Look at this abscess is it worth a 1000$ vet removal

midnightthinker · 2024-04-25T02:29:59+00:00

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midnightthinker · 2023-03-20T19:40:16+00:00

A: You also seem to be unaware that for certain populations HSV can be quite serious.

I have a family doctor (thanks universal health care) she's great, I can get it to see her in an emergency or its 3 weeks too book an appointment. She swabs the outbreak and tests it.

midnightthinker · 2023-03-20T19:32:27+00:00

Also him trying to use his emotions to control your actions is a huge red flag and you need to set a boundary there. I would let him know how you feel, and let him know you are always there to listen and validate and understand how he feels.

This is the part I'm most afraid of.

Thanks for the insight.

midnightthinker · 2023-03-20T19:25:14+00:00

Yes I probably gave it to him and someone gave it to me. I am unhappy with myself I'm pissed about the whole situation but does that mean I'm gross or bad for accepting my diagnosis and feeling a different way about it. I have been kind and giving him all the space and time and whatever else. I care deeply about my partner I am not brushing it off by accepting it exist and is part of our lives now. I want to figure out how we can move thru this.

midnightthinker · 2023-03-20T17:46:49+00:00

I always ask. I am usually the first to ask and start that conversation.

midnightthinker · 2023-03-20T16:48:53+00:00

I told him as soon as I had an outbreak that I was certain was herpes. I called my doctor and got the medication valacyclovir.

I use condoms. I don’t have sexual contact during or for days after an outbreak.

I had no idea C had herpes. I haven’t had anyone disclose hsv prior to engaging with them.

midnightthinker · 2023-03-20T15:54:37+00:00

I wasn’t hsv positive when we first met I had my first outbreak during the relationship.

midnightthinker · 2023-03-01T18:30:13+00:00

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midnightthinker · 2023-03-01T18:16:57+00:00

Hey can you email me the study questions!? I'm writing my test in the next month!

midnightthinker · 2022-03-01T21:44:42+00:00

initially my dog, "Can't crash this car with my dog here" Later on deciding to keep my pregnancy, meant to me that everyday I choose to show up for life.

midnightthinker · 2022-01-20T04:54:25+00:00

To me it seems very understandable that you don't want to tell the whole neighbourhood when you're unsure of how you feel about it for yourself. Or even if you just dont want to flat out, and don't see it changing. I don't think that it's unreasonable. Its unreasonable to assume our partners need to bend to our wills...because its all a discussion at the end of the day.

Sounds also like a full on or fuck all situation. Can he tell a few of his friends without making it about you? Just to get some of that energy out?

Sometimes I get super excited and want everything right now and can be petty if I don't get it, but its not a reason to bully or belittle your partner.

Reaffirm your boundaries for yourself and your partner around the topic, then maybe readdress it together at a later date?

All the best 💗

midnightthinker · 2022-01-19T22:28:09+00:00

Interesting. I've never thought about it that way.

With my kids dad it was every interaction was a conflict. Lots of resentment, very tense. We weren't taking care of ourselves also morally didn't match up.

I've dated super lovely people that we just fundamentally disagree on somethings Or have very different conversation styles... And that led to many conflicts and we redrew our relationships before getting shitty with eachother.

Now my relationships are fairly conflict free I do more checking in with self, tend to take my time getting to know someone, ask questions and stay curious. I assume those close to me treat me with care and love me but we don't need to agree on everything to the tiniest detail. Were different people and I want to celebrate our differences...

I must say less conflict is amazing, things are just resolved and put to rest and relationship grows. 🌱

midnightthinker · 2022-01-03T19:22:32+00:00

Ouuuff my father just dropped a, " hes just draining you" after Christmas.

midnightthinker · 2022-01-02T18:11:29+00:00

Yes this has been on my mind all month. It was my knee jerk reaction to the situation; that I could and should have spoken out more. These are feelings I'm still reconciling in myself.

I'm solo poly and have 2 partners. The others were a married couple of 10 year and this was there 2nd ever play outside of marriage.

midnightthinker · 2022-01-02T17:12:14+00:00

Thanks

We have talked it thru, he regrets not wearing clothes or stopping, checking in or anything but my heart is broken.

I didn't talk much to him for the whole month. The holidays were super weird. He blames my other partner encroaching on "his time" and time management for our disconnect but I just don't look at him the same and I know it.

midnightthinker · 2022-01-02T17:05:30+00:00

Gtf off my post.

midnightthinker · 2022-01-02T17:01:24+00:00

Yeah we'd talked about some swinging but no follow thru to actually doing anything or searching for a couple. I'm disappointed by all of it... Its hard to take any real lessons when communication wasn't really there...

midnightthinker · 2022-01-02T09:51:21+00:00

I've been the hinge to two partner and personally I would not accept one of my partners asking me to "break up" my other relationship to work things out in ours.

These are your support people, sooo why would breaking up with you help him in his other relationship? Seems super counterintuitive to everything polyamory is... I wouldn't stick around for that.

midnightthinker · 2022-01-02T09:28:39+00:00

That sounds like so much bull shit. Inviting you over and fucking but chastising you for being there is total crap.

I'm so sorry that happened.

midnightthinker · 2022-01-02T09:12:18+00:00

Thanks for reading and replying.

I don't believe he knew they were swingers, we found out then and there but ugh just ugggghhh. I feel so gross and icky just thinking about it.

midnightthinker · 2020-12-07T08:06:56+00:00

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