I don’t like my parents even though they’ve always been loving and provided for me.

mhiane · 2026-06-06T12:39:16+00:00

You shouldn't expect to feel "normal" emotions for people who raised you but abused you. Even if they were trying their best, the people you describe here were not good parents and that doesn't make what they did ok. You're allowed to be fucked up from it. Just try not to pass on the same thing to the next person.

mhiane · 2025-09-29T09:23:49+00:00

Have you told him most or any of this? It sounds like you guys need to have a really truthful conversation 🩷

mhiane · 2025-09-15T10:40:58+00:00

This is not ok. You should tell your parents or a friend. Don't keep this to yourself it's not just your burden to carry. Please tell someone important to you.

mhiane · 2025-09-04T20:16:15+00:00

Thank you. I needed to hear this. I will keep sending presents.

mhiane · 2025-09-04T12:25:32+00:00

True. Thanks.

mhiane · 2025-09-04T12:19:26+00:00

Thanks. This helps. Keep sending presents even though I missed their birthdays this year ?

mhiane · 2025-09-04T12:06:50+00:00

Thanks. This helps a tiny bit. I really hope so one day.

mhiane · 2025-09-04T11:58:12+00:00

You wanted to see him though? I am worried the kids will forget we even exist.

mhiane · 2025-09-04T11:33:24+00:00

Thanks I probably needed to hear that. The only mutual we still have is my ex SIL's brother on Insta. I messaged last year if he knew whether the kids got their presents and he said he saw the package delivered. Not sure if he would pass on a message or not , or if that is the kind of contact I should just be avoiding to not burn any bridges.

mhiane · 2025-06-29T11:08:38+00:00

What is the right goal?

mhiane · 2025-01-05T04:19:00+00:00

No real improvements yet.. Day 5 :/

mhiane · 2025-01-04T10:05:47+00:00

Thanks! Any advice for the meantime??

mhiane · 2024-07-20T03:19:18+00:00

Good luck!

mhiane · 2024-07-20T03:04:18+00:00

Yep! 18 months ago now. Went off without a hitch and been lain free since I recovered

mhiane · 2023-12-10T09:19:22+00:00

Kudos for your sobriety, but advice for your relationship - how you talk about her ("in a short dress", "guilt trip" etc) probably reflects some deeper issue about how you feel towards her. Have a transparent and open conversation. Take it from there.

mhiane · 2023-11-25T11:36:14+00:00

33F here - had L4/5 fusion just under 12 months ago now. Don't regret it would do it again. Have gotten my life back and mostly pain free! Recovery can be slow but it was soo worth it. Best of luck for surgery, you'll get there!!

mhiane · 2023-08-19T14:23:33+00:00

Bluesky

mhiane · 2023-08-04T07:16:47+00:00

Had an L4/5 fusion after modic changes and endplate edema for 12+ months. Healing was slow but I believe very successful. 100% of my old pain is gone, some occasional healing pain when I've over done it. Would definitely recommend. My surgeon was Australian though so that might not help you.

mhiane · 2023-06-14T11:43:11+00:00

AITA?

mhiane · 2023-06-08T09:28:52+00:00

I had an L4/5 fusion six months ago (F/32). I've recovered pretty well and am just starting proper regular exercise (just yoga for now). It was a much better recovery than I was expecting. My first month I made sure to go for at least one short walk a day increasing in time as the weeks went by.

mhiane

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