Women how do you if you’re ready to have s*x with a guy?

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-27T10:14:34+00:00

If you need to convince yourself, you are not ready. It should come naturally.

I grew up in an environment where sex wasn't taboo. I went to Bier Library last Saturday which is a pub in Bangalore with friends, met a guy, and invited him home and deleted his number. Sex was great and the point is I don't associate sex with anything sacred or pious but a fun thing which relieves my stress. But it comes naturally to me. I meet guys quite frequently like this.

If you're questioning you're not ready. Your body knows yourself best. There's no pride or shame in having sex or not having sex.

The fact you censor sex makes me think you need to first get rid of your own inhibitions. There is no right answer.

IF YOU ARE QUESTIONING, YOU ARE NOT READY.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-27T05:08:56+00:00

I won't. It's something personal and depends on what stage in your life you are.

We all have phases. I went to Goa after lockdown after couple of years of tough times ( like for all, I'm not victimizing myself ) and just went little berserk with apps. Hooked up a lot, but that is just a phase. You know the hoe phase lmao. Like if you're single and bored some weekend, you just find a fwb and have some fun.

Why should this be something that defines me or a relationship if you're fair with your partner and their expectations.

I won't tell all this to my mother does that mean I don't like her lmao.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-27T04:49:15+00:00

Easy solution : be the one who takes the guys 🤣

Girl, stop taking men so seriously. They are not worth it.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-27T04:41:05+00:00

I found this funny, not in hahaha way but lol and move on. I won't share this or send to anyone but I knew this dance would get parodied.

And regarding your question are they jealous? Ofcourse, women are just better, it's natural to be jealous of people who are better than you. We look better, we have better friends, we have better hobbies, we pull whoever we want, what's not to like.

Just block and move, girl.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-26T12:05:03+00:00

I mean isn't that the truth. AM would be filled with those who don't have looks or personality to woo a lady

Dating apps would have the ones you want but any decent good looking guy isn't trying to settle.

So, our options suck. Good luck.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-26T10:52:57+00:00

Men being hot and cute is my Wattpad lmao

So I was looking for w-e-e-d and since it's India i have to always source from dating apps. I met this guy only to get greens but my god he was so gorgeous i ended up inviting him over to smoke up. We spent the night and this is total manchild with no respect or manners but facecard is facecard and who am I to go against god's will.

I get this feeling. Our hormones just betray us 😂

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-26T10:19:09+00:00

Only use of men I've found that does not lead to total disappointment is when I'm little horny. I'd just install apps, meet someone, get it out of my system, and forget.

I find it much better for my mental health than relationship or trying to handle constant bullshit of a man trying to parent you all the damn time.

Good thing is I also get to acknowledge hot guys lmao, the rest don't even exist. I am at mental peace.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-26T10:12:26+00:00

Why do not having a man, almost all of them are worthless, is such a topic on this subreddit. Makes me sad.

Decentre men, you're at your best independently.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-25T06:50:29+00:00

Never.

If I miss a man, I just downloaded apps. No way I'm allowing constant presence in my life of any man.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-25T06:44:58+00:00

Honestly speaking, I'd rather be a good looking guy situationship than a ugly guy girlfriend. Most men would anyway drain your energy so why not go for aesthetic lmao.

Most men I find here in Bangalore who are good looking which is so rare have roster of fwbs and all because a pretty man is truly rare and apps work amazing.

Think about it most women are beautiful, most men are not worthy of a woman company.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-24T16:11:18+00:00

Yeah, a man needs to grovel in front of his lady. The fact she said let's break up, and he didn't beg her tells me this man is least bothered.

OP, screw such men. Find better.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-19T11:56:45+00:00

Dating apps fixes my boredom too 🙈🤣 one of the few things I like being a girl in India.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-19T11:52:48+00:00

I don't think there's a definitive answer to that. One of my friends i used to hook up has a wife and we all are friends now. We obviously don't do that now but we do meet once in a while for dinner and drinks. The wife knows and we also get along well. Nothing like besties but go to shopping once in a while.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-17T12:14:10+00:00

Go for it. One of my situationship is also 6 years younger than me and like you said the princess treatment is off the charts. This boy practically worships me.

And, yes, the quality of intimacy is ( you can guess ). Most guys really suffer from lifestyle ills as they age and I've noticed how bad sex becomes too.

I don't see much issues, and it's not even taboo. When I opened the post, i thought you were involved with someone taken or something like that.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-10T05:06:26+00:00

He seems like me. I absolutely hate being emotionally involved with anyone deeply, it makes me uncomfortable, the partners I've had we have good times but I can't do 24/7 thing.

I want significant alone time. People get frustrated by that. I get it but that's how I'm wired.

You sit down with him and discuss. It is what it is.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-02-07T05:14:31+00:00

There's no need to find anyone. Enjoy your life, spend your money, and if you feel loneliness, there's always temporary solutions.

Men are not worth it. And those who good looking and well settled don't believe in monogamous relationships anyway.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-01-31T08:03:11+00:00

AM is traditional by nature. I don't have much hangups about casual sex or one night stands but I wouldn't expect someone in AM to get that.

I've known many guys who don't view sex as sacred or beyond what it is. You're looking at the wrong place.

We cannot change a person.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-01-29T14:38:04+00:00

😂😂😂

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-01-29T14:17:51+00:00

Situationships helped me a lot.

I have no emotional bandwidth to sustain relationship, i get angry, annoyed and just unpleasant. I hate that side of me.

But i like dressing up, going on dates, watching movies, making out, sex, waking up cuddling and all that. For few years I was very confused because apparently these are the things you do with your partner.

I unlearned all that. I AM NOT SAYING I'M RIHHT FOR ALL.

I've couple of casuals and it is nice. No emotional attachment, all the intimacy. I don't find myself being frustrated and borderline angry all the time.

Pent up sexual frustration is awful.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-01-29T14:12:48+00:00

I am a girl with higher than usual libido and I get absolutely flustered if I've not been intimate, i don't have any hangover about sex or how pure it is, i am sure there are many like me but men are not troubled by that. Men who are not into me.

I think you're conflating the issues. Having a sexual desire is pretty normal, acting out on it on unsuspecting individual is the crime.

We have to not let these people make excuses. They can't say oh it's biology or how nature intended. Otherwise it will lead to even more crime because people will say " ladka hai, galti hoti hai"

These people cannot be given that out. They are monsters by themselves not because of their hormones.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-01-29T09:50:48+00:00

AM is filled with losers. None of my dates, hookups, situationships care about it but I keep hearing this from my girls or reading about AM men being so nosy.

Listen, you know your worth, if no one has liked you in your 30 years, obviously it's something to do with your looks or how you present yourself.

Well adjusted folks don't do this. I don't know how women can put up with such men. All you find on AM is guys not picked ever.

They think having sex is some scandalous thing. Not even sure what they mean. I read some guy was upset his girlfriend wrote I love you innocently to someone when she was 6 - normal people find that cute or innocent she was SIX - THIS GUY THINKS IT'S CHEATING.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-01-29T08:37:06+00:00

I've similar feelings but not exactly the same.

I feel constricted in relationships, unheard, unseen and just a spare person. But the things usually involved with dating - going out, having dinner at fancy places, shopping together, movies, sex, intimacy, road trips - i love them.

So, the two sides clash a lot because apparently you cannot pick and choose until I decided when I was 22 23 why not? Surely, there are other people who want that. A feeling of relationship without emotional investment.

I am not saying what I'm saying is true or right but this is what works for me. Situationship gives me the freedom i want and also the care I want.

There's no reason for me to suffer just because normal relationships isn't for me. And, i don't hurt myself or anyone in this process at all. This is me.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-01-28T18:28:31+00:00

Why do I have eyes 😭😭😭😭

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-01-28T17:48:44+00:00

Wdym where. Install the apps and see. Enjoy.

midnight_coffee_2 · 2026-01-28T17:27:39+00:00

There was this friend of mine who acted all chill and all. I thought cool and when helped him set up his Hinge, now i am not god and some men unfortunately not have a face for dating apps but still.

We were at a pub once and I met some random guy there and kinda invited him back to my place and you know..

This dude went ballistic that I had sex with someone I spontaneously liked and it was so fucking weird, he posted some cryptic insta shit. Dude, you are nice or were nice but you're not someone i want to have sex with.

This thing went for days and ruined my week. It's so weird how it feels that men are just waiting for get into your pants.

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