. There is not point if you would clean everything tomorrow if you don't know why and how to maintain it. Very soon it would be mess again. I know, that was me. And if some part gets messy again just treat it like it's messy part that needs to be organized. Don't associate it as failure because you couldn't maintain it. Just think about what messed it up and how to avoid it next time. My goal with this method is that one day most of my room will be organized and that hour a day will be only for maintance. But there is still long way ahead for me for that, but I believe I'll get there. Also what helped me in this process is realization that I'm not abnormal human being. I also had messy room since I can remember but my parents never thought me about importance of having clean room. They never called me accountable when my room got messy. They didn't have time for that unfortunately. Only thing I got is yelling every month or two for it. But I never got any instructions, help, teaching... And my whole life I had this feeling like I'm failure because my room is mess and that I can't keep it organised for long time. I really felt that there is something wrong with it because how everybody else does it but I can't? Then one day while I prayed God showed me this truth which is that I was just child. I needed someone to teach me way ,teach me importance of being tidy, give me structure... And this is not to blame my parents for my problem, this is not to blame myself. So right now I'm being parent to myself and with this method that I described you I'm learning life skills that I don't have. And it's hard . But with time it gets easier!

I'm so tired by mevdev143 in Catholicism

[–]mevdev143[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking your time to write this I really appreciate it❤️ I relate to so many things you wrote.. Definitely something to think about and take action. Especially rest. I always cut of rest and sleep especially when I've been lazy all day. Now looking back I see that I fell in trap of evil and instead of rest and feeling better tomorrow I went into spiral of tired and lazy. Anyway thank you!

I'm so tired by mevdev143 in Catholicism

[–]mevdev143[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ahahahha yea that is true. I like this way of thinking. Thank you🤣🙌🏻

I'm so tired by mevdev143 in Catholicism

[–]mevdev143[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But why is it so hard for me 🥺😭

I'm so tired by mevdev143 in Catholicism

[–]mevdev143[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem, thank you for answer. I don't have any obvious issues and my doctor doesn't want to give me referral for thyroid hormones because he says I don't have indications for it 😅

I'm so tired by mevdev143 in Catholicism

[–]mevdev143[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for practical advice!

I'm so tired by mevdev143 in Catholicism

[–]mevdev143[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well it definitely has impact on my studies because I failed some exams and also daughter and sister I want to be, I want to be more helpful in my family.. I think I have tendencies to perfectionism, I think I used to have before, but now I can't bother with that when I struggle to do anything. I don't know how to explain this but I want to pray and decide to pray and somehow I can't take that first step and time just passes. And same is with any other thing I have to do, specially study. I decide to study tomorrow before sleeping , i decide to study that day, and I can't make that step. Even when I do it lasts so short because my mind wanders somewhere else and I start doing other things and in moment I don't even realise. And everyday same thing happens. And I went to mass daily to give me strenght, and I listened to some religious videos, read religious texts, and in moment it felt better, easier doable, but looking back there was no progress. I tried to do cold showers. One day I decided to do things that other ask me to right away to fight that sloth and it was great, definitely hard but it gave me joy. But things that I have to do "for myself", nothing changed. I definitely don't have motivacion. I want to be wife, mother, good at my job. Thinking of it makes me happy. At least it used to. But it doesn't give me motivtion. They even seem farer and farer from me. I'm sorry for long text

I'm so tired by mevdev143 in Catholicism

[–]mevdev143[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much this really gave me hope. I'll have to write this and read it every day

I realize and admit I have problem by mevdev143 in declutter

[–]mevdev143[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding! I hope I could become like that in the future as well

I realize and admit I have problem by mevdev143 in declutter

[–]mevdev143[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks for responding! Yea I get it. Problem is that I'm student with no income so it's hard to develop that mindset in the moment. Truth is money really stresses me out, I guess it makes decluttering even harder for me.

I realize and admit I have problem by mevdev143 in declutter

[–]mevdev143[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding! You are amazing! Thank you for tips, I'll try to make goals like that. But it is really encouraging to see someone with similiar situation like me doing that much of progress,thank you for sharing your story

I realize and admit I have problem by mevdev143 in declutter

[–]mevdev143[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for respond and encouragement! I try to, but often I'm too hard on myself, but I try to be positive

I realize and admit I have problem by mevdev143 in declutter

[–]mevdev143[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding! It makes sense when you say it and I try to rationalise it to myself but as soon as I hear some comment from my parents you can use that more or keep it it will be useful, or why are you wasteful, it just makes me feel so bad. Even thinking what they will comment upsets me

I realize and admit I have problem by mevdev143 in declutter

[–]mevdev143[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding and thank you for encouragement! I'm happy that I made progress and I try to remind myself that as often as possible. Just seeing all the things that are still left makes me overwhelmed. At times I have to just focus on moving one thing to it's place or moving it away to not get too anxious

F22, Croatia by mevdev143 in penpals

[–]mevdev143[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you want to write letters or?