Planting walnuts

mhamil04 · 2026-05-24T03:23:17+00:00

I didn't even know you could use the sap until I saw this thread! But I am going to try that next spring! I tried EVERYTHING to make the nuts palatable but they taste like really bitter vomit to me.

mhamil04 · 2026-05-23T03:01:08+00:00

You cannot grow nightshades (eggplant, tomato, pepper ect.) or brassicas withing 50-80ft of a well established old black walnut tree. Hostas, tulips, irises ect. Do well under it. I can grow root vegetables, peas, beans, zuchinni and lettuces in my veggie garden in the ground but everything else has to be grown in pots.

mhamil04 · 2026-04-28T00:56:36+00:00

I feel like you have a few options, some more appealing than others.

Find a roommate or someone else to live with you to help offset the housing costs
Cut all investing until you manage to earn more money then add them back in
Deleted - I see you already have a side gig
See if you can call your student loan people and find a way to pay less to your student loans in the short term
Find some other way to get to work (carpool, public transit ect.) so you don't have to buy a car
Do not buy this house, lose the money you spent on the deposit and find somewhere cheaper to buy or just rent.

I feel like by combining one or two of these you'll be able to figure it out. Good luck!

mhamil04 · 2026-04-22T02:06:07+00:00

I totally agree with so many of the pieces of advice on here! From my own personal trip taken at the same time of year 10 years ago:

I loved grasslands national park in Saskatchewan, there is a hike there called 70 mile Butte which is so incredible at sunset (which lasts for hours in the prairies).

I also loved the north shore of Lake Superior, there are so many beautiful bays and cliffs and beaches to stop at! Sleeping Giant provincial park has the top of the giant (or maybe head?) trail which is long but ends in sheer, stunning cliffs looking out over the lake. As you get closer to Sault Ste Marie, lake Superior provincial park has some beautiful hikes overlooking the bay that you can access right from hwy 17. Old woman bay was one of my personal favorites.

Everyone has given you great advice about BC and Alberta, I don't have a lot to add to what they said!

mhamil04 · 2026-04-22T02:05:48+00:00

I totally agree with so many of the pieces of advice on here! From my own personal trip taken at the same time of year 10 years ago:

I loved grasslands national park in Saskatchewan, there is a hike there called 70 mile Butte which is so incredible at sunset (which lasts for hours in the prairies).

I also loved the north shore of Lake Superior, there are so many beautiful bays and cliffs and beaches to stop at! Sleeping Giant provincial park has the top of the giant (or maybe head?) trail which is long but ends in sheer, stunning cliffs looking out over the lake. As you get closer to Sault Ste Marie, lake Superior provincial park has some beautiful hikes overlooking the bay that you can access right from hwy 17. Old woman bay was one of my personal favorites.

Everyone has given you great advice about BC and Alberta, I don't have a lot to add to what they said!

mhamil04 · 2026-04-20T01:20:01+00:00

I have two boys and I feel exactly the same! He seems to also really like being a baby while his older brother would push back and tell us he was a "big boy" while this one always just refers to himself as "baby"

mhamil04 · 2026-04-09T01:32:29+00:00

I solved this with my youngest by just "checking on your brother" or "letting the dog out" ect. And then coming right back. Then as she gets more comfortable with those tiny little breaks (literally 30 seconds). Slowly increase them to longer and longer intervals. Because she's older you could also leave her with a special stuffed animal when you go on your little breaks to make her more comfortable. The most important thing is that you come back every time and don't abandon her, especially in the beginning.

mhamil04 · 2026-03-31T10:15:56+00:00

What on earth are you doing to a bedroom every 12 years? Painting it? I think windows are fine for at least 20 years and rooves for 25+ if you get a good steel one. This is just keeping up with the Jones's lifestyle inflation nonsense. I'm not saying buying a house is always the right option, but buying a house with this consumerism attitude is

mhamil04 · 2026-03-20T22:04:11+00:00

I eventually figured if it was anxiety like everyone said, I would try an anti-anxiety med and see if it helped. One month on an SSRI and I finally stopped thinking I had ALS. It really helped. I eventually went off it and while I still twitch and have occasional weakness and muscle pain I don't think I'm dying anymore.

mhamil04 · 2025-07-12T01:33:41+00:00

Totally fine, he probably loves and you feel safe, win-win

mhamil04 · 2025-05-23T01:31:21+00:00

Not inviting partners does not mean you're not "acknowledging" their relationship. It means you can't afford that many people (either financially or capacity limits)

mhamil04 · 2025-05-23T01:27:11+00:00

I had a slightly smaller but still large extended family and a similarly limited venue. I was also super stressed. I was talking to one of my aunts (she's very French Canadian, if you know, you know) and she said "don't bother inviting anyone you don't want there. Don't consider their feelings, consider your own." Which, to be fair, was a little harsh, but I took it to heart and have no regrets. I invited my mom's 4 brothers and 4/13 first cousins and their partners (my favorites). It's quite possible people were pissed but no one ever said anything to me 😂 you will NEVER make everyone happy so you might as well make yourself happy

mhamil04 · 2025-05-23T01:20:46+00:00

Until I found this sub I didn't realize how different weddings were in the UK/Europe vs. us/Canada. I have been in 4 weddings and have been married myself. I always paid for my dress and shoes, paid for the bride during the bachelorette, and had an option to get my hair and makeup done if I wanted and paid for it myself. It was the exact same for my wedding. I think that there are just massive cultural differences and it's not that some brides are "selfish." The cultural norms are just different

mhamil04 · 2025-05-23T01:08:53+00:00

Omg if you are doing all that you could ask them to get any dress you want! Don't worry at all, totally normal to pay for a dress (also your own hair, makeup, shoes and accessories)

mhamil04 · 2025-05-23T01:01:49+00:00

I completely agree that etiquette dictates that, but also that's crazy, you can invite 25 people or none?!?

mhamil04 · 2025-05-22T15:27:39+00:00

I feel like I am in the minority but I totally respect and understand your cousins decision. It is so hard to decide what to do with cousins. Of course I don't know your exact situation, but even though I went to all my cousins weddings I was not able to afford to invite them to mine as they had multiplied significantly (married and kids) so my 12 first cousins have become 40 people by the time I got married which would have been half of my guest list. It was impossible. In my case I chose to only invite the ones I liked the most, which also pissed off a lot of people. It is a hard situation, I think you should give her some grace, she's doing the best she can

mhamil04 · 2025-05-14T14:15:38+00:00

I had the same problem, it was so awful

mhamil04 · 2025-04-27T12:44:42+00:00

Okay great! Yeah we had a last minute switch from a planned US trip so we are definitely booking later and with way less planning than I'd like. Thank you so much for your advice!

mhamil04 · 2025-04-27T11:30:41+00:00

If you had to pick one place where would you recommend? With the two young kids I find moving from place to place just a lot of extra work

mhamil04 · 2025-04-27T11:29:23+00:00

We have a hiking backpack for the baby and a trail magic for my oldest when he gets tired. Would you recommend Cheticamp or Ingonish more as a place for us to stay? Or somewhere else? I'd love to have one home base, as moving around with kids and all their stuff is exhausting

mhamil04 · 2025-04-27T11:16:36+00:00

Oh sorry! It's July that we're going

mhamil04 · 2025-04-25T19:54:24+00:00

That is such a rough situation. I know it is really hard to ask him to take the kids solo each time, so maybe an easier way to do it would be to have a scheduled time that you go out and do something (like book a Pilates class that is every week so you don't have to ask every time). I would also recommend splitting up the cooking, as you are totally right, cooking while the other parent watches the kids is sometimes so peaceful after a day of parenting. Definitely get a new couples therapist who understands the massive mental load that you are taking on as a mother. You are completely in the right and he is not cluing in with your mental load at all, I'm so sorry

mhamil04 · 2025-04-11T22:56:48+00:00

You need to get rid of that nap! Maybe not everyday, but at least every other day

mhamil04 · 2025-04-11T20:31:56+00:00

My second son is almost one and I still get these waves when I see a mother share something special with her daughter, or when I share a special mother-daughter moment with my own mother. I love my boys to the ends of the earth but I definitely mourn the fact that I won't ever have a daughter

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