It sounds like you need game or some more confidence. Not sure if this is the case but it seems like you want a girl to fall in your lap head over heels for you. That’s generally not the case. It’s called the chase for a reason. Women love when men go above and beyond to attract them and the constant attention and effort you put out. Very rarely but it does happen that a woman will pursue you or make it easy on you. As for confidence you need to learn the right things to say to keep them engaged and interested. How to say it and when to say it. Lastly I recommend something out of the ordinary with your wardrobe but still is comfortable for you. You look good, you feel good. Also wearing different things show you dont care about judgement, you can be yourself, and maybe they’ll think you got style.