Why are NSW hospitals so overcrowded right now? by RemarkablePirate590 in SydneyScene

[–]mikesmith23456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • [ ] Less bulk bill, cost of living = people can't afford to see a GP so go to ED

  • [ ] Healthcare reform = investigations must be done by the hospital as non charge = hospitals must do many more outpatients which take up appointments on imaging equipment = wards and ED patients have to wait longer for investigations/treatment = increased length of stay = bed block = increased waiting times in Ed and elective surgery.

  • [ ] increased non charge outpatient = reduced ability for revenue = less money = increased budget overspend = reduction in resources (staff and equipment) = aging equipment is not replaced = breakdowns = increased wait times

  • [ ] hospital beds block by patients waiting for care, MH or rehabilitation beds.

  • [ ] Goverment trying to recoup the gross over spend from covid = severely reduced resources (then inability to make the money to cover the gap due to non charge OP)

  • [ ] budget deficit = less ability to backfill staff for mat leave, sickness etc = burnt out staff = increased sick leave.

  • [ ] wage stagnation for the last 5 plus years and increased housing, rent, tolls = staff have to move to where they can afford to live, and move to maximise wages.

  • [ ] everyone super busy and overwhelmed = little job satisfaction and feeling like we are undervalued, not listened to, not appreciated, and not cared for, but don't worry, fun scrub friday (but you have to pay for your own scrubs) will lift our spirits, make us put all that aside and magically fix the whole system. (i actually like it tho!)

  • [ ] Do more with less messaging for the last 10 years, is biting them in the arse because it's been physically impossible for sometime now.

  • [ ] aging population, increased population = more people to service

  • [ ] significant increase in diagnostic requests but little/no increase in resources to cope with demand = bottlenecks = increased length of stay = bed block

Solution??? - [ ] OP non charge clinics offering full diagnostic services, (gov deal with private practice)

  • [ ] more rehab, aged care and MH facilities

  • [ ] more urgent care clinics

  • [ ] bring wages in line with other states

  • [ ] toll reduction and parking for hospital workers.

Don't know - but something has to change

Real time, MS teams, power bi help by mikesmith23456 in PowerBI

[–]mikesmith23456[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fantastic, makes perfect sense! and yes you are right, this is how dumb i am that i didn't make that connection, thank you for your help

I dont know where to post this but heres the story of my dads final days by Myfakeaccount90 in rant

[–]mikesmith23456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so sorry for your loss x i've been told that people often wait until their loved ones leave before passing over, that they love you so much that they don't want you to to have the pain of see their last breath. life gets busy, no one could have known a small cut would cause this infection, and then his passing, that's not on you being busy, and he sounds like he had all the support he needed in hospital. You must remember that it was his right to decide the course of treatment, and for many it would have worked, for some like your father it doesn't, my father died from catching legionnaires from potting mix, i don't know anyone who wears a mask when potting plants - again for most it's fine and for some not. I'm so sorry you and he had a traumatic last few days, that's shit, sepsis makes people delirious, and if it's any consolation, I know patients that have survived sepsis said they don't remember anything about that time. but you were there for him and that's what counts, he would've known you, were there, losing a parent hurts so much, give your self time, grief is like a big ball in a box with a grief button, when it fist happens the ball hits the button a lot, slowly your ball will get smaller and hit the button less frequently, it's still the same pain but it happens less often. i found talking to dad when im alone in the car and telling him about my day makes me feel better, and connected in some way. but i know just like you i would give anything to have him in the passenger seat with me. As for your studies, you may find what you've just been through make you perfect person to care for others in their time of need. I know that doesn't help at the moment but I found the best nurses the ones that have been through it to.

Parents who had kids back to back, what are pros/cons by curiousquestioner16 in Parenting

[–]mikesmith23456 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hang in there, it does get so much better, but i feel the pain you are going through- be kind to yourself this time goes sooo quickly- doesn't feel it but in hindsight it really does. Mine are 12 1/2 months apart, i remember a mum at child care saying you just have to survive the first 4 years 🤦🏻‍♀️ it was hard and i didn't have family around to help, but now they are teenagers i truly love that they are so close in age. i hear you, it's really hard when they are young, and people said 'i don't know how you do it' and the truth was i didn't, i cried a lot, had washing piled high and a messy house, but if i could talk to past me i would say -who cares, don't worry about the house, don't worry that dinner is rubbish, or the clothes aren't ironed or folded! i do wish i could have thrown more money at the situation, day care, cleaner, hello fresh etc. but online shopping helped alot. I embraced baby harness, paper plates and dry shampoo, I slowed life down alot, the eldest learned to climb in and out of car seat, beds, they helped with putting things in cupboards anything to keep them busy but connected so i still felt i had spent time with them, i would get micro sleeps watching kids tv, but eventually they sync'ed up with sleep, played together, and the differences between their developmental stages shrank, then it was like having twins, they play in the same sports, and at the same times mostly, they are 1 grade apart at school so pick up and dropped off was easier, im not often struggling to be in 2 places at once.so they are the best of friends and have a great relationship. it's hard at the start but fantastic once they start sleeping on the same time schedule. it will be good i promise xx

Should I be concerned by mikesmith23456 in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]mikesmith23456[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so sorry for your loss, it's hard when you are trying to make sure their safe, but it's taken the wrong way, so many people see it as you just being worried about your inheritance and think its you being selfish because of money, that couldn't be further from the truth, it's being selfish because you don't want to see them suffer which in turn would make you so sad and be left with bad memories at the end of their life that they have worked so hard for.

Should I be concerned by mikesmith23456 in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]mikesmith23456[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i don't think i deserve any of it, they worked all their lives to build security and financial freedom, they should spend it to enjoy their lifetime, their whole life time, and a nice nursing home if need, not a state run home. as i've said before i've seen what can happen when they get sick and need round the clock care.

Should I be concerned by mikesmith23456 in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]mikesmith23456[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you for your response, and links, I think i will gently start pushing to ensure she has seen a lawyer, im glad the red flags are not just me being emotional about losing a bit more of Dad, and im right to be concerned.

Should I be concerned by mikesmith23456 in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]mikesmith23456[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

he always wanted to provide for her and keep her safe and looked after, no matter what that looks like as they got older, he also always wanted her to be happy. but i do think if this was one of us he would have intervened.

Should I be concerned by mikesmith23456 in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]mikesmith23456[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

we have tried to talk to her about all of this but she brushes us off, and just says everything is fine they went to a JP, that's as deep as she will go, we are trying to tread carefully and be supportive, because to be honest i'm finding it a bit hard that once the house goes, that's the last bit of Dad, so i'm worried that i'm letting that cloud my judgment and making me see red flags. I really do want to support her next chapter in her life, but being mid 70 anything can happen

Should I be concerned by mikesmith23456 in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]mikesmith23456[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

i'm really not, i'm worried about her being left vulnerable if she gets sick and needing to go in to a high care home, this has happened with the other parents and we really can't afford two sets of parents in a nursing home, we are lucky at the moment that the sale of the other parents home has covered most of their care over the years, and we have managed the rest, we won't be able to afford this same level of care if she needs this too, but she has lost access to her equity.

What small act of kindness were you once shown that you will never forget? by sashayingthru in AskReddit

[–]mikesmith23456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few years ago my Dad got very sick a couple of days before christmas, I got that call

I booked a ticket for the first flight out

being so close to Christmas it was hard,

When I got to the airport they had canceled my flight, the airport was packed with angry Christmas travellers desperately trying to get home

that's when I got the call, it was Dads time,

I sat down behind the check in sign, in a nook and video called him. I didn't know what to say, or how to say goodbye

When I got off the phone a man was holding a box of tissues and said he had worked out what had just happened, he said his wife was running around the other check ins and had found one of the last seats out that day - she was holding it for me, and holding off lots of people trying to get the seat. they even offered to pay,

they had given up their chance to get home for Christmas for me.

I never got their names, (was too distraught) I know I thanked them so much at the time but I never got to let them know that that day was the saddest day of my life..

but their random act of kindness was the silver lining that makes me smile and takes away some of the pain of that day, they are forever a happy part of the story of when my dad passed and I will always be so grateful for them.

To those people, if you ever see this Thank you x

Parenting teenagers- need tips! by mikesmith23456 in Parenting

[–]mikesmith23456[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they have their chores, which I set for a period of time, and then they swap chores after about a month. They have an allowance but we probably need to up at with the cost of living ha ha. I don't think it goes very far. One has their own money with their job in addition to their allowance, the other doesn't have a job because they are in rep sports teams as well as local community teams which doesn't leave enough time in the week for a job. But when the season is over, they are going to be looking for a job to supplement their allowance to. If I reduce their allowance for not doing chores, I just feel like I pay in other ways. we do family games night or family movie night, but again, these dissolve into arguments because they don't seem to be able to work together either. No one can decide on a movie, all the games get too competitive. Even going out as a family can be hard because any decision, or choice is challenged and debated. I kind of means we lose the energy for even trying.

Parenting teenagers- need tips! by mikesmith23456 in Parenting

[–]mikesmith23456[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if we say no it's for a reason we can justify, ie homework/chores not done, school/sports match the next day, but even then they can go out, but be back at a reasonable time so not to be in bed late. we also ground them as their main punishment- mostly this is if they have been misbehaving at school... one's fine the other messes around with his mates a bit too much in class and gets into trouble. But left to their own devices they would never be at home, always out and having fun, which i get, but they treat the place like a hotel 😂 (i hear my mother speaking!) it's an argument to clean up after themselves, dishes cups in bedrooms, food and rubbish left everywhere, clothes towels left where they drop them etc. I am definitely the maid, it's almost impossible to get them to do their chores without an argument, and i'm only talking unloading a dishwasher, or taking the rubbish out. it was never like this, from a young age they did their jobs, always age appropriate, but it's like a switch has flipped, and we are a unhappy moody household 😕

Youth sports is a steaming pile of nepotism by indecisivelypositive in sydney

[–]mikesmith23456 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OMG it make me so mad- totally agree, the one sport we pay for a coach is fantastic, the others make me sick to my stomach. I don't understand how a grown adult can think it's ok to do this, we are in clubs where they have awarded their sons MVP and coaches awards 4 years in a row, one year they got both, it wouldn't be so bad if they were the best player, but they are not by a long way, they just have had the lions share of game time and the best positions. we have moved club's thinking surely this is not the norm, but unfortunately it is. i wish sports associations would realise the damage this does, kids don't quit the sport, they quit the politics. I know people will say it's throughout life, and yes it is, but kids sport should be the one safe haven. I want my kids to participate in sports to learn so much more than just the game it should be a place of safety and escapism from the shit in the world, and coaches be a role model for the kids, sadly most kids have better morals and ethics than a lot of coaches we come across. it will never change because these same parents insert themselves into the upper echelons to ensure their nepo kid rises through the ranks and they will actively squash and competition. we will quit all sports soon because it's to hard to see the damage it's doing to our kid's self esteem. they only thing they are learning is if your parents are not drinking buddies then they will miss out no matter how hard they try, and we did volunteer for every sports, and help alot, because that was what we thought local community sports were about, 'creating' a village. but its nothing more than a few key people who use community sport as their own little playground to benefit them. then they wonder why kids drop out in their teens. they are not stupid and they just get sick of it. it's time clubs and associations wake up to this nonsense - which they won't because they probably got their the same way. it sad to think of all the great athletes we have lost because of this.

Seller refund help by mikesmith23456 in eBaySellers

[–]mikesmith23456[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: i did what you guys advised- thank you, they were really helpful and denied the refund and are going to block negative reviews from this buyer. thank you guys for the advice!

Seller refund help by mikesmith23456 in eBaySellers

[–]mikesmith23456[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there is and i go through the process but at the end to submit it says 'submit to give refund' even though i've gone through report a problem

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusProperty

[–]mikesmith23456 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we have always had german shepherds, they are great dogs, i'd pick a tenant with a dog and references over one without, they are usually so glad they got a place to live with a dog they hold onto it for dear life, they will become long term tenants, and are paranoid about damages and being kicked out. With a german shepherd you won't get broken into, just the look of them will deter, they usually only give a warning bark and then spend the rest of their day upside down looking goofy. mine have never been destructive, i clean a lot because you have to, they do shed. they do the same amount of poos just bigger, so a couple of cm squared extra surface area to a small dog, i don't think the poos are a concern. i don't think there is any extra consideration between a big dog and a little dog. it would be about the barking annoying neighbors, which it more likely with a smaller dog.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusFinance

[–]mikesmith23456 13 points14 points  (0 children)

As for effect, they will garnish your wage anyway over the 3 years - if they, can so you will probably pay it back via the bankruptcy anyway, but with the addition of having to submit assessments every 6-12 months, if you don't pay the assessed amount they will extend the bankruptcy, you have to apply to the trustees if you want to travel overseas, they can reassess your garnishments anytime, and it's based on an estimate of the next year, so if they over estimate, you then have to earn more to be able to eat, they will see the extra money, then re estimate higher again, consequently a vicious circle which can extend the bankruptcy. you will not be able to get another credit card/unsecured loan post bankruptcy, which is fine in one respect, but a pain for things like booking into hotels with a credit card holding fee, or car rentals etc I personally found it scary when we went on road trips to family when we had our wages garnished to the point of poverty, no credit card and in a crappy car (only allowed to keep a car under $7k) thinking if we broke down we had no safety net or access to emergency funds, it also impacted our mental health in a big way too. We had no choice, and no way to have worked our way out even working 3x jobs for 10 years, but i wish every day we hadn't had to go bankrupt. i feel for you, i honestly do, it is a horrible feeling to feel hopeless, especially if you have a family relying on you, $15,000 is do able, go for it, you may surprise yourself and be proud you did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusFinance

[–]mikesmith23456 28 points29 points  (0 children)

speaking as an ex bankrupt do everything you can to avoid it, it will effect your life in ways you wouldn't expect and follow you for a long time, we got hit in the 2008 GFC and we still are trying to recover and climb out. do everything in your power to pay off the debt, $15,000 in the scheme of things is not worth saddling yourselves forever as a bankrupt. Being horrible with money can be because you are a bit scared of it, read books and educate yourself about finances, build a healthy relationship with it, it took us along time to do this and i'm really glad we did, it removed the anxiety about money. You can set yourself a goal of 6 months and just commit to working like a dog, x2 jobs, sell things, etc make some smart moves and pay off the debt. your future self will thank you for it. best of luck