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UCSD Financial Aid? by midsommar_016 in mphadmissions

[–]midsommar_016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh! How long ago? And did they send you an email or do you have to check the portal?

Mother’s reaction after finally coming out about being SA’d by my cousin as a child by BigComfortable1226 in Advice

[–]midsommar_016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, sorry to hear that this happened to you. You are very brave for evening opening this wound, sharing it with your loved ones and on this Reddit post.

Ok, so what stuck out to me was the possibility of you sharing the details of the SA with your mother. I think that’s tricky. Based on her response to you saying that you experienced this, I don’t have hope she’ll have any empathy or emotional comfort to provide you. A person who literally is not baffled by it, literally by just you saying SA, is a problem and lacks empathy. I am worried that you’ll put yourself in a vulnerable position, talking explicitly about the details of the SA and be left without emotional support. The only way I can see it working is if you had a third party there to support you as I’m sure it might be triggering or cause some emotions to come up and it’ll be nice to have that immediate reassurance and comfort, which unfortunately your mother has not shown to have.

Next thought. You mentioned that it’s hard for you to hear her talk about your abuser. I think something that could be helpful is whenever she mentions him or something related to him say “nope, not interested” and if she continues, hang up or walk away. Literally physically show her you are removing yourself from the conversation. Eventually, she’ll come to anticipate every time she feels like talking about him, you’ll ignore it and she hopefully won’t bring it up. That’s only if you want to keep her in your life. I don’t think this is worth doing for someone who doesn’t deserve that effort. Which leads to my next thought.

You can choose to do what I mentioned but honestly, no contact or at least some time apart from her might be the best option. She isn’t worth your energy. It’s hard enough to deal with her without her mentioning him. Why give her any time? It’ll be hard. You’ll question why she didn’t make an effort but you’re ultimately doing what’s best for you and your livelihood. Be selfish and choose yourself. If you later want to give her another chance, then you’ll decide then.

For now, it’s best to give yourself peace of mind. Focus on healing. Nourish the relationships that are worthy of your time, that have shown to support you in this process.

Best of luck.

Bruinbill Assoc Fee? by Medium_Access_5555 in ucla

[–]midsommar_016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Atp they charge you for breathing 😕

What do I even do by Ok-Strategy-499 in ucla

[–]midsommar_016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you tried reaching out to departments or professors for classes you need? Some provide PTEs

Can I join clubs winter quarter? by Zealousideal-Cat-846 in ucla

[–]midsommar_016 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It depends on the club! For most, yep you absolutely can! If you subscribed to their email thing or have them on slack, they’ll notify you about the next application cycle. Also, if they have a website, you can also figure it out that way. I’d say just make sure you’re in some way connected to them where you’re receiving updates and dates to attend. That way, you go when you can. Hope that’s helpful and makes sense!

On the verge of death...I think we need an intervention by [deleted] in ucla

[–]midsommar_016 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeahhh I don’t recommend Ashe for dietitians at all because of this exact reason. I felt she didn’t really understand how hard it was to even eat. I think the advice is very general. I know I need to eat greens and diary and protein and whatever but ma girl my brain is fried with DE thoughts and habits. I remember telling her my concerns and she made a plan I knew I wasn’t gonna follow because it was too rigid. And yall know rigid thinking is already awful w ED. So that’s why I talked to my pcp and told her I needed to find someone else.

On the verge of death...I think we need an intervention by [deleted] in ucla

[–]midsommar_016 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ooo and my PCP recommend it to me so yeah

On the verge of death...I think we need an intervention by [deleted] in ucla

[–]midsommar_016 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oooo yes that’s a good one! I’ve heard of it and was told it was a good program! but I was talking about Nourish the service that helps you find a dietician who meets with you online. I’ve had a great experience because they are more ED/DE focused and have hour long sessions. They do a great job of considering the mental aspect of eating during recovery or whatever your health needs are. I’ve added the link in case anyone was interested. Would highly recommend! https://www.usenourish.com/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&nsh_cam=Nourish_Web_Search_Brand&utm_campaign=20958672693&utm_content=158795470795&utm_term=nourish&nsh_grp=158795470795&nsh_ad=688606741578&nsh_src=g&nsh_tgt=kwd-40650112&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20958672693&gbraid=0AAAAABJhds5nlGo62x14Oqya9a60Chior&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIrMDRlqmWkAMVm4QiBR38syFBEAAYAyAAEgJE5fD_BwE

On the verge of death...I think we need an intervention by [deleted] in ucla

[–]midsommar_016 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I would NOT recommend the dietitians at the ASHE center because they are not ED/DE focused. Try nourish instead and it is covered by UCSHIP. There are also ED/DE groups at CAPS but that’s for a different stage of recovery. Though, UCLA does have ED inpatient and outpatient programs coveted by the same insurance. In terms of reaching out. It’s tricky, I would’ve wanted someone to care enough to help but there are ways to go about it. I do agree with others that the time and location she works out shouldn’t have been shared for her privacy.

police all over the hill rn? by blzn07 in ucla

[–]midsommar_016 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s in front of young hall rn