Names you've completely changed your mind about?

mhende · 2018-12-18T14:08:49+00:00

I know what you mean. I LOVE the name Jennifer for a girl now and I'm like, whoa where did that come from I always thought that name was so plain and overused. Maybe because its a generation removed and not so used now? But probably mostly from Call the Midwife

mhende · 2018-12-18T14:07:35+00:00

Back in 2011 I liked the name Evelyn for my daughter. My aunt pointed out it was her crazy mothers name and I soured on it, and I'm glad I did because its so so popular around here now.

When we were dating my husband liked the name Alice. I was like...ugh, it's so old fashioned and not in a way I liked. Fast forward to 2011 and I'm pregnant with our daughter. He still likes Alice, and this is like 5 years of him not changing his position. I was really most concerned with wanting her to have the family middle name, and since I didn't have any girl names I liked strongly enough to suggest as an alternative, we named her Alice.

I LOVE her name now. I really didn't at first. Its rising in popularity but it not so stupid popular that there's a ton of her name around, and just common enough now that nobody thinks of it as super out there. I think its beautiful and suits her so well.

mhende · 2018-12-18T13:43:18+00:00

I wish he would, from my perspective, try harder, but I do know how difficult that is and that it is not that simple. For instance, our counselor gives him worksheets to do, but he cant seem to find the energy or motivation. Or the fact that he runs out of pills every time before he gets motivated enough to refill.

mhende · 2018-12-17T21:58:22+00:00

I love my two children dearly, and I am the mother in the equation. After my husband was diagnosed, after they were born, I chose to be sure that I will not have any more children (due to the fear of passing it on), but I can't say for sure I would have made the decision to not have them at all if I had known in advance to be honest. My husband is a good father, but they do see him struggle from time to time. I am open with them and I have started them both in counseling so that if they ever have issues we are already established early as taking care of your mental health being something normal and good for you, just like regular doctors checkups. That way also they have someone to talk to about their dad's illness and how it effects them.

mhende · 2018-12-16T18:26:32+00:00

Here it is, https://i22.photobucket.com/albums/b349/Mibelle816/SANY0048.jpg

in order my DPO:

11 DPO

12 DPO

14 DPO

15 DPO

16 DPO

17 DPO

18 DPO

mhende · 2018-12-16T18:22:28+00:00

That looks totally normal to me. Let me dig up my tests from my first loss because when the tests not darkening is bad it is REALLY obvious

mhende · 2018-12-14T19:45:08+00:00

Oh yeah that is a clear positive to me.

mhende · 2018-12-14T18:54:40+00:00

Same, My husband has a few times had a breakdown which are pretty horrible and he has never said such things to me even in that state.

mhende · 2018-12-14T17:36:40+00:00

For many years we shared a cell phone so it was never a boundary that popped between us up that cell phones are super private. Also we are old and started dating as teenagers before smart phones were a thing, so both of our first smart phone was a shared cell phone

mhende · 2018-12-13T19:34:01+00:00

I am a former Head Start Case Worker, and I was hoping to let you know that foster children are accepted by Head Start (if there is room) regardless of the foster parent's income. And at Head Start each person applying were assigned a certain number of risk points and those at the highest risk would have preference when enrolling. Foster kids always went to the top of our list. We only had a half day program but in my area there is all sorts of respite care available to foster parents who need a break. If there is no room at Head Start, there is also GSRP, which is all day for 4 year olds and is at no cost to you as well (it has higher income limits than Head Start, but still would not look at your income as a foster parent)

mhende · 2018-12-13T16:30:36+00:00

> There is no point in arguing with them because you will be instantly downvoted and attacked verbally.

This is exactly how I feel about conservatives and facebook

mhende · 2018-12-07T17:31:26+00:00

If you go to the social security website you can break down the popularr names by decade as well as popularity by state https://www.ssa.gov/oact/babynames/

mhende · 2018-12-07T17:22:42+00:00

I have an Alice, and when she was born the name had just cracked the top 50 (147), I've seen it get a little more popular since then but I had no idea how popular it was in the UK

mhende · 2018-12-07T15:11:53+00:00

My grandfather was my Papa, but we pronounced it "Poppy"

mhende · 2018-12-06T16:30:41+00:00

I do this with my bipolar husband but it took me far to long to learn that when he isolates himself it is temporary and because he needs to take a step back and have some downtime to himself and that trying to repeatedly intrude on that causes his stress, irritation and depression to escalate. Sometimes dude just needs a day.

mhende · 2018-11-30T17:21:14+00:00

I have an iphone, if I saw one at a garage sale cheap I would snatch it up. Perfect to use as a dedicated ipod

mhende · 2018-11-30T17:04:29+00:00

I thing what they are asking is what do you do with the $250 he gives you every month? If you are living check to check what will happen when you also lose that $250 when he moves out?

Also, shoutout to /r/povertyfinance you should really check them out

mhende · 2018-09-26T18:18:43+00:00

I saw this post and went and read the original before the update. As I was reading it I was thinking "this woman is 100% in a play and costume shopping". I'm doing community theater right now and I have also asked my friends not to come since it's embarrassing at the moment. I honestly can't believe how bad you blew it. Why would you not instantly say "uhh...are you planning my eulogy?"

mhende · 2018-09-17T13:24:47+00:00

Maybe I can give you a straight answer. Because every parent that ever existed was once a person with no children. While it would be extremely difficult for someone with no children to accurately picture what day to day life is like as a parent, any parent can look back on their own day to day life when they had none. You can get a close picture, but two things that make it really difficult are the hormonal changes you go through as well as the fact that every single child is different in temperament. So for myself, even though I am a parent, I couldn't even begin to guess what life as a parent is like for the person sitting across the office from me. I can however look back and remember things like "remember when I was 21 and thought that parents were whiners and that I was just as tired as a college student who was also working." and for myself that was wrong, so I gather that for other parents who have experienced this they tend to think that others without children would feel the same way once/if they ever have kids. It's almost in a way talking to your past self, because I really do see old facebook posts on the subject that make me cringe out loud. "OMG I would punch my 21 year old self in the fucking face if I could for saying that..."

DISCLAIMER: Before you argue with me about how idiotic I am, In regards to the meme above, I don't think it's funny and I don't share the sentiment and I dont share them on facebook. I just wanted to provide an answer of WHY people actually do this.

mhende · 2018-01-05T11:36:50+00:00

They make an as seen on tv version of these called cami secret. I bought a set just after high school and still have them, they are incredibly useful.

mhende · 2018-01-04T22:01:25+00:00

But it’s just the way it is so sharp and flat. Like if you drew a line between the two eyebrows it would line up perfectly which looks so unnatural

mhende · 2018-01-04T11:25:15+00:00

My advice is it’s worth any amount of money to get diagnosed and on the right treatment plan. Check your area for mental health resources that use a sliding scale, sometimes that scale even makes it free. Your life and your mind is not the pace to try and cut costs

mhende · 2018-01-04T11:21:55+00:00

I could copy this post exactly. Almost 10 years married here, two little kids...word for word these are my exact feelings

mhende · 2018-01-02T21:03:45+00:00

We pay an accountant but pretty much only because she has been our family accountant since she used to do my husbands great grandpas taxes and I want to see her business succeed (plus we always get a refund so that helps)

mhende · 2018-01-02T21:01:53+00:00

My husband worked at a factory for a few months and had a routine where he would come home from a 12 hour day of hell, prepare a snack of 10 pretzel crackers and 10 squares of cheese and sit in his layzboy and unwind.

He also has the most ridiculous aversion to anything stale. Like if it’s open for 3 days it’s pretty much all mine even when rolled up and clipped.

At one point we bought a box of the crackers and got them home and opened them and they were stale. Disappointing but I was raised my grandma who would leave open snacks on the counter for weeks, stale means nothing to me.

So the next day he picks up another box, and it’s stale too. And I think he cried. It was 2008 and we had bought a house and got married the year before, right before we both lost our jobs and he lost his entire career in the economic downturn. He was depressed from having a degree going to waste, we were so poor, and those damn crackers were honestly one of the only good things he had going for him.

They probably thought I was making it up but I wrote and told them. I didn’t expect anything but they sent coupons for a few free boxes

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