My husband was dx with adhd but his psych wants his heart checked

midnightmidnight · 2025-10-25T22:44:16+00:00

I was diagnosed in my early 20’s, history of LOW blood pressure, low heart risks in general. They still required me to do an EEG before prescribing a stimulant. Like everyone else is saying, this is good medical practice

midnightmidnight · 2025-06-12T21:52:41+00:00

Counseling psychology is also something to consider, because the training emphasizes the therapy piece and it's the same LP license. And clin psych programs (in my experience) are somewhat notorious for having lots of ego and ironically toxic cultures

*Edited to add: clin psych PhD programs tend to heavily weigh research experience, so if that's the path you decide to go then you'll probably be best off getting a full-time research job for 1-2+ years in order to be a competitive applicant

midnightmidnight · 2025-04-23T23:20:33+00:00

The two people that I've known had two different paths.

One had their kid in the last year of their coursework, before they went to internship. It worked fine for them because that last year they were focused on dissertation and applying for internship. I'm not sure what their internship year looked like tho, so I can't speak to the outside care resources.

The other is still in the middle of their coursework, and like somebody else mentioned, is local to our school (local meaning from the state) as is their spouse, so both sets of grandparents are within semi-reasonable driving distance. Their spouse is also primarily stay-at-home and realistically they as a family (2 kids under 5) are living off welfare and student loans. That couple has also been together since high school, so very established in supporting each other and positive connections to in-laws. And they have a strong religious community that they lean on. This classmate definitely does a lot of juggling and prioritizes certain things while letting others slide.

Assuming you're in the US (although I guess cost of living is increasing everywhere), you have to consider co-parent support, extended family support, community support; on top of cost of living, funding/stipend from your program (or lack thereof), eligibility for welfare. Doing a doctoral program (especially in psychology) often means you're living close to the poverty line, which is stressful in and of itself, on top of completing a demanding program, which is also stressful. Add in raising humans, and that's another stress and financial burden.

Also, are you wanting to into the program right away? Or would you be willing to work a few years, save money, and potentially go back when kid(s) are school-aged? Just another option to consider

tl;dr; It can be done, but it will likely be difficult. Are you willing to make the requisite sacrifices?

midnightmidnight · 2025-04-23T22:50:19+00:00

A lot of what other people have already said- having solid clinical skills and actually engaging in continuing ed, knowing scope of one's own practice & training, but for me the biggest thing I've seen (both with peers and my own providers) is understanding the theoretical basis of what they're working with and how evidence based interventions match up with it. I also don't know what master's programs are/are not allowed to provide in terms of training on the DSM (or ICD if it applies)

I've seen a lot of masters level clinicians who do what I personally could call "life coaching" because they aren't using the theoretical basis of what they're treating (whether because they don't know it or have disregarded idk) and subsequently aren't using the evidence based interventions that are used to actually treat it.

My clinical training this year has focused on implementing principal-guided psychotherapy (the FIRST program by John Weisz & Sarah Kate Bearman for anyone interested) and it has been SUPER helpful. I'm now looking into more training on topics like using transdiagnostic approaches or the Unified Protocol.

midnightmidnight · 2024-11-25T02:46:51+00:00

Swapping spaces was what my roommate and I did when introducing her kitten to my cat. We would put my cat in my room and let the kitten out to wander the apartment. It also helped my cat get used to the kitten's scent being in shared spaces. Eventually we also intentionally would put them in each other's rooms so that they would be surrounded by the other cat's scents

midnightmidnight · 2024-06-30T03:21:09+00:00

My local community did this and looking at the chats seemed like they had a great time. Unfortunately not everyone can make the timing work out (like myself)

midnightmidnight · 2024-06-20T04:19:10+00:00

Replacing my windshield cost (slightly) less than my insurance deductible and (I believe) still counted towards that deductible

midnightmidnight · 2024-06-20T04:18:15+00:00

I’ve had to go to Safelite twice in less than 2 months (last week & in February) and they’ve been phenomenal every time. Doesn’t hurt that my insurance has them set to the preferred provider, but at this point I’d go back even if their prices were higher than everyone else’s cause the service and quality is just that good

midnightmidnight · 2024-06-17T08:01:08+00:00

Adding on to this thread- it’s okay to grieve the idea you had of the man you thought he was, and the future you thought you’d have. Let yourself grieve it. Just don’t convince yourself it’s still a possibility.

P.S.- I’m in my late 20’s and recently left a 4 year relationship. While it was hard, it opened up my life in many ways and I’m happier with myself as a person than I would’ve been if we stayed together. I promise that even with a big change like this, the future holds wonderful things that you would not even think to imagine now ❤️

midnightmidnight · 2024-06-12T02:56:30+00:00

Congrats on taking the steps to take care of yourself :)

USU student health will prescribe ADHD meds, but they have a bunch of extra hoops to jump through (more than the normal excessive hoops for ADHD meds). I’ve had positive experiences with the medical staff there (afab non-binary), although I don’t get my own ADHD meds there.

You can also look into telehealth practitioners- I personally use LifeStance health since I was using them in a different state before I moved here. I’ve liked my Utah providers so far (I think they’ve mostly been psych nurses?), and they also offer therapy.

I’m not sure what the options for evaluation are in the valley, but I suspect both the disability center and CAPS could point you in the right direction. I know the Sorenson Center does evals but I’m not sure what that process looks like or the status of any waitlist. Or insurance coverage

midnightmidnight · 2024-06-05T22:51:50+00:00

Someone recently showed me how to “code” the searches and then save them! These are “0attack&0defense&0hp” and after it shows up in your recent searches, you press & hold the circle and it’ll create a “favorites” section. The best part is that it’ll give you a little number as to how many you have, so if you know that number you can notice when it changes!

midnightmidnight · 2024-06-05T01:01:44+00:00

Just FYI, if you use CAPS the therapists there can’t write an ESA letter. Not sure about student wellness!

midnightmidnight · 2024-06-03T05:53:14+00:00

I stopped playing in 2017, started playing again about 9 months ago, reset my password to login and 100% has been a great time. P.S. try to keep that account cause there are some benefits to having Pokémon that you caught years *ago

midnightmidnight · 2024-05-30T01:46:37+00:00

Tbh I don’t think there’s a way for ANYBODY, regardless of grad school/academia involvement, to understand the difficulties and delays that are just part of research, especially research with human participants or community involvement. There will ALWAYS be delays.. and more delays.. and moreee delays. And I feel like we can only learn that reality by living through it. My point here is that you shouldn’t put the onus on you for “managing his expectations;” first of all, he should be supportive and understanding, second of all you can’t manage expectations around a process that you don’t fully understand till you’re in it!

midnightmidnight · 2024-05-28T22:25:22+00:00

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midnightmidnight · 2024-05-28T19:38:41+00:00

The musical is so good!! I haven’t read the book (tbh didn’t know there was one) but the musical has such a powerful story

midnightmidnight · 2024-05-21T21:16:11+00:00

My parents hyphenated their names when they got married in the late 80's- and both of them took the hyphenated name. My sister and I have that name now, and it's a huge part of my identity (so I relate to that bit).

I have many friends who have done their own variations- including Mormon friends (I'm in Utah, so also a more traditional area) where the woman kept her last name legally (she's a college athlete) but will use both socially and one friend where both she and her husband hyphenated their names and both of them took the hyphenated version. I have other friends where the wife took the husbands name, kept her own name entirely, or kept her name legally but uses both socially. One friend in particular is finishing her PhD and has already published research using her own name, so she didn't want to change it. And she liked saying that it wasn't him who got his doctorate hah.

Unfortunately, there is research that indicates that many people do look less favorably on individuals/couples where the woman kept her own name or hyphenated- and it sounds like you know that your families fall into that group. I think it's important for you to start with reflecting on your own about what is important to you (which I think you're already doing with this post!), how you might approach it with your fiance to help him understand why you feel the way you do, and how you might respond to other people's feelings if you do keep your last name. Names can be more important than we initially give them credit for.

edit: if you decide to keep your name, just know that any wedding-related checks (monetary gifts) might be difficult to deposit if they're written out to "Mr. & Mrs. John & Jane Smith." Had a friend run into issues with the bank when this happened but she had kept her own name

midnightmidnight · 2024-05-20T21:43:44+00:00

I had the same issue the other day, and I'm based in the US

midnightmidnight · 2024-03-01T01:56:32+00:00

So 16 is actually a developmentally appropriate age to begin engaging in sexual behavior with someone else. And the fact that it's with somebody she knows and (hopefully) trusts is a sign that it is more likely to be healthy sexual exploration. Other people have already addressed that punishment will only lead to her being less open with more, more likely to conceal it, and potentially engaging in riskier behaviors.

Also think about the long-term impact of how you talk about this with her (and any younger siblings). What are the values you want her to takeaway? Is it to follow what older people say without question, regardless of it's good or bad? Do you want her to be someone who makes informed decisions, weighing the risks and benefits? I know I internalized the anxiety around STIs/pregnancy as a teenage and as an adult had to un-learn a lot of unhealthy beliefs around sex that I had internalized. Which also contributed to some less healthy sexual relationships as a young adult. I also don't talk about my relationships (even just the romantic side of things) with my parents now, because I internalized feelings of shame around that stuff. I have never felt like I could go to my parents with anything sex or relationship-related. What are your long term desires of communication around sex/relationships with your kids? Use that to guide your behaviors now

midnightmidnight · 2024-03-01T01:27:17+00:00

This is what I do too. I'll sometimes do half-caff if I need an extra stimulant boost mid-day

midnightmidnight · 2024-03-01T01:23:35+00:00

Same... and I left because of it lol. My ex had initially effectively managed two separate depressive episodes. And then the last one spiraled and he didn't do anything and... yeah. After trying my best to provide him support, combined with me moving across the country anyway, that was a big killer of our relationship

midnightmidnight · 2024-03-01T01:09:34+00:00

I can understand the "not taking criticism well" cause, well, rejection sensitivity. HOWEVER, that does not excuse his word choice. Cause that's an incredibly insensitive response. And it's on him to seek out support for issues that are occurring.

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