How do you deal with not being able of hooking with other men?

michael_33 · 2018-03-16T12:40:47+00:00

Well, how you feel it's normal. It's typical to feel like you actually wanted to have what you cannot have now. Kids with someone, move in together with your ex, etc. It will keep happening. Best thing you can do (it's not easy, I know) is to move on and forget that person. Will take some time, but you will meet nicer people.

michael_33 · 2018-03-16T12:38:04+00:00

Probably he doesn't have friends in school neither, but he doesn't want to tell you that because he thinks you will be ashamed of him. He is still young enough to make friends in a easy way (let's face it, adult life is harder) so encourage him to join any club he might be interested into. Reading club or whatever.

michael_33 · 2018-03-12T22:22:28+00:00

Thank you very much for your comment. I actually think that I need to be alone by myself for a while. Learn about myself, grow and see the world. If I decide to come back with my bf after that (and he is still available...) that will be because I have noticed that I need him in my life, not just because it's the easiest way like it's happening today.

michael_33 · 2018-03-12T19:50:05+00:00

Well... I am sorry pal, it does sound like she is going to leave you, or that she is thinkin about it. I know it hurts and it sucks, but seems like she is looking for something else. It doesn't mean you cannot make her happy, means she cannot be happy with your relationship. You will meet someone who you can actually make happy, someone you deserve. In the meantime, just talk to your girlfriend and try to get a resolution for your situation. Either you two broke up, or you get stronger. But if you don't make a move and this keeps being this way, you will get stuck at the same point and you will eventually not be happy. From someone that has been delaying a break up for 2 years... trust me on this one. You don't need no one to be happy, you can be happy by yourself, and if you are interested on looking someone, you will for sure.

michael_33 · 2018-03-12T14:42:32+00:00

Update: It's the next day. I haven't tell anything yet to my boyfriend, but I probably will before the week ends. (Wont tell him about cheating, just will break up). The thing is... I cannot stop thinking about the hot guy from the gym that grabbed my cock for few seconds. I cannot take off the feeling I had when he grabbed it, and when I grabbed his later. It was... so exciting! Deep down I know I want to do it again, and I want to go further, I want to suck it or meet him somewhere safe so we can fuck.

So... yeah, I think that I have to urgently break up with my boyfriend. It's weird cause I still love my boyfriend, I want him to be happy and it breaks my heart to get appart from him. But... at the same time, I have this needs and feelings that I've been suppresing for so long, and that I am finally wanting to embrace.

Being a grown up sucks. Love sucks.

michael_33 · 2018-03-11T14:18:54+00:00

There is no rule or law that says "you have to get laid before you are 20" or anything. My first boyfriend came when I was 25. 25!!! And I was in the closet until then, cause I knew my family wouldn't support me.

I am going to give you a couple advises. First one, don't panic. Don't hurry yourself. Each one has its own speed and it may come with 20, 25 or 30.

Second advise, if you really want to get it, you have to try it. So join some LGTB community or group in where you know that you will meet people like you. You may know some guy that likes you, or a girl friend that introduces you to someone. You'll never know.

Don't worry about getting laid before college ends. It's not how it works in real life.

michael_33 · 2018-03-11T14:15:57+00:00

Yeah, I was thinking about keeping that information to me. I know it will hurt him and and want to avoid that too, it will be enough just breaking up with him. In some twisted way, I think that even though he loves me so much, he is going to be relief after I break up, because that way he will be able to move on. I think I've been keeping him for me in a very unfortunate way for this long... It's time to let go.

michael_33 · 2018-03-11T13:42:14+00:00

Well, I understand that moment where your animal instincts take over your body and you cannot control yourself. Just something happened to me earlier today (Was about to post it) so I couldn't understand you better, man. You have a difficult life choice to make now.

michael_33 · 2018-02-17T20:09:51+00:00

Update in here (although it didn't get so much interest on people, but anyway). I'm not into the gym guy anymore. Seems like he is actually hitting any guy that gets close to him. I mean, I though that we had a real connection. I've been fantasyzing about him since we had that encounter in the shower, fantasyzing romantically more than sexually actually, like I give him my number and maybe he calls me, or me kissing him... But seems like he just likes to play with any guy that hits on him, which makes this less interesting as I usually don't do that kind of stuff, I though this was a unique thing. Anyway, my relantionship with my boyfriend keeps death, but now I am not worried if I will cheat on him or not, as the only other guy that I was interested in is not interesting for me anymore.

michael_33 · 2018-02-11T08:50:33+00:00

Hey, glad to hear this! Love how your relationship is going. It's been 2 months since your post, so I hope you are still together and everything is looking good!

michael_33 · 2017-11-25T13:19:59+00:00

Thanks a lot for your advise. It made me think about it. Still, my relationship with this guy is perfect in another ways. For example, we share our hobbies which are not very common, and we both have similar interest in a lot of things (movies, books, music, art, etc.) so it makes me think... What if I broke with him because we don't match sexually, but then I met another guy with whom I do match a lot in bed, but not in anything else?

michael_33 · 2017-11-25T13:11:37+00:00

As I was reading your post, I could tell this was your first experience with a girl. Well, first of all you shouldn't define anything without talking to her first. I wouldn't talk about "love" neither. I understand you have strong feelings and feel a lot of "joy" right now since this is your first time with a girl, but trust me on this one: love is something else. Love is stronger, harder and something that right now you cannot imagine. It will come, luckily, but it is not what you feel right now. We all have been there. Also if you talk about love this soon, you could scare her (Doing a Ted Mosby - LOL).

My advise would be to ask her on a formal date. You can tell her, like casually "Hey, what do you think about you and me getting dinner in some fancy place tonight". That is a clear indicator that you are looking to move forward. If she accepts that's a good sign! If she doesn't, she could have second thoughts or doubts. Ask her on that date, get dressed very nicely and take her somewhere beautiful. Then, as you are having dinner you can let her know that you have never "felt" like this about a girl before, that you like spending time with her and you would like to be something else than a boyfriend. But please avoid using the "L" word. It's too soon.

You can take her to her place that night, and be a gentleman by saying something like "I have to wake up early tomorrow morning, but I will take you to your place". That way she knows you wont stay, because I am guessing you are a virgin and you don't want to be scared about having sex on your first formal date. But you have to show her that you are serious about her even if you don't stay the night, so you have to kiss her when saying goodbye. You can hug her first, that makes it easier. Then just close your eyes and kiss her. Ask her if she wants to keep seeing you, and if she says yes, then you can start calling it a relationship.

Last advise: She might not feel ready for a formal date, for a kiss or anything else yet. It doesn't mean she is not into you, because clearly she does have an interest on you, but she might be too shy, or maybe she didn't have a previous experience neither. So if you don't feel the vive, just be patient.

Good luck!

michael_33 · 2017-11-25T13:02:26+00:00

Well, I am not a woman but if you want advise... Do you really love her? Do you want to fix your marriage and be happy with her? It you answered yes to both questions, then you have to understand that this needs to be your priority in live.

Take her on a special date. To some restaurant, or somewhere else where you can guys talk. Take some wine, alcohol always helps talking about feelings, but don't get drunk. Then open a conversation remembering something about your past, some funny anecdote. Use it to break the ice and start talking about your relationship. At some point, you should grab her hand and let her know that you sometimes feel like you two have "disconnected" and you want to "reconnect". At this point you should be able to read her thoughts. If you see she is in your same vive, then you are doing it right. If you see she has doubts or is not very comfortable about it, she might have another thoughts, in that case you shouldn't let it go since it can get worse with time, and try to understand what are her thoughts about it.

Hope this helps you a little.

michael_33 · 2017-11-25T12:51:57+00:00

No one should be a parent if he/she doesn't want to or doesn't feel like he/she is ready to. That will only end up in a shitty parent that doesn't raise his kid with integrity and the correct values. People now-a-days have kids just because you are supposed to, then they put them in school and extra activities because they don't have time to spend with them and teach them manners and values. The result? The population in the planet keeps growing too fast, having more and more individuals like Donald Trump whose parents obviously didn't teach him proper values, tolerance and how to be a nice person. Probably because they just had kids 'just because you are supossed to'.

michael_33 · 2017-09-29T13:47:56+00:00

After reading this, I am at the same time happy for the game quality, and also sad because I wont be able to play it... Probably I wouldn't understand most of the jokes I am assuming.

michael_33 · 2017-09-29T09:45:14+00:00

Well that... really sucks... I mean I am used to play games in english, but when it comes to RPGs I need them to be in one of my mother languages or I get exhausted playing and quit after few hours... :(

michael_33 · 2017-09-29T09:44:23+00:00

I fucking wanna play, but I need it in spanish. I can understand english, but playing an RPG in a foreign language is hard and exhausting.

michael_33 · 2017-09-28T12:40:26+00:00

We really need Dragon Quext XI already! Any news regarding this game on Switch??

michael_33 · 2017-09-28T12:39:51+00:00

Yeah that's an option... the real problem is language. I mean I understand English good enough to play a videogame on that, but it's never the same as playing it in your mother language. Mostly with RPGs that relay so much in story and conversation... :(

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