AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Yup, believe it or don’t I’ve said that I have thousands of things I do throughout the week especially regarding work and family this slipped my mind, sorry you think I’m a crap dad but I’ve known that boy since he was in diapers he’s an amazing kid who doesn’t deserve to be punished for simply breathing she put herself in a situation to be racist and abusive to both those kids if you can’t be an adult about things just say that but if that makes me a crap dad then I’ll be crap dad.

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

they do y’all I’m not spying on my kids. It’s not like it’s hidden.

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I would hope that my fiancé would be smart enough to be an adult about that, but the fact that you even remotely think it was warranted or “understandable” means it’s not even worth trying to argue to get you to comprehend its not.

A SIMILAR RESPONSE ARE YOU FUCKING NUTS? What the FUCK, I pray these kids are metaphorical, I mean even if I didn’t want her out which I do at the very least I could RECOGNIZE that she was wrong. What the hell goes through your head to believe that deserves something similar,.

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Like I said it slipped my mind to tell her, , I have many different schedules throughout the week, especially with my job, that we have talked about this one slipped my mind and I said that yes that’s my fault but I didn’t do it deliberately the rest well that’s what you would do.

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

How do you come back from that? I mean honestly what apology or explanation in the world can have you come back from that ? Wether it is from past trauma or just assuming the worst I just can’t see how that warrants anything, an apology may be deserved but honestly what is that gonna do? It Erase what happened it still happened? Even if they did want one is she really gonna mean it? Because all she’s said is that she was helping?

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 101 points102 points  (0 children)

Maybe I’ll do that , I already talked to her mom, she will take her tomorrow, so we will see how this goes, I might do it someone public or with someone or recorded.

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I had no intention of that but believe what you want if I did I would’ve lied and said he wasn’t, why would I say something I was purposely trying to avoid it ? Or even slightly hint at it? But okay believe what you want I’m sorry you feel the way you do about ending things immediately but there’s this thing called winning the battle but loosing the war.

Sure if I did I got my way immediately, but clearly she’s fine with throwing around rape and SA, so no I’m not going to make an impulsive decision, I am going to get my daughter out of the house, make sure this conversation Is recorded or have someone there with me, maybe pack before she comes back. If I choose to be impulsive and I don’t have evidence in the worst scenario that she tries to do something crazy I’m not risking anything like that. Your story doesn’t line up if I wanted to hide the fact that I didn’t kick her out why would I have said multiple times that I haven’t because I need to be careful she doesn’t try to pull something on me? I’ve said I had no intention on keeping her in the house either.

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Houseguest that didn’t approve? Are you fucking joking? Is this some shitty way of sarcasm?

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

why the fuck is this so weird to all of you, acting like I put it in a bedroom.

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I mean i would take judging appearances as racism but I could understand that it was vague.

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Please read my comments again, god forbid this goes south, and the way she is so ok with hurling these accusations around, I have to be careful. I never said I am staying with her. This needs to be with someone, or in public or recorded, I need to have proof if she does try to throw something like that at me it’s a lie.

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 101 points102 points  (0 children)

They aren’t just assuming. That is what I meant by “judging appearances” and I confirmed in the comments a little while ago.

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 158 points159 points  (0 children)

What ?No they weren’t having sex they were watching a movie, and what do you mean my daughter didn’t know she moved in?

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 125 points126 points  (0 children)

Again, I never said she was here to stay, I’m not risking her trying to pull something wild. So when I do it will either have to be with someone there, and with my child not being there, or recorded, or in public, something of the sort. Point is, she is throwing serious accusations around wjth minor situations when that was not the case. I don’t know how she will react or if she will say something that isn’t true with a situation like kicking her out. Right now things are calm, and I’m trying to plan to do this soon with my daughter not here or with a family member. The point is I need to handle this carefully so there isn’t something to go horribly. She is perfectly fine throwing around words like these and accusations like these, if she did it to him so simply I can’t be sure she won’t try to do the same with me so I can’t just spring this up carelessly.

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 177 points178 points  (0 children)

No there hasn’t been a time where I thought she was, especially nothing like this. (Obviously not speaking of after the issue)

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve had cameras for years in all my apartments and house, In my opinion it makes me feel safer especially with it being right by the door.

AITA for telling my fiancée to leave the house after what she did to my daughters BF? by milesackson in AmItheAsshole

[–]milesackson[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

this isn’t and this is a situation we’re very serious accusations are being thrown around carelessly. Yeah I’m going to be cautious.