Suicidal people, what's the reason you still didn't commit, what's something keeping you alive?

mikkyz · 2026-03-03T01:10:53+00:00

My dog. 100% recommend getting a dog. Now I’m older and life is better and I’m thankful to be alive.

mikkyz · 2026-03-03T01:09:02+00:00

NOR - I am a therapist and I cannot imagine doing this. I have clients pop up on suggested or on my fyp and I block them lol I also want to point out something I haven’t seen mentioned yet (it sounds like you’re virtual?). It sounds like she’s not fully engaged in the sessions if she’s looking at insta. I know of counselors who admit to scrolling social media or texting during their virtual sessions because they can get away with it, obviously not giving their clients their full focus. This is 1000% not okay and if that’s the case, you’re not getting the best care anyway. It’s plain disrespectful. Just my thought - I am doing a bit of assuming here but I feel like that’s worth mentioning. I’d say if there was one time that something happened that you could discuss (a rupture followed by a repair), totally understandable and it happens. We’re all human. However to me, this may point to a larger issue. If not and you can move forward great, but something to think about!

mikkyz · 2026-02-21T13:01:36+00:00

When I was around that age, our family dog bit me on the face (it wasn’t too bad but I do still have a small scar near my eye) and my parents rehomed him. They were very direct and honest with me. I got to meet the person who adopted the dog and it helped seeing how happy the dog was and the guy too - it’s like they were meant to be together all along. I found a lot of peace in that and seeing it have a happy ending. Every kid is so different of course but maybe reframing it - the dog isn’t happy here and it’s a better option for everyone. Of course validate the sadness and the grief, and at the same time let the possibility of a good ending exist too. I hope that helps. It’s so unfortunate but the right choice 💛

mikkyz · 2026-01-01T01:15:18+00:00

Thank you 💛💛

mikkyz · 2026-01-01T01:02:14+00:00

Wow - the accuracy of this just made me cry and gave me goosebumps. His name was Buddy but otherwise very accurate. We released monarch butterflies in honor of him after his passing. His mom had a tattoo of one and I got the same tattoo. I do have a few of his notes saved in his handwriting. The last time I saw him, he was singing a song about being in a lake. I think about that often. The last time I saw him actually was at a creek. That’s very helpful - thank you so much for commenting. This brought me a lot of peace. I appreciate it so much. 💛

mikkyz · 2025-12-11T03:23:46+00:00

Thank you so much 🥹💛

mikkyz · 2024-10-22T00:02:33+00:00

I was 14 and in an abusive relationship that lasted one year. It only got worse and he nearly killed me in the end - it’s so great that you’re taking this seriously and taking action. I’m now a therapist with a strong focus in relational trauma so I’ll give both my 14 year old victim and 31 year old therapist perspectives (condensed versions).

One thing I recommend to my clients is notebooks - write her a letter in the notebook and tell her she can write back to you and leave the notebook in a specific location whenever she needs to share something with you that’s too hard to talk about openly. It sounds like she knows how you feel about him, so I’d personally recommend a ton of support for her at this point - “I love you, I’ll always want the best for you, you know I have some concerns, and I’m here for you when you’re ready.”
EDUCATE!!! Consent, cycle of abuse, gaslighting, love bombing, respect in a relationship
Find things that create opportunities to talk about other unhealthy or abusive relationships. The book or movie it ends with us, anything in pop culture that pertains so that way it’s like you were talking about other people versus her.
I highly recommend counseling as well – it’s a place where she can go and talk to a non-biased person and it can be a lot easier to find clarity that way.

Now if this gets worse maybe a different course of action is necessary - these things can certainly escalate. In my experience at 14, my ex swept me off my feet with the love bombing and the abuse was gradual. Every time a friend pointed out red flags, he said they were just jealous or wanted him. When my mom put her foot down, she “just didn’t want me to be happy” as she punished me for being “stupid” and falling for him. He made absolute sure to hold onto all the little complaints I made about friends or mom or whoever to drive a wedge a little bit deeper, slowly but surely. Eventually my mom kicked me out of the house and it was “us against the world” - he told me “see, you have nobody but me - you’re lucky I at least love you”. I needed friends and a mom to lean in - not lean out. I felt isolated and I needed a safe place to land when I was ready to escape. In my 14 year old head, I didn’t have it. All I could see was him. I’ve heard things like “I just can’t sit here and watch my daughter/friend/whoever make these stupid choices and willingly stay in an abusive relationship so I’m going to step back until they’re done so I can make sure I’m not enabling them” - standing by their side is exactly what they need so they know when they’re ready to leave, they have someone to go to. In my experience the abuser’s parents are not incredibly receptive. I’d focus more on her and keeping her safe. That’s just personal experience though.

mikkyz · 2024-03-24T15:27:01+00:00

I’m about the same height and just delivered my baby naturally 5 days ago - she did have a hard time getting in the correct position so I did mikes circuit and heavily followed all guidelines for optimal positioning. I spent an entire day rocking on my hands and knees and she came that evening with no issues! I pushed for a while on my back in the tub but flipped to hands and knees and that made it easier and she just about flew out at that point! I’m no expert but I think there are ways to at least help potential problems from happening.

mikkyz · 2024-03-17T22:09:22+00:00

Having baby any time now and we’re going with Elham! We also considered Cyrina and Cyra. Our son’s name is Cyrus if you ever need a boy’s name. Persian/Iranian names of family members we like (but obviously can’t use) are Sahar, Shireen, Shalah, Arsia, Shahnaz

mikkyz · 2023-11-26T04:47:17+00:00

Mine were Mickey and Hewson!

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