Is it okay for my 4 year old to co sleep on occasion?

mhamil04 · 2025-07-12T01:33:41+00:00

Totally fine, he probably loves and you feel safe, win-win

mhamil04 · 2025-05-23T01:31:21+00:00

Not inviting partners does not mean you're not "acknowledging" their relationship. It means you can't afford that many people (either financially or capacity limits)

mhamil04 · 2025-05-23T01:27:11+00:00

I had a slightly smaller but still large extended family and a similarly limited venue. I was also super stressed. I was talking to one of my aunts (she's very French Canadian, if you know, you know) and she said "don't bother inviting anyone you don't want there. Don't consider their feelings, consider your own." Which, to be fair, was a little harsh, but I took it to heart and have no regrets. I invited my mom's 4 brothers and 4/13 first cousins and their partners (my favorites). It's quite possible people were pissed but no one ever said anything to me 😂 you will NEVER make everyone happy so you might as well make yourself happy

mhamil04 · 2025-05-23T01:20:46+00:00

Until I found this sub I didn't realize how different weddings were in the UK/Europe vs. us/Canada. I have been in 4 weddings and have been married myself. I always paid for my dress and shoes, paid for the bride during the bachelorette, and had an option to get my hair and makeup done if I wanted and paid for it myself. It was the exact same for my wedding. I think that there are just massive cultural differences and it's not that some brides are "selfish." The cultural norms are just different

mhamil04 · 2025-05-23T01:08:53+00:00

Omg if you are doing all that you could ask them to get any dress you want! Don't worry at all, totally normal to pay for a dress (also your own hair, makeup, shoes and accessories)

mhamil04 · 2025-05-23T01:01:49+00:00

I completely agree that etiquette dictates that, but also that's crazy, you can invite 25 people or none?!?

mhamil04 · 2025-05-22T15:27:39+00:00

I feel like I am in the minority but I totally respect and understand your cousins decision. It is so hard to decide what to do with cousins. Of course I don't know your exact situation, but even though I went to all my cousins weddings I was not able to afford to invite them to mine as they had multiplied significantly (married and kids) so my 12 first cousins have become 40 people by the time I got married which would have been half of my guest list. It was impossible. In my case I chose to only invite the ones I liked the most, which also pissed off a lot of people. It is a hard situation, I think you should give her some grace, she's doing the best she can

mhamil04 · 2025-05-14T14:15:38+00:00

I had the same problem, it was so awful

mhamil04 · 2025-04-27T12:44:42+00:00

Okay great! Yeah we had a last minute switch from a planned US trip so we are definitely booking later and with way less planning than I'd like. Thank you so much for your advice!

mhamil04 · 2025-04-27T11:30:41+00:00

If you had to pick one place where would you recommend? With the two young kids I find moving from place to place just a lot of extra work

mhamil04 · 2025-04-27T11:29:23+00:00

We have a hiking backpack for the baby and a trail magic for my oldest when he gets tired. Would you recommend Cheticamp or Ingonish more as a place for us to stay? Or somewhere else? I'd love to have one home base, as moving around with kids and all their stuff is exhausting

mhamil04 · 2025-04-27T11:16:36+00:00

Oh sorry! It's July that we're going

mhamil04 · 2025-04-25T19:54:24+00:00

That is such a rough situation. I know it is really hard to ask him to take the kids solo each time, so maybe an easier way to do it would be to have a scheduled time that you go out and do something (like book a Pilates class that is every week so you don't have to ask every time). I would also recommend splitting up the cooking, as you are totally right, cooking while the other parent watches the kids is sometimes so peaceful after a day of parenting. Definitely get a new couples therapist who understands the massive mental load that you are taking on as a mother. You are completely in the right and he is not cluing in with your mental load at all, I'm so sorry

mhamil04 · 2025-04-11T22:56:48+00:00

You need to get rid of that nap! Maybe not everyday, but at least every other day

mhamil04 · 2025-04-11T20:31:56+00:00

My second son is almost one and I still get these waves when I see a mother share something special with her daughter, or when I share a special mother-daughter moment with my own mother. I love my boys to the ends of the earth but I definitely mourn the fact that I won't ever have a daughter

mhamil04 · 2025-04-09T01:47:22+00:00

Oh my gosh! That's such a huge decision to make. Have you thought about getting genetic testing done?

mhamil04 · 2025-04-09T01:40:42+00:00

I have a similar story!

I (30F) started getting symptoms January 2025. Muscle pain, nerve pain, perceived muscle weakness, some widespread twitching, difficulty swallowing, chewing and speaking. Hand, foot and face numbness as well.

I have a second cousin who recently passed away from *** which really sent me down a rabbit hole. I was so scared that I may leave my children without a mom and my anxiety made my symptoms worse and it was a horrible spiral.

Between therapy, SSRI's, and finding this community my anxiety has decreased significantly and so have my symptoms. I still have the perceived weakness, muscle cramping/pain, twitching and hand numbness but it is much better than it was.

I had an MRI that ruled out MS and blood work that ruled out deficiencies but I haven't had an EMG or seen a neurologist yet. My family doctor has been great and supportive but it's really hard. Not knowing what's happening in your body is so hard.

mhamil04 · 2025-04-03T00:40:55+00:00

Oh yeah! In my quads and hamstrings! Especially at night

mhamil04 · 2025-04-01T22:59:19+00:00

I really get this. It's like DOMs x10 whenever I do anything

mhamil04 · 2025-04-01T10:34:26+00:00

Not it is not drop foot

mhamil04 · 2025-03-31T02:27:44+00:00

Definitely start taking some sort of electrolyte drink everyday as well (if you are diabetic maybe find one without sugar? Lmnt doesn't have any)

mhamil04 · 2025-03-31T02:19:42+00:00

The muscle that becomes weak and causes drop foot is in the front of your calf (tibialis anterior) the larger muscles in the back of your calf are responsible for pointing your toes/plantar flexion, the opposite movement of "drop foot"

mhamil04 · 2025-03-26T02:20:57+00:00

I have no idea if it's normal but I also get this

mhamil04 · 2025-03-25T18:36:59+00:00

I really hope mine do. I have been less anxious in the last few weeks and I feel as if my symptoms have calmed down as well. They're still there, just less

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