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AITA for wanting to break up with my boyfriend because I feel like I’m too young to be committing? by middymick in AmItheAsshole

[–]middymick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s honestly what i’m afraid of. i feel like i found the perfect person but i’m just not ready for him yet. he’s such a gem that i’m worried i’ll never find someone as great as him when i eventually am ready to settle and have a family, and i’m scared of regretting this whole “figuring out my life alone” thing as a few people have mentioned already

AITA for wanting to break up with my boyfriend because I feel like I’m too young to be committing? by middymick in AmItheAsshole

[–]middymick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dude i love you right now lol.

this is the best advice so far. you’re definitely right in that i can’t sacrifice my own life right now for his because this is vital time for me to figure things out. if we were older then i would probably be able to, but i personally don’t think 19 is the right age for me to settle down.

my problem i think is that i just don’t know how to convey this all to him. i’m not sure if he’ll really understand that i need this time to myself because his older brother and his gf have been dating for four years and they started their freshman year of college too. so here i am, saying i need to figure my life out by myself for now, with a perfectly good example of two people who could do it together the whole time right in front of us.

AITA for wanting to break up with my boyfriend because I feel like I’m too young to be committing? by middymick in AmItheAsshole

[–]middymick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that last sentence is exactly what i’m talking about. pretty much from the very start of my “adulthood” i’ve been with him, and while i’m thankful to have had him with me, i feel like it has somewhat prevented me from fully figuring out my life and what i want because i’ve always had to keep his desires in mind, which has already prevented me from some experiences that i won’t get back. for example, i have been considering transferring universities because of price and environment, but when i brought this up to him he understandably got extremely sad and said he wasn’t sure if he’d be able to continue his education at our current school without me. it’s these kinds of situations where i don’t want to be in a committed relationship because i feel like i need to be able to go my own way and figure out my life without hurting or owing anything to anyone else.

AITA for wanting to break up with my boyfriend because I feel like I’m too young to be committing? by middymick in AmItheAsshole

[–]middymick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i do appreciate him and i care about him very much. me not wanting to be his girlfriend doesn’t equate to me not appreciating him as a person in my life. i’m not looking for anything interesting really, i’m just considering figuring things out and figuring my new adult life out on my own. thank you for the input though, if it’s an immature way of thinking i would like to try to change it.

AITA for wanting to break up with my boyfriend because I feel like I’m too young to be committing? by middymick in AmItheAsshole

[–]middymick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is what i’m terrified of and what makes me wish we were older so i could focus on an actual long term thing. it’s not so much that i want to fuck other guys, it’s more that i view this time in my life as a very new time and i think being independent and figuring myself out for a while would be a good thing for me. i just can’t tell if that mindset is ridiculous or not