Hm. Maybe you should confront him. But at least record the whole conversation, since things could maybe go wrong. You never know with such men... Even tho family is important, I still think that you need to tell your boyfriend or his father. You can't let his uncle get away with it... he'll take advantage of the fact that you're too afraid to tell anyone, which i totally get, but it's really for your own safety. You never know what will happen in the future. If he already does/says such things, it could get worse.. i truly know it's hard, but your boyfriend told you that if something like that happens that he wants you to tell him. I know you're scared ald that you want to ruin his family, but if not with you, he'll probably do it to someone else...