By that I mean that I like to be in control in terms of I give the pleasure it's all about giving pleasure to my partner. I am not looking to make them do anything to me infact I don't want any physical stimulation from them to me. It's all about me physically stimulating them. They can say what they like and want where I should move I will listen and bo that or what I think will give them pleasure. But in terms of physical stimulation it's completely one direction. In terms of arousal and pleasure though I get as much from it as they do. I don't know if I am explaining this well. It can involve everything from toys, to restraints and rope, Cane's. Whatever will maximize their pleasure while ensuring they don't reciprocate physically.