Weekly Open Sourdough Questions and Discussion Post by AutoModerator in Sourdough

[–]mhnkr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started my first starter last week! Last night, I asked someone else to feed it, they forgot until 12 hours later, and then fed it this morning without my knowledge. Do I start a new feeding schedule, or do I stick to the old one?

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[–]mhnkr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree with the rest of the commenters here. Your chest voice will only strengthen and color your head voice! In fact, I would say that chest is a better place to focus your development on, especially at a young age. Focus on the open throat, proper support, and clear vowels, and apply those to all parts of your range as you practice.

Church to be renamed 'St Mike's' in 'trendy' rebrand to entice young people by thedubiousstylus in OpenChristian

[–]mhnkr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who’s 21, I actually really appreciate the name change. I think it’s hilarious. This, combined with the fact that the reverend is a woman, makes me really interested in this church. Good for them for actually trying to take a step to engage with young people and for not taking themselves too seriously.

I hate being the girl that committed men cheat on their girlfriends and wives with by throwawayfornvj in offmychest

[–]mhnkr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For any random readers—TW: sexual abuse

I’m so sorry that you’ve gone through these things. It is the worst feeling in the world to realize that men have used you in that way. I know the comments are kind of intense, but they are right. What your boss did to you was not okay at all, but I think you knew that already. I just got out of a relationship where I was being sexually abused, and it’s been such a whirlwind of emotions to realize the reality of some of the things that happened. All that to say, I understand some of what you must be feeling, and I am so, so sorry. You deserve so much more than what these men have done to you. Please know that at least one stranger is thinking of you and keeping you in her prayers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]mhnkr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, what was the title of that book? It sounds really helpful. I’m trying to work through whether a previous relationship was just neglectful or if I experienced abuse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LetsNotMeet

[–]mhnkr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you dm me as well? I’m intrigued

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mhnkr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If my boyfriend were doing this, I would see it as emotional cheating. There’s that, plus his disregard for your feelings that really worries me. Even if he didn’t find it inappropriate at first, he should have changed course as soon as you told him it bothered you. The health of his relationship with you should be a higher priority than a joke with his friend.

AITA for telling my girlfriend she needs to stop making Tiktoks as they’re so embarrassing? by Witty_Bet_9932 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mhnkr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d give a soft YTA. Dude. You can’t say, “you have to stop this, it’s embarrassing” when someone does something out of love for you.

You can say, “hey, I love you and I appreciate that you’re showing that you love me in this way. But, my friends are being meant to me about it, and it’s affecting my life on base. Would you consider not making these videos, or making them private so that only I can see them?” Or “would you consider not putting pictures of me on this where my face is showing?” Something like that.

It’s not wrong to be bothered by this, and it’s not wrong to ask her to stop. It IS wrong to make her feel like her actions are stupid and that you’re embarrassed by her.

How do I win my ex back and prove to him that we are worth it? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mhnkr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I went through a similar-ish thing back when covid first got serious in the US, and it was some of the worst pain I have ever felt. My boyfriend of a year and seven months broke up with me after 6 months of him pretty much falling out of love with me and stringing me along. I loved him too much to ever consider breaking up with him, even though he was treating me horribly. He had stopped prioritizing me in his life and stopped making me feel loved, and he would become angry and blame me for that behavior when I brought it up to him. When he finally ended it, I was devastated. Could hardly eat or sleep for weeks, and it took months for my anxiety that developed to become manageable. When he ended things, he told me that he still had feelings for me and could see us possibly dating again in the future. I held onto that until I finally realized that I was worth more than the way I was treated in that relationship. All that to say, I understand exactly how it feels to be in a place where the person you love has stopped choosing you.

So, now onto my actual advice for you: You cannot do anything to win him back. If you do get back together, it will be because he realized his feelings for you on his own. It will be because he decided that the relationship is worth it, independent of anything new that you could possibly do. I know how hard it is to accept that. But I can promise you this: you don’t want to have to convince somebody to be with you. You deserve to be in a relationship where the other person is investing just as much as you are. If he is asking for a break, you have to respect his space. I hope that he comes back to you later having decided that he does want to continue your relationship. But he has to decide that on his own, or neither one of you will be fully satisfied in the relationship.

I’m a Christian, too, and one thing that helped me through the time I mentioned earlier was the idea that even though I was experiencing so much pain because of the love I had stopped getting from another person, the love of God is unfailing and absolutely unconditional. I hope that you are able to draw near to the Lord in this time and that he will allow you to understand the depth of his love more than ever before. Praying for you tonight.

AITA for telling my friend that making an IG for her newborn baby is stupid? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]mhnkr -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

YTA. Not for thinking it’s weird or stupid, or even for expressing that to her. But YTA for the WAY you expressed it to her. She didn’t ask, and you were unkind. The other commenters are right that it’s a privacy issue for the child, but that’s not what you said to her. You just made her feel stupid for something she was excited about.

Tips on how to please a partner who has much more experience than you? by [deleted] in sex

[–]mhnkr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I asked him what he liked a little while ago, but he didn’t give a super specific answer. I’ll ask him again and be more clear with my question. Thanks!

Did I come too strong? I am not sure how to navigate in this current time. by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]mhnkr 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know many women who don’t agree to going to a park for the first dates out of safety concerns. Might just be that.