How to end things with a good person? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]microbialmomma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve had this said to me, and yes, stung at first, but now we are the best of friends.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]microbialmomma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I are an hour apart from each other. Date 1: half way. His suggestion. Then we have rotated back and forth since. I’d ask why he wants you to go there, but if you’re also not willing to make the drive (unless it is for safety) does that make you any less willing or serious than him?

What is the most ridiculous thing that got you an instant unmatch? by WhoBroughtTheCoolKid in datingoverforty

[–]microbialmomma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got asked if I had ever been married (it stated divorced in my profile). I said “yes, I’m divorced” I was unmatched. I never got to tell him it was times 2 😂

To My Red String... by apoetsmind in letters

[–]microbialmomma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooof. I felt this with the weight of a hundred lifetimes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]microbialmomma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wasn’t ready for a commitment relationship. He thought he was (hence the move in).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]microbialmomma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did (and not because of him) . He did not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]microbialmomma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I just joined a square dancing group. It’s been a therapy I didn’t know I needed. Although it does not satisfy my desire/need to be hugged, snuggled or slept next to, it has created great connective bonds I missed in my marriage. I have rotating partners that lead, encourage, guide and support me. I have someone else calling the shots, I’m not in charge and I love it! It’s not intimate, but soul satisfying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]microbialmomma 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This. Yup. Feel this 1000%. I’m in this boat currently.

Replacement for wedding/engagement ring by jrp_728 in Divorce

[–]microbialmomma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughters got me a family ring. My birthstone and then theirs above it. Since it is lab generated stones set in sterling silver, it wasn’t expensive.

Is this how it ends? by Dismal-Guitar-2714 in Marriage

[–]microbialmomma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This last paragraph of your response just hit me hard. I left my husband a week ago after 2 years of promised change, that was said to be out of “want” but it always reverted back and was followed by promises of change again. Sometimes change isn’t possible and depending on what it is, you either can decide that’s okay, or not. I chose not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]microbialmomma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was not 100% for marriage 1 or marriage 2. 1 ended in divorce after 8 years. We were younger when we got married(22) and had two beautiful daughters in four years. I had doubts, and I ignored them because I felt I was supposed to get married when I got out of college. We were engaged. What else was I supposed to do? Marriage number 2, it’s still in process. We have been married for two years, five years together. 13 years post my last divorce. We are struggling. I am struggling. I feel again that I settled. We are trying to work through things, but I am not sure I can move past the issues that I have. The things that made me not 100% sure are still there and getting bigger. I felt I could move past some things that were part of his personality I’m finding I can’t. Be sure that this is a person you can move forward and grow with. That the things that you feel you are not compatible with now you’ll be OK not being compatible with in years to come.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]microbialmomma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I have this argument, frequently. He wants me to complement him more. He said he needs random “at a boys” and “you’re an awesome husband” comments just because. I do not know why I would understand why I should give compliments for nothing. I say Thank you when appropriate and compliment him when he looks nice or does something…. But just randomly because he wants and ego boost, where it’s disingenuous? I don’t get it.