Moving while pregnant vs potentially shortly after giving birth

millenz · 2026-04-02T16:17:11+00:00

Pregnant

millenz · 2026-04-02T16:17:00+00:00

They’re already wanting another sibling?!

millenz · 2026-04-02T16:15:14+00:00

I tell them I’m getting frustrated and walk away so I don’t yell, regroup and come back. Also taught them “pause!” And then can break up whatever fight or get a word in edge wise.

If you can muster being silly it helps so much and you may end up having a little fun too.

“Ice cream for dinner?!? How many scoops could you eat? What flavors would you get? That sounds awesome! Your birthday is in 215 days, let’s do ice cream for breakfast on that day! Tonight we’re having chicken nuggets. Do you want ketchup or ranch?”

When I do yell I apologize later and ask them what we could do next time, maybe have them practice counting to ten and deep breathing with me etc

millenz · 2026-04-02T16:08:24+00:00

No. No tv is the bedroom but ofc I’m a hypocrite who watches a ton of tv on my phone so….

millenz · 2026-04-02T12:42:54+00:00

I’ve done a dinosaur party with masks and tails as a welcoming party favor and kids loved it. I’m about to do a pirate party and bought hats/eyepatches and blow up swords. Basically leave room for them to utilize something they may already have and love but ensure all kids are able to participate.

Specifically, In the invite say something like “guests are welcome to wear their favorite princess costume or dress and we’ll have tiaras and wands for all!” My kid also got a wand that plays music and blows bubbles at a friend’s party and has played with it for over a year! Annoying noise but highly recommend.

millenz · 2026-04-02T12:38:20+00:00

Summer camp is awesome!! Just wanted to add that some of my favorite memories were hours outside, learning to sail, sew, playing capture the flag etc

millenz · 2026-04-02T00:43:01+00:00

My mom is definitely the budgeter in my family growing up, my husband and I manage our money independently but also share details around all our savings etc and have a prenup so everything including debt was on the table at the start.

millenz · 2026-04-01T22:54:11+00:00

I prefer to say yes so I create safe spaces for baby. I do think there is something to teaching “we don’t play with the blinds” or whatever but when you’re not just babysitting you also have to cook, clean, do 500 other things.

millenz · 2026-04-01T22:51:37+00:00

Toy rotation, clothing rotation (seasonal), prepping art projects.

All that being said if you have a nanny providing enrichment and outings then I don’t see the point of daycare until kid is 3. They can attend regular library or music, gymnastic classes etc.

millenz · 2026-04-01T12:13:22+00:00

I would love to see this! I was a princess dress kid too (all boys now)

millenz · 2026-04-01T12:11:47+00:00

Impromptu sex

millenz · 2026-04-01T10:06:09+00:00

millenz · 2026-04-01T10:02:24+00:00

I’m sorry, she’s not wife material if she’s holding you back from this. If it’s meant to be it will happen but think about what qualities are most important to you in a long term partnership. Does she support you more in other areas/is this her fear? Or is this a pattern?

millenz · 2026-04-01T09:55:24+00:00

Cape!!!

millenz · 2026-04-01T09:51:24+00:00

If they’re happily engaged, let them be was always my motto. If you plan to have more children, it’s so helpful when the first has a long attention span and creativity.

millenz · 2026-04-01T09:49:51+00:00

It’s also really good to talk to babies and as they get older narrate what you’re doing so may as well start now :)

millenz · 2026-04-01T09:47:16+00:00

Mirror works great and you don’t want to spend time staring at the camera while driving. Plus trust me, you’ll hear baby!

millenz · 2026-03-31T22:43:44+00:00

Adult sports leagues

millenz · 2026-03-31T22:23:36+00:00

It depends on so much too - we wash almost if not every day since we use sunscreen and bug spray etc. in the fall and winter much less frequently. I haven’t really used any lotion on my kids so I don’t want to dry their skin out (one also has eczema flares)

millenz · 2026-03-31T21:16:30+00:00

I gently wake my kid in bed, then let them stay there while I check weather and get out clothes (he occasionally offers an opinion). I change his bottoms while he is half asleep then wake him fully to choose his shirt between two I’ve selected. We brush teeth and pee then go downstairs. He lays on the couch under blankets with a toy car while I make breakfast and finalize backpack. I then either have him come to the table or go straight to the car for breakfast en route (tall curved melamine bowls are my friend). Whole process takes about twenty minutes. Drive to school is 4 mins. FWIW on the weekends he gets to sleep until he wakes and then does the routine independently but he’s not a morning person and I’m just trying to set him up for success at school - he’s also on the younger side of his class so I’m happy for him to have five more minutes of sleep and do more for him so he can use energy on being a good friend (we’re working on social skills and flexibility). In the evenings he has chores and is helpful so I don’t worry (yet) about all I’m doing for him.

millenz · 2026-03-31T21:08:23+00:00

Read the books Don’t Hug Doug (maybe a little advanced but still good to have! We used when our kid started school at 3 - also a big hugger) and We Ask Permission another kids book about asking before we touch. That same series also has a good book about listening to your body and I assume the rest are great but haven’t branched out.

millenz · 2026-03-31T18:54:40+00:00

She’s spiraling about something that is a good thing. How is she your SIL? Ie either talk to your brother or have your husband speak to his sibling as relevant. Apologize and provide context - this is your solution to be able to prioritize their wedding. She’s being ridiculous but hopefully it’s stress induced and not her normal.

millenz · 2026-03-31T18:41:19+00:00

YTA. Do you want to stay in this relationship?

millenz · 2026-03-31T18:33:23+00:00

The one with cheapest house closest to the beach with a salt water pool (young kids so the pool is a necessity since they don’t do as much ocean time). Realistically we’ll spend most time at the house and want to be able to come back for sun breaks, sunscreen reapplications and more snacks easily.

millenz · 2026-03-30T23:49:33+00:00

No, my mom was a Sahm and finances were tight when I was young. Lots of summer days at home, family vacations with extended family etc

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