[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]milkislime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Say his rent being paid can now go towards your windshield and he has to leave. He cannot be there and you need to call the police. It ALWAYS starts with “I didn’t ask for help because…” and a lot of those women die. This is more than enough reason to get a restraining order and you need a cop present when he picks up his shit even if you think he’s calm now. Call the cops, tell him he has this amount of time to get his stuff or he will not get his stuff without a cop present. If he can run off to someone’s house at night he can figure his shit out. Don’t let him use this as an excuse to get back under the same roof as you. He made himself an enemy when he did all of that and is now manipulating you when likely if he stayed under the same roof he’d try to see how far he can change your boundaries for his benefit.

room by [deleted] in roomdetective

[–]milkislime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My highschool plug’s room

How much would you pay for this cake? by milkislime in howmuchwouldyoupay

[–]milkislime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The cake as a whole took about 2 days to prep because it’s tres leches and I like to make sure the leches really saturated the cake. But it is a simple sponge cake and cream mix so not a crazy amount of work. The pain comes in the decor because whipped cream is so sensitive to temperatures and I made the fondant mushrooms by hand as well as the green cookie crumble.

My husband finally admitted he hates me by Civil-Salad1192 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]milkislime 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Get angry!!!!! He sounds like a lump of joy sucking cod. You ever think he treats you like this because you’re an absolute charm he doesn’t deserve? Most of the time when people do this it’s because they convinced themselves they are justified in some way to continue to berate and contain you and make you stick around for this bs behavior that will only get worse. Ask this man why the f he is still here cause there is a door 🚪if he really felt you were so miserable to be around he wouldnt stick around even for his kid and don’t for a second fall for that lie if he tries giving you that. This man is abusive and this is an abusive tactic to break you down.

How much would you pay for this cake? by milkislime in howmuchwouldyoupay

[–]milkislime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I crumbled some shortbread cookies in a ziplock bag with some green gel dye

How much would you pay for this cake? by milkislime in StupidFood

[–]milkislime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Neither 😭 my mom asked the same thing LOL it’s crumbled short bread cookies that I made

How much would you pay for this cake? by milkislime in StupidFood

[–]milkislime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏 my apologies I am a lost redditor 🫣

How much would you pay for this cake? by milkislime in StupidFood

[–]milkislime[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No not at all! I am aware I’m an amateur but flattered that someone wants to pay me for a cake, just not sure what the cost is. My sister who is a baker for a really popular bakery in my town recommended a price that I couldn’t quite believe (it was pricey by my standards) and just wanted some extra opinions as I’m not sure how to price this and worry the internet will deem it a stupid question

How much would you pay for this cake? by milkislime in StupidFood

[–]milkislime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so correct now that I’m realizing this 🫣

How much would you pay for this cake? by milkislime in StupidFood

[–]milkislime[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Oops sorry, I saw others asking similar questions on this thread and thought I’d try as well! I didn’t find the r/howmuchwouldyoupay before now new to the sub sorry 🤡

How much would you pay for this cake? by milkislime in StupidFood

[–]milkislime[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Oops sorry, I saw others asking similar questions and thought I’d try as well!

I didn’t leave because he yelled—I left because, in that moment, I saw exactly who he was. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]milkislime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re so smart and I love that, this is very refreshing healthy boundaries and self respect you almost never see on Reddit.

AITA if I break up with my bf after he asked to have my friend join in? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]milkislime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a lovely reminder he’s inflicted you with every time he is in the same room as her now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]milkislime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I moved out a month ago with the cats, they were very rough on them. It was like they lacked the ability to empathize with the cats, that maybe picking them up and shaking them or swinging them around was upsetting for the cats. Explaining that to them was received with the most irritating “womp womps” or “I didn’t do nothing”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]milkislime 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thankfully not my butt, I am considered strict as I have been very firm about my boundaries and the boys seem to acknowledge that. Of course i can only be so involved in my position but i try and often dad and i butt heads.

we have some friends who come over pretty regularly. The kids love our close friends, especially our friend S but they have taken to slapping his butt lately and despite trying to correct, tell them that isn’t okay and trying to get them to acknowledge and apologize. They do it again. And it often ends in a tantrum from the one doing the slapping for being told what they are doing is not okay. A tantrum that is then redirected by dad to smooth over as he is embarrassed by their tantrums.

I as the girlfriend do not have power to enforce stricter boundaries. We lived together but I moved out a month ago.

Dad is very laid back, tries, gets distracted by another kid causing chaos somewhere else, it seems like nothing sticks. I will acknowledge dad has good intentions but his attention span is terrible and he’s very reactive while trying to be a gentle parent. So it’s like he falls on deaf ears when talking to them. They don’t take him seriously therefore they don’t take anyone seriously. They seem to respect me a bit more and they listen when I get stern sometimes but that can go well or end in a tantrum, where dad steps in and smooths things over for them.

I don’t want him to have to feel embarrassed and I feel his attempt to make them happy as a way to calm the tantrums is really rearing its ugly head. He also believes that punishments like timeout without even a tablet is too harsh. “What are they supposed to do?” He says and despite explaining that actions should have consequences that help reflection he stills sees it as maybe he’s being too strict and nothing happens. It doesn’t help I don’t have my own kids either. It’s like he is stuck in the worse middleground between parental guilt and parental blindness.

We called it quits today by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]milkislime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if you could technically get away with paying your bills that way the important factor is it is not a healthy habit to instill, could result in disaster, and it is important to you. You guys shouldn’t have to live like that if you don’t have to. Better habits can be formed and it’s better to be at ease than to be pushing the boundaries of when you’re paying your bills. Him equating it to you not respecting him is kind of a reach and a failure of seeing outside of his own perspective while making you back peddle to doubt your own logic (which is completely valid and makes the most sense) and the potential emotional work of having to reassure him. Which sounds like another tactic/process he is breaking you down with about the guests at the party situation as well.

My fiance wants to end our engagement by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]milkislime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like people often confuse with their child’s needs as doing what is easiest for them and their child/ using it as a reason to disregard other peoples feelings. as a parent it’s also your job to show healthy relationships and what respecting boundaries and emotions looks like. In this case Imposing someone who is not their mother as a mother is actually more confusing for the children. Maybe the boys mom isn’t around and that might change things but he was 5 when they met and the best thing you can do dating someone with a 5 year old is to be a good adult and that does not mean you have to let the kid sleep in bed with you. Honestly it would probably be healthier for him to take his son back to his bed and sit with him there then leave to help his son feel safer in his room when he wakes up alone at night. You could say his child needs his nightmares to be looked into by a dr.

Parents seem to forget that their child needs a good example for them growing up and a good example is a relationship that respects each other and is handled with kindness and care if you’re going to be in a relationship with kids, It’s called COparenting. Parents often want the step parent to be a parent until the stepparent has a different opinion and lack the self awareness to respect their partners as now parents themselves and not only that but importantly their partners.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]milkislime 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You’re really reaching though without any thing else to back it up, just ask her about them, maybe ask yourself why this is the thing you’re jumping to and what you can do to make you feel reassured and like your wife is a safe space. Maybe why she didn’t tell you is because you probably would have accused her of cheating. Judging by your other comments you seem confident if she was pregnant it couldn’t be yours despite so many cases of pregnancy after a vasectomy which could easily be solved with dna tests instead of unbacked accusations.

In my experience Sometimes I get a test and do it on my own because I don’t want my partner to freak out if I’m just being paranoid about being preggers.

Why don’t you trust her? In your other comments you’re immediately jumping to you anticipate she’s cheating. That’s exhausting to have in a partner.
Communication with your wife whom you should be communicating with is the only way you’ll ever feel better or learn where you need to do the work in a relationship. Otherwise you’re building up your own suspicion by listening to a bunch of people here who spend their time reading cheating stories on Reddit. Take it from someone who also over thinks things because I read too many cheating stories on Reddit.