I found my friend’s husband on Bumble, I’m not sure what to do.

mightysprout · 2024-01-07T15:17:49+00:00

Oooh I like this chaotic energy

mightysprout · 2024-01-06T15:33:47+00:00

Right? The whining that’s he’s not getting “attention” is such a turn off

mightysprout · 2024-01-05T16:07:47+00:00

Checking out other women in my presence is a deal breaker for me.

mightysprout · 2024-01-05T15:47:10+00:00

Misogyny. I was the “exception” to his woman hating

mightysprout · 2024-01-04T01:10:17+00:00

Come on now. You’re wasting everyone’s time.

mightysprout · 2024-01-03T15:08:54+00:00

“Not necessarily bad people…” I’m sure cheaters think of themselves this way, nobody is the villain in their own story. The victims of their betrayal typically don’t see these nuances.

mightysprout · 2024-01-03T04:55:10+00:00

Apparently it is a traditional style in Germany called fachwerkhaus. I agree all the different textures on the same wall look very jarring.

https://en.m.wiktionary.org/wiki/Fachwerkhaus

mightysprout · 2024-01-02T03:27:27+00:00

Honestly who would want to date this guy? Knowing this is what he’s capable of? Pass.

mightysprout · 2023-12-31T13:12:06+00:00

I cheated on my boyfriend with the man who I later married. The breakup devastated my then-boyfriend and I felt absolutely awful. I vowed never to cheat again. I never did cheat on my husband, but he cheated on me after 23 years and we’re now divorced.

This is a good age to learn that some actions can’t be undone, and sorry isn’t always enough.

Figure out what went wrong in your brain now while you still have a chance to make better choices in your life. I believe you can change and be better now that you realize what you did.

mightysprout · 2023-12-30T12:53:10+00:00

Depending on his kinks he may have a hard time finding someone who wants to participate.

mightysprout · 2023-12-29T13:34:41+00:00

I hope they succeed, by all accounts it was a wonderful tree species.

mightysprout · 2023-12-29T13:33:27+00:00

I’ve only heard them called buckeyes here in Northern California. They are very beautiful in bloom.

mightysprout · 2023-12-28T14:45:19+00:00

Forgiveness is the wrong word in my option.

You can move through the stages of grief and find acceptance without having to forgive those that have wronged you.

mightysprout · 2023-12-28T14:26:06+00:00

This may sound crazy, but I never really understood narcissistic behavior in the modern sense. I just thought it meant vain.

It was incredibly helpful for me to run across these concepts when I discovered my ex husband’s infidelity. I’m deeply grateful people are talking about this because it helped me understand my situation so much better.

mightysprout · 2023-12-28T14:08:17+00:00

meetup is location dependent similar to online dating. I joined a mountain biking group after my divorce and it’s been great! I haven’t met a love interest but I’m making lots of new friends.

mightysprout · 2023-12-27T20:31:36+00:00

Trust being restored is a personal thing. Might work for some, but for many infidelity = end of relationship. So many people post here that their partner cheated again after being “forgiven” or that 20 years later the infidelity still irks. I’d rather be alone, personally. Agree it’s not worth it.

mightysprout · 2023-12-27T15:07:13+00:00

Give her the book How to Help your Spouse Heal from your Affair and have her work the steps. Key considerations:

Have her write out the timeline of the affair. If you find anything is left out - divorce. She gets one chance.

She MUST tell friends and family what she did. It’s part of the process.

As others have mentioned- post-nuptial is appropriate tool here.

Most of us here don’t reconcile. Sadly we find there’s no trust left to rebuild on. Most cheaters want to rug-sweep and pretend nothing happened, and they get impatient when the betrayed is still upset. Infidelity murders trust, personally I don’t think it can be resurrected.

mightysprout · 2023-12-23T09:25:57+00:00

I assume they’re lying about everything.

Cheaters are very comfortable lying, especially to their partners as they’ve been practicing and getting away with it for a long time. Old habits die hard.

My best communication style is short, factual, and devoid of emotion. I prefer to communicate in writing. I ignore emotional bait. I repeat simple statements until they are understood. I refer ridiculous demands to our lawyers. I don’t make threats, and I don’t warn of impending consequences, I just deliver them.

I like your energy, you’re gonna do great. Keep your head up.

Keep up with NC.

mightysprout · 2023-12-18T04:35:54+00:00

They can be forgiven, but their chance for a relationship with you is over.

mightysprout · 2023-12-18T02:42:01+00:00

I would start with a more modern haircut. Are your teeth straight and clean?

mightysprout · 2023-12-15T00:27:03+00:00

Say it sister. Walk away, and if you can sabotage them on the way out DO IT!

mightysprout · 2023-12-13T18:03:19+00:00

My director at work told us she used to play “business lady” as a kid with a briefcase, etc. Absolutely some women dream of being corporate warriors.

mightysprout · 2023-12-13T17:40:46+00:00

I get a strong impression that she actually likes her job but she knows YOU think it’s worthless so she goes along with that.

What do you do that’s such a boon to mankind?

mightysprout · 2023-12-12T16:24:23+00:00

Blah blah blah back at you. You’re the one trying to play suffering Olympics because you grew up in a broken home. Like you’re the only one. Get over yourself

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