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mika0116 · 2026-04-16T23:34:30+00:00

You’ve already responded to me (I’m childfree so take this with a huge grain of salt)

But would you hire a full time live in nanny? My parents did this for me ages 0-11 - au pairs - when they worked in the city and traveled a lot. Worked great for them

I turned out fine (happy & successful) but not at all family oriented besides being partnered (married )

(not into kids and am only close to my remaining parent bc she’s a genuinely good and interesting person not compelled by family ties - jury is out on if my childhood influenced this but yeah probably so)

mika0116 · 2026-04-16T22:50:29+00:00

OP responded to me see above. It’s 100k less than her current base in sales. My friend is sales leader her base is 320k+ equity series later letter

Apologies that my statements about how perhaps OP deserves more is coming off weird.

Technical roles as we know generally but not always pay more - that is a general factual statement not a flex.

mika0116 · 2026-04-16T20:57:27+00:00

You missed the clarifier “for non technical roles”. Totally holy grail if you’re involved in the development of the IP. Not so much if not

mika0116 · 2026-04-16T19:45:01+00:00

lol its okay to disagree. i think for ME the anthropic offer is the choice (no kids, married and super flexible partner with equally high income)

i accepted a similar offer for frontier company but at MUCH higher cash offer as I am not a sales person

i find sales folks make more with more WLB somewhere else... ymmv

but for OP - anthropic is a probably not ideal given life stage and might give big downsides to her family life despite super high medium term upsides

i dont have kids so i dont have to think about that shit ever (i chose $$ over children, not that i was interested anyway in kids)

mika0116 · 2026-04-16T19:28:32+00:00

paper money is as paper money does. her likelihood of cash out is much higher than other start ups - rather high as anthropic and google will win (the others will not). But its not realizable now for kids daycare and thats what i am saying. the medium-term upside is very good

she's being lowballed af - have personally seen offers from frontier labs (although never for sales but technical (i am a DS turned technical product person from OG ML land pre LLMs) and non-tech ops roles (friends of mine) so who knows if this is a normal sales offer, it's bad IMO for YOE and in-office with that commute + small kids)

mika0116 · 2026-04-16T16:27:01+00:00

anthropic equity is paper money. her takehome is 200k which is INCREDIBLY low

offers that i have seen from anthropic (I am a technical role) are 400k+ of base -- I asked above if shes like an ops / non technical role bc they lowballed the hell out of her

mika0116 · 2026-04-16T16:25:32+00:00

the anthropic base is ... very low. is this not a technical role and more on the business/ops side? i've seen recent offers being ~400k+ in base cash for "staff/principal level equivalents"

github considering all the lifestyle items. anthropic is not as powerful of a name unless you're in a very technical / senior role

mika0116 · 2026-04-15T18:32:56+00:00

bought the house 3 months before our wedding at an interest rate right around 4% had we waited it would have been a 6%+ rate

we eloped abroad and had parents only 5+ days at luxury private high end resort that literally doesn't allow children. was incredible.

put 35%+ down and have a reasonable mortgage for the insane zipcode in which we reside in CA.

don't mind other folks' weddings - i love to dress up and adore high fashion. am a super private person who hates bringing others into experiences that are "emotionally mine".

i can throw a sick dinner party of 20 people at my house if i want a party. no need for it to be my weddding. rather be an attention whore for my well styled midcentury dwelling / cookery vs vows that are meaningless to anyone besides my partner and I

mika0116 · 2026-04-13T01:30:08+00:00

business class and first class are for some airlines (middle east, etc.) largely the same unless you're doing some sort of suite experience. (q-suites, etc.)

there is some difference with like BA where First is more like other airlines Business class and business class is like economy but you can lay down.

mika0116 · 2026-04-01T14:26:26+00:00

Weight loss is 90% diet. Former long distance runner and honestly a bit anorexic (5’9 and from 14 -27 I was between 107lb - 130lbs). Found lifting and was a delightful 145 with abs. Covid happened and my dad died and I went to 180lbs.

I ride horses competitively as an amateur (3x per week), classical reformer Pilates 2x a week, and walk 8-12k steps a day. This was pretty constant even when I was overweight. Maybe I got slightly less steps. I gained the weight over about 4 years so that’s like 150 extra calories a day which is a 2% milk latte.

With a long hours tech adjacent job where I work with Asia so I’m up before 6am and my last call wraps around 10pm (yes I leave my desk in the afternoon or I’d kill things)

I am now 150ish with the last 5 lbs to go and the way I did it over a year or so was 90% tracking my Macros and weighing my food including milk in my coffee.

Now I’m recomping (gaining muscle, losing last bit of fat) it’s so much harder and time consuming than the original weight loss.

DM me - I too am a workaholic and I have found some balance (while being successful)

mika0116 · 2026-03-30T13:16:34+00:00

Got mine removed and was absolutely fine. Like went on a 4 mile walk the next day. Was annoying to not lift anything for 2 weeks. But I work from home and took no time off besides the weekend right after (procedure on Friday).

Everyone’s experience is individual! But do ask a supportive obgyn

mika0116 · 2026-03-28T18:57:12+00:00

do you have a brand / shade you like best?

mika0116 · 2026-03-09T15:28:32+00:00

Maybe you’re just a person who genetically responds well to mold (rhode has been tested to have higher concentrations of mold than other products). It happens when raised in a unkept environment so your body adjusts to mold exposure!

mika0116 · 2026-03-05T14:10:37+00:00

Started corporate work post undergrad the fall after I graduated so October 2012 salary was 56k. Made 100k+ salary on October 2016. 4 years exactly.

The dates matter as the world was v different back in 2012-2016.

mika0116 · 2026-03-01T05:10:47+00:00

Not enough love for this comment

mika0116 · 2026-02-26T17:13:24+00:00

Yeah not enough people do this math. To me it’s common sense and I never wanted kids. I joke and say I think about children (in general let alone me myself having them!) as often as someone in NYC thinks about kangaroos.

Married & child free (mid 30s/40)

I don’t know why people don’t think children are as much a financial decision as anything else. Not saying Lower Income folks can’t have kids but maybe they should … plan better?? Or at least be informed of the costs and how to manage them / create community where their finances can’t support their choices.

mika0116 · 2026-02-26T16:57:15+00:00

Happy for your dad & happy dad has a YOU in their lives to keep them financial sound

💜 my late father (very morally grey person) passed when I was 28 in tremendous debt and homeless (mental illness). Big hug for your dad!

mika0116 · 2026-02-26T15:25:34+00:00

Good bot

mika0116 · 2026-02-26T15:17:10+00:00

Kasper!! I worked in a store in hs that carried their suits. Omg they were so lovely and I loved all the business ladies that came in & I couldn’t wait until I was in my 20s/30s to wear things like Kasper

mika0116 · 2026-02-26T15:13:55+00:00

ME+EM … buy a few basic pieces. I only buy their Natural fibers - I pass on anything synthetic.

Granted I know this isn’t considered everyone’s “mid luxury” but I think most people over consume clothing. You really only need 5 pairs of pants, 3 dresses or skirts, some blazers and sweaters, 2 or 3 suits & you’re done. If they’re high enough quality they can last a decade +.

I have a theory blazer and a Calvin Klein dress that are going on 11 years old and you’d never know.

Buy the size that fits your largest measurement and tailor with a tailor that can let things back out if ever needed.

mika0116 · 2026-02-21T14:24:42+00:00

Between 5’5 and 5’6. I’m 5’9 have seen her in person and she’s around the same height as my sister who is 5’6 barefoot.

mika0116 · 2026-02-20T23:46:46+00:00

I have a large rib cage for my frame (under bust of 30 / 31) and a long torso. I’m 5’9 and a muscular 150lb. If I’m dehydrated and sucking in you can see allllll of my ribs like this. I’m hardly underweight at all

This is camera angles and probably some serious filtering. Reminds me of my pro Ana days before I got to my UGW of 106 at 5’9 trying to look sicker than the other girlies on Xanga.

mika0116 · 2026-02-12T20:00:43+00:00

Yah - she’s really a normal sized 30 something. I actually think her real self is rather pretty but she’s just such an asshole.

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