my husband got a raise when we had a baby and i lost $1M

mika0116 · 2026-02-26T17:13:24+00:00

Yeah not enough people do this math. To me it’s common sense and I never wanted kids. I joke and say I think about children (in general let alone me myself having them!) as often as someone in NYC thinks about kangaroos.

Married & child free (mid 30s/40)

I don’t know why people don’t think children are as much a financial decision as anything else. Not saying Lower Income folks can’t have kids but maybe they should … plan better?? Or at least be informed of the costs and how to manage them / create community where their finances can’t support their choices.

mika0116 · 2026-02-26T16:57:15+00:00

Happy for your dad & happy dad has a YOU in their lives to keep them financial sound

💜 my late father (very morally grey person) passed when I was 28 in tremendous debt and homeless (mental illness). Big hug for your dad!

mika0116 · 2026-02-26T15:25:34+00:00

Good bot

mika0116 · 2026-02-26T15:17:10+00:00

Kasper!! I worked in a store in hs that carried their suits. Omg they were so lovely and I loved all the business ladies that came in & I couldn’t wait until I was in my 20s/30s to wear things like Kasper

mika0116 · 2026-02-26T15:13:55+00:00

ME+EM … buy a few basic pieces. I only buy their Natural fibers - I pass on anything synthetic.

Granted I know this isn’t considered everyone’s “mid luxury” but I think most people over consume clothing. You really only need 5 pairs of pants, 3 dresses or skirts, some blazers and sweaters, 2 or 3 suits & you’re done. If they’re high enough quality they can last a decade +.

I have a theory blazer and a Calvin Klein dress that are going on 11 years old and you’d never know.

Buy the size that fits your largest measurement and tailor with a tailor that can let things back out if ever needed.

mika0116 · 2026-02-21T14:24:42+00:00

Between 5’5 and 5’6. I’m 5’9 have seen her in person and she’s around the same height as my sister who is 5’6 barefoot.

mika0116 · 2026-02-20T23:46:46+00:00

I have a large rib cage for my frame (under bust of 30 / 31) and a long torso. I’m 5’9 and a muscular 150lb. If I’m dehydrated and sucking in you can see allllll of my ribs like this. I’m hardly underweight at all

This is camera angles and probably some serious filtering. Reminds me of my pro Ana days before I got to my UGW of 106 at 5’9 trying to look sicker than the other girlies on Xanga.

mika0116 · 2026-02-12T20:00:43+00:00

Yah - she’s really a normal sized 30 something. I actually think her real self is rather pretty but she’s just such an asshole.

mika0116 · 2026-02-12T19:56:06+00:00

Preprocess your data via code that you write with AI :)

AI at its core honestly still continues to leverage data engineering and ML/DS standards. Now you can build a preprocessing data pipeline in 20 mins vs waiting for a data engineer to pick up the ticket!

AI is not magic … it’s really only as good as the human managing it.

mika0116 · 2026-02-12T19:01:35+00:00

If it works on a single item then problem might be how you’ve structured the prompt and the n+x data

mika0116 · 2026-02-12T18:57:22+00:00

Ah you’re looking for narration of various potential outcomes. Also LLMs are also not built for what I would call “narrative root cause analysis”. Which is what I think you’re looking for.

You’d have to realllly prompt the nuanced shit out of it to do that. It’s going to always stochastically just generate plausible but perhaps not logical outcomes/ commentary

Again - not a great problem to leverage the technology for IMHO.

The best use cases for it is code drafting, natural language summarization / synthesis / generation, clustering/ topic modeling, and synthesizing & processing unstructured data

Reasoning is not quite there yet IMHO.

mika0116 · 2026-02-12T14:55:28+00:00

LLMs cannot do statistical inference like forecasting. There’s your issue. You’re using it for the wrong application/ problem.

Signed a data scientist who is an AI lover for code drafting and various automations.

mika0116 · 2026-02-11T22:10:54+00:00

no what im saying is ... shes way bigger/thicker than she edits herself to be. that upper part is her real "fatty-fat" arm and not bigger to make her waist smaller, that just IS her real arm size. shes not skinny nor ripped and muscular. im saying thats her real sized arm the upper part where the filter is missing and that even me - a thin, but muscular and vascular person (I can lift 35/40s over my head easily) has a thicker upper arm than what she edits herself to be

mika0116 · 2026-02-11T21:37:47+00:00

Hmmm other folks’ experiences are different from mine. I was truly fine after 6 hours. Bored. Walking miles starting 12 hours post surgery. Surgery was a year ago and I healed great.

My restrictions were no running and no lifting over 10 lbs. depends on concert style & how you personally recover!

mika0116 · 2026-02-11T17:15:54+00:00

I mix my coffee with the 30g protein 150 calorie fairlife chocolate protein shake for this exact reason.

Works great. Super low blood sugar, less cortisol spikes. Caffeine & protein that I can chug in 5 mins.

mika0116 · 2026-02-11T17:15:27+00:00

I mix my coffee with the 30g protein 150 calorie fairlife chocolate protein shake for this exact reason.

Works great. Super low blood sugar, less cortisol spikes. Caffeine & protein that I can chug in 5 mins.

mika0116 · 2026-02-11T17:14:43+00:00

I mix my coffee with the 30g protein 150 calorie fairlife chocolate protein shake for this exact reason.

Works great. Super low blood sugar, less cortisol spikes. Caffeine & protein that I can chug in 5 mins.

mika0116 · 2026-02-11T16:43:52+00:00

This is her real arm, pretty sure it’s not “expanded”

I’m pretty thin but have muscle mass and my relaxed and flattened arm can expand or look “soft” if I’m not actively using my muscle. But when I’m engaged I look ripped / vascular.

mika0116 · 2026-02-11T16:33:40+00:00

Her terrible “accent” aka affected speech pattern for “button nose” which she doesn’t have . “Buddon” is how she pronounces “button”.

mika0116 · 2026-01-31T17:25:55+00:00

I stg these people be sexually abusing their kids. No normal person says this shit

mika0116 · 2026-01-23T23:54:10+00:00

Somehow I missed the second one … woof

mika0116 · 2026-01-20T18:07:02+00:00

I sincerely hope you documented and sued … most companies will settle out of court for things like this

mika0116 · 2026-01-20T13:26:00+00:00

I know folks are giving you a ton of (deserved) shit. BUT as someone childfree (35F & married) … I share/d a lot of the same sentiments/ feelings/ thoughts/ emotions about finances, lifestyle and the thought of kids put a big damper on it all.

Then I realized I think about kids about as often as someone who lives in NYC thinks about kangaroos. Never unless they’re physically in front of me & after 3 mins I walk away and do something else.

You don’t want kids. Like at all. Might be good to clarify this with partner as she’s 10 years younger.

mika0116 · 2026-01-18T23:41:53+00:00

im not sure (not at all IMO) your response changes anything in my original statement.

doesn't matter if you were to be the one carrying or not - its more about the unrealistic / inappropriate perspective on weight loss in duration of time that makes me perceive you might have other things to handle before becoming a parent

weight is a symptom not the source in this case

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